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@Ritchie She wasn’t saying there is anything wrong with being bisexual. It is 2018, meaning so many people are really accepting. She has this theme because she has OCD, not because she’s afraid of being bi. Sexual orientation OCD is a real theme. She’s not afraid of being attractive to women, she’s afraid of not knowing her true self and not having certainty. OCD just masks the fear of that with different themes. @nicky310 my sister is a lesbian and she knew when she was in middle school. My old best friend is bisexual and she knew around middle/high school time but maybe even earlier than that, she never went into detail about it really. I really think you learn your sexual attractions around the time of puberty. That’s when we start seeing others as attractive or we get crushes and stuff. Some people “realize” it later in life but I believe they always had some attraction, at least that’s what I always hear. The relieved feeling probably came from the realization that it doesn’t actually matter, and then OCD went and ruined it for you! Hang in there.
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First things first, there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It’s 2018, get that negative stigma out your mind. Second, if you’re not sexually or emotionally attracted to girls then you are not bisexual. If you just have the thought that you might like girls but you don’t feel like taking any action towards girls then you’re not bisexual.
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Backdoor spikes are common. You’re relieved because you rationalised your thoughts, not because you’re bi. And even if (hypothetically) you were, like you said, you can just ignore your attraction to girls and stay with your boyfriend.
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Thank you so much!!! The relieved feeling came from the fact that I can still love boys and choose to ignore what OCD is telling me about girls right now ??
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That’s great progress! It’ll keep getting better if you keep doing ERP. You’re almost there, keep going!
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Definitely what 0823 said.....I’ve also know bisexual and gay people and most of them knew their whole like or right around middle school: high school. I don’t think anyone I have ever known just woke up one day and realized they were gay later in life. They’ve always known it but hid it and didn’t come out right away. I think when you reach a certain age you just don’t care anymore.
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Thanks for all the insight !!! I’m going to do ERP head first now. Lots of appreciation for wonderful people like you guys xx
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I know there’s nothing wrong with being bisexual !! I am sooo supportive of my friends who are
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I don’t feel like but my mind is telling me other wise with instrusive sexual thoughts
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Sort of a rant that probably sounds stupid and I’m kind of seeking reassurance… I’m still a relatively young teenager so I know I’ve got time to work all this out but I’m really confused about my sexuality. (I’m a girl) I’ve never been in a relationship (I don’t know if I want to be which is why I’m writing this) and sometimes I feel like I’ve never really had a crush and I just convinced myself that I did because I wanted to feel normal… but then maybe that’s false memory ocd??? I don’t really want to be in a long term relationship with a guy and idk about girls but idk if that’s just cos of my age??? Some days I hate the idea of ever dating, marrying or doing anything sexual. Other days I wish my mental / physical health was better so I could date someone! Everything I feel goes up and down a lot and idk why!? I have bad sexual intrusive thoughts that make me unsure whether anything that I think is real and my parents recently split up after not getting along for a few years. I don’t know if it’s my age, my ocd, my parents bad relationship, my sexuality (am I attracted to guys, girls? Am I ace!!!!???) Or something else but I have no idea who I am and I KNOW I’m young and have time but some other perspectives might help???? Can I ever be in a relationship if I have ocd like this? Also I’m really struggling not to compulsively seek reassurance and I don’t know who to talk to about all this irl I know I probably shouldn’t share this with random strangers but also idek if I care anymore 😭
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I’ve tried accepting the uncertainty, I’ve accepted I may be gay, bi or still straight. I’ve tried doing ERP myself to the best I can. When I accept that I’m gay or bi why doesn’t my head agree and move on? Why does it still question it? I know I don’t want to be at all. I love my family. But I just want this to move on. I want to enjoy life. Why can’t I find women attractive again? (Brief moments I do). I seriously don’t understand the false attraction? I’ve tried agreeing with it but it won’t let this drop. Why am I attracted to the same sex? Why am I attracted to people I would never thought of looking at? Why does it give me such grief about this? I know I shouldn’t look at adult content but why can I only feel good watching either lesbian or females? I tried to agree with the gay but it makes me sick and horrendous I even considered this? I just want my life back.
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Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.
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