- Username
- alwayshere
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I completely understand. It feels as if we are what we think we are. After all, we have “solid evidence” that backs up our OCD’s claims, correct? It’s extremely difficult to have self compassion when the feelings of guilt and shame envelop you. We must forgive ourselves, admit that we are human and we inevitably make mistakes but they do not determine who we are as a person. We must look ahead and proceed to live life. Take care
It’s so draining. But if you learn to have some self compassion I promise you will be able to get past whatever it is you’re thinking about
is it normal to want to seek external validation for what i did? like, to tell certain people i love what i did,, to somehow get approval... even though i know what i did was wrong and horrible. It’s hard keeping it in, but i never want to confess. i don’t want to see it as a “confession” either. but.. idk.. it’s eating me away at this point
@AlwaysHere It is very normal to want external validation
@Itz Thank you! It’s so draining. I have to keep reminding myself I am not my past actions.
@AlwaysHere My pleasure, and know this too. You are not you're worst moments and they do not define you.
Can real event be something you did repeatedly? Or is it usually a one time thing that you feel guilty about doing
It’s either. For me it’s both. I have something I did repeatedly, but stopped doing. And I have one that I did once, that I have overwhelming guilt for.
@AlwaysHere I have the exactly the same but honestly talking about it did help however when I went down the rabbit hole of coffensing to my family I ended up thinking of more and more to confess to even if it wasn't bad or relavent
@Itz I don’t tnink i’ll ever be able to confess, honestly. That’s too terrifying for what i did. I’d rather just keep it to myself, and learn to deal with the guilt.
@AlwaysHere I understand that, good luck :)
Yeah self compassion is key. I've told people in my life so I feel better but at the time I would just confess the lies of what the OCD feelings make me feel I must have done (way overblown). As sunflowers said, you have to stop trying to figure out how bad it was. For me that's what led into me thinking I did 100x worse even though that was delusional. I'm glad to feel much less guilt and confusion than I did back then. It only started to get any better once I did self compassion, and ERP/emotional processing to ruminate about it less. Accurate realisations of "how bad" it was and the actual facts of what I was responsible for Vs not came later.
Hey, I wanted to message you again. Is there anyway we can chat? Like on skype, or email, or anything?
Oh god yes it is exhausting
Yesssss! I’ve done things in the past to ppl and now that I think about it, it’s not even that bad. But for some reason my mind is blowing it out of the water and making me feel like the person is going to get revenge on me. And I’ve just been feeling regret and anxiety bc I don’t know what’s real and what’s not
Question, does anyone else experience real life event ocd? Like they have a lot of guilt about events that happened in the past and can’t seem to move on from it. It is related to my suicide ocd and I wish I could just move on from the past but I have so much guilt for it even though everyone is telling me to move on! I read that this could be considered real life event ocd but am just wondering if anyone else feels the same.
Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️
Anyone else have OCD about real life events and have lots of guilt over them? I know I shouldn’t but every time I seek reassurance from people (I’m trying to not do this) they tell me not to worry about it but my OCD tells me that they’re lying. Lol.
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