I thought I was doing well, but now my anxiety is going insane. I was having a pretty good day, and then I read something about how lesbian sex is better than straight sex and now I’m freaking out. I hate this so much and as soon as I’m feeling better my thoughts find another way to knock me down

Thank you. I was kind of doing my own erp with tik toks and someone posted something about how lesbian sex is better than straight sex. Being a virgin that triggered me a lot so it’s just hard.

@tolandkm I’m sure being a virgin plays into your obsessions a lot. But the truth is that even if you’d had sex with men and women, you could still end up with this theme. Have you don’t any script writing for ERP? A script about losing your virginity and discovering you’re actually gay could be a great way to tackle this particular fear.

@pureolife Maybe I will try that! Thank you for giving advice! I don’t want reassurance just bc I know it does not help, but advice is always wanted!!

What makes it worse is that I’m a virgin so I have nothing to compare it too. I’m so devastated because I want to be with men so bad but my mind is dragging me down this rabbit hole of thoughts and this so far has been the worst intrusive thought. I literally don’t know what to do anymore I feel like giving up. As much as I don’t want to be a lesbian it’s like the world wants me to be.

I understand how you feel although I have a different theme for my ocd but the anxiety and scary feeling of uncertainty is the same as yours we need to expose ourselves to our fears in order to train our brains to no longer see such thoughts as a threat but don’t worry about which sex is better I mean there’s many articles about what is better than something but just because someone says it it doesn’t mean it’s true or that you have to do it I mean there’s many people who say their country is the best or whatever product is the best it doesn’t mean you have to be from that country nor get the product it’s just nonsense keep pushing through you can heal we all can heal

@sesr Thank you for reaching out. I just feel hopeless at this point. I do need to accept the thoughts it just scares me if that I do then it means I’m a lesbian. Ugh I’m just sad

@tolandkm This is what sometimes is not understood but accepting the thoughts does not mean accepting them as true nor acting up on them, accepting the thoughts means letting them be not doing anything to suppress them or to make them go away or overthink them just accept that the thoughts exist that they appeared and just as easy they will go away and another thought will come about whatever random thing and that’s it they’re just thoughts and don’t get me wrong I’m struggling with this as well and getting used to letting the thoughts just be I haven’t figured it all out yet but I’m trying my best although sometimes I get scared and give into compulsions but please do some healthy research on this subject I assure you that the more you know about what ocd is and what it isn’t the better you will feel and it will help you decide to seek therapy and professional help I suggest doing it through this app schedule an appointment I did and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made I’m excited to heal

@sesr Thank you again. I have made an appointment for Monday and I’m ready to begin treatment. I can’t let this get in the way of my happiness!