I was doing exposures and someone said something about ‘being bisexual later in life’ and I spiked so badly. But I thought hang on if I’m bisexual it’s a relief COS I CAN STILL BE WITH MY BF WHOM INLOVE AND JUST IGNORE WHATEVER THE F IM SUPPOSED TO FEEL WITH girls THEN I spiked hard going wait why do I feel relieved?! Can I really be bi?! And then freaked out and cried... when do people know they’re bisexual? Not asking for reassurance more just education so I can continue with ERP

@Ritchie She wasn’t saying there is anything wrong with being bisexual. It is 2018, meaning so many people are really accepting. She has this theme because she has OCD, not because she’s afraid of being bi. Sexual orientation OCD is a real theme. She’s not afraid of being attractive to women, she’s afraid of not knowing her true self and not having certainty. OCD just masks the fear of that with different themes. @nicky310 my sister is a lesbian and she knew when she was in middle school. My old best friend is bisexual and she knew around middle/high school time but maybe even earlier than that, she never went into detail about it really. I really think you learn your sexual attractions around the time of puberty. That’s when we start seeing others as attractive or we get crushes and stuff. Some people “realize” it later in life but I believe they always had some attraction, at least that’s what I always hear. The relieved feeling probably came from the realization that it doesn’t actually matter, and then OCD went and ruined it for you! Hang in there.

First things first, there is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It’s 2018, get that negative stigma out your mind. Second, if you’re not sexually or emotionally attracted to girls then you are not bisexual. If you just have the thought that you might like girls but you don’t feel like taking any action towards girls then you’re not bisexual.

Backdoor spikes are common. You’re relieved because you rationalised your thoughts, not because you’re bi. And even if (hypothetically) you were, like you said, you can just ignore your attraction to girls and stay with your boyfriend.

Thank you so much!!! The relieved feeling came from the fact that I can still love boys and choose to ignore what OCD is telling me about girls right now ??

That’s great progress! It’ll keep getting better if you keep doing ERP. You’re almost there, keep going!

Definitely what 0823 said.....I’ve also know bisexual and gay people and most of them knew their whole like or right around middle school: high school. I don’t think anyone I have ever known just woke up one day and realized they were gay later in life. They’ve always known it but hid it and didn’t come out right away. I think when you reach a certain age you just don’t care anymore.

Thanks for all the insight !!! I’m going to do ERP head first now. Lots of appreciation for wonderful people like you guys xx

I know there’s nothing wrong with being bisexual !! I am sooo supportive of my friends who are

I don’t feel like but my mind is telling me other wise with instrusive sexual thoughts