Is it just me or is real-event OCD just TOO much? Like too much guilt, too much shame, too much thinking about the past, too much regret. it’s just too much.

I completely understand. It feels as if we are what we think we are. After all, we have “solid evidence” that backs up our OCD’s claims, correct? It’s extremely difficult to have self compassion when the feelings of guilt and shame envelop you. We must forgive ourselves, admit that we are human and we inevitably make mistakes but they do not determine who we are as a person. We must look ahead and proceed to live life. Take care

It’s so draining. But if you learn to have some self compassion I promise you will be able to get past whatever it is you’re thinking about

Can real event be something you did repeatedly? Or is it usually a one time thing that you feel guilty about doing

Yeah self compassion is key. I've told people in my life so I feel better but at the time I would just confess the lies of what the OCD feelings make me feel I must have done (way overblown). As sunflowers said, you have to stop trying to figure out how bad it was. For me that's what led into me thinking I did 100x worse even though that was delusional. I'm glad to feel much less guilt and confusion than I did back then. It only started to get any better once I did self compassion, and ERP/emotional processing to ruminate about it less. Accurate realisations of "how bad" it was and the actual facts of what I was responsible for Vs not came later.

Oh god yes it is exhausting

Yesssss! I’ve done things in the past to ppl and now that I think about it, it’s not even that bad. But for some reason my mind is blowing it out of the water and making me feel like the person is going to get revenge on me. And I’ve just been feeling regret and anxiety bc I don’t know what’s real and what’s not