alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

Is it just me or is real-event OCD just TOO much? Like too much guilt, too much shame, too much thinking about the past, too much regret. it’s just too much.

"Pure" OCD

Link

Date posted: 5y

I completely understand. It feels as if we are what we think we are. After all, we have “solid evidence” that backs up our OCD’s claims, correct? It’s extremely difficult to have self compassion when the feelings of guilt and shame envelop you. We must forgive ourselves, admit that we are human and we inevitably make mistakes but they do not determine who we are as a person. We must look ahead and proceed to live life. Take care

kinginthenorth

Date posted: 5y

It’s so draining. But if you learn to have some self compassion I promise you will be able to get past whatever it is you’re thinking about

alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

is it normal to want to seek external validation for what i did? like, to tell certain people i love what i did,, to somehow get approval... even though i know what i did was wrong and horrible. It’s hard keeping it in, but i never want to confess. i don’t want to see it as a “confession” either. but.. idk.. it’s eating me away at this point

Itz

Date posted: 5y

@AlwaysHere It is very normal to want external validation

alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

@Itz Thank you! It’s so draining. I have to keep reminding myself I am not my past actions.

Itz

Date posted: 5y

@AlwaysHere My pleasure, and know this too. You are not you're worst moments and they do not define you.

martini_6710

Date posted: 5y

Can real event be something you did repeatedly? Or is it usually a one time thing that you feel guilty about doing

alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

It’s either. For me it’s both. I have something I did repeatedly, but stopped doing. And I have one that I did once, that I have overwhelming guilt for.

Itz

Date posted: 5y

@AlwaysHere I have the exactly the same but honestly talking about it did help however when I went down the rabbit hole of coffensing to my family I ended up thinking of more and more to confess to even if it wasn't bad or relavent

alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

@Itz I don’t tnink i’ll ever be able to confess, honestly. That’s too terrifying for what i did. I’d rather just keep it to myself, and learn to deal with the guilt.

Itz

Date posted: 5y

@AlwaysHere I understand that, good luck :)

Fathomable

Date posted: 5y

Yeah self compassion is key. I've told people in my life so I feel better but at the time I would just confess the lies of what the OCD feelings make me feel I must have done (way overblown). As sunflowers said, you have to stop trying to figure out how bad it was. For me that's what led into me thinking I did 100x worse even though that was delusional. I'm glad to feel much less guilt and confusion than I did back then. It only started to get any better once I did self compassion, and ERP/emotional processing to ruminate about it less. Accurate realisations of "how bad" it was and the actual facts of what I was responsible for Vs not came later.

alwayshere

Date posted: 5y

Hey, I wanted to message you again. Is there anyway we can chat? Like on skype, or email, or anything?

bebrave❤️

Date posted: 5y

Oh god yes it is exhausting

roses_are_rosé

Date posted: 5y

Yesssss! I’ve done things in the past to ppl and now that I think about it, it’s not even that bad. But for some reason my mind is blowing it out of the water and making me feel like the person is going to get revenge on me. And I’ve just been feeling regret and anxiety bc I don’t know what’s real and what’s not

Db99

Date posted: 11w

Past haunting you?

With real event OCD, I don’t know if any of you feel this way, but do you ever feel that the past event(s) that you ruminate about or constantly obsess about are gonna come up in your future and just absolutely ruin you, that’s how I’ve been feeling for months, it just feels like impending doom, and I hate having to even think that my future would be ruined by what I did as a teenager, and I did some dumb things, that I regret so deeply, I just can’t stop thinking about that.

GHOST22

Date posted: 9w

Real Event OCD

Just bombarded with the guilt of past mistakes. Not knowing the outcome of things makes it worse. Seeing things/signs that are associated with the real event I obsess about everyday. I see it in tv, you tube, songs and everything. It's so scary how it's everywhere

jc33

Date posted: 8w

real event ocd

just wanted to see if others struggle with real event ocd really kicking their a**. i feel like my mind is a constant battleground of every mistake ive made and they feel so huge and life altering to me that it’s hard to continue going on in their wake. just wondering if anyone else feels this way too.

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