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Like little things that you didn’t used to think were wrong?
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Yessss! It’s so difficult. Somehow I ALWAYS feel like I’m being/have been unfaithful when I’m unhappy about something in the relationship. But I get so hung up on things I’ve done in the past, even though I’ve never once cheated or come close!
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@elderflower I find with individual obsessions, resisting the urge to confess and just letting it “pass” so to speak is the way to go, or that’s what my therapist suggests. But as far as the theme itself, it’s always something. I’m just not sure ? I did do some ERP with one specific obsession and it hasn’t really come up since so maybe that’s the way to go? It’s so hard though
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Yeah trust me I get it. Literally every move that I make my brain is like “you did that on purpose you’re showing off your body you’re being unfaithful” like it’s everything. And soooo many memories keep popping up that are terrifying me. Just the classic “Maybe there was a text, maybe there wasn’t, I accept the uncertainty” would be a good mantra I think. Trust me I know how hard it is. I want to confess EVERYTHING all the time. I haven’t heard from my boyfriend today and my mind is screaming that something happened, that I did something. It’s. So difficult. But yeah it’s nice talking to someone who understands
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Exactly! It’s literally constant. I’m so glad to texting his roommate but I’m always afraid of being like, the crazy girlfriend, you know?
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@elderflower Same. Then when I do confess it’s never enough like my brain says “He’s only okay with it cause he doesn’t understand”
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@elderflower Yep. Absolutely same. I have literally been close to breaking up with him because I’m so convinced I’m terrible and I’m unfaithful and it’s not fair to him. But I’m not gonna lose the love of my life to a compulsion. OCD has taken a lot from me but it can’t take him. I read somewhere that confessing causes far more issues in relationships than the actual obsession would. Another helpful thing for me is thinking “Would someone without OCD worry about this?” And if the answer is no (I know it’s not always that black and white) then I try to treat it like OCD and not act on the compulsions
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@elderflower Exactly!! I hope you find peace, dude
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