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She sounds immature and ignorant. I wouldn’t call someone like her a friend. A friend should never belittle and ridicule you. You don’t need someone negative in your life to make things worse for you. Negativity will affect your OCD for the worse. She thinks it’s something we choose to have. Tell her it’s a disorder. It’s something you can’t just “quit”. In a way it’s an addiction. We are addicted to doing our compulsions to get rid of the anxiety. If she had OCD, she wouldn’t even have the audacity to say “I’ll turn it off”. Someone like her really gets me angry. But seriously you deserve a better friend. She doesn’t understand and won’t even try to understand what you say. She’s not worth your friendship.
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You need supportive friends. People who will at least try to research and understand what you are going through. She’s not a friend.
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Well if she said you should go “cold turkey” with your OCD then I say you should go “cold turkey” with her. Lol we are here for you! You’re not alone in this battle. These things are only truly understandable by those who are affected by it. Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise. Losing a friend is hard but you will find and be surrounded by supportive peers. She actually sounds like my sister. She always had this motto of “I’m older than you so I don’t have to listen to you. I’m older so I know better” which is ironic because she had a very sheltered life. I knew she was bad to be around. And now She’s one less thing I need to stress over. You deserve a healthy environment in which you can get constructive support in treating your OCD. .
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This girl has a profound misunderstanding of what OCD is. However, it also does not seem like she wants to understand. I agree with the others that she is not a helpful person to associate yourself with. Perhaps you can describe getting rid of your compulsions as working out ?? a part of your mind. You have to build up muscles to override this mental error. It’s not your fault and it’s not going to change overnight. If possible, I would try to surround myself with more encouraging people because she seems to lack compassion for you.
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If I was a b-word I would just stop. :)
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I sometimes think of it as an idea which has fallen into the part of my brain other people save for survival or high-performance situations. Like if the ARMY was preparing for war against parking tickets.
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She’s not taking you seriously.
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Thank you, sometimes it helps to see it from a different perspective. You are right about her I think. I have tried to describe it as being like an addiction but she told me I should go ‘cold turkey’ and that it can’t be that difficult. I swear to god, I think she has an answer for everything! I’ll probably distance myself from her over the coming weeks. It is just disappointing because she was a good friend for so long but as soon as I told her I had a mental illness, she never acted the same around me. Thank you for you help though, I really appreciate it ☺️
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Thank you both, it is really helpful to know that I’m not overreacting!
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Nope, you’re not overreacting. If anything she’s undermining your suffering. We are here for you ❤️
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@DollarMustache I love your analogy!
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@DollarMusctache I love your analogy too! ☺️
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- 20w
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- 16w
I have contamination ocd, and one of my compulsions is avoiding eating non-cooked food prepared by other people. I had a session with my family to plan accommodation reduction two months ago, and this compulsion was on there but we decided to focus on other accommodations first. Tonight my mom made fresh food (totally fine), but acted very offended and angry when I couldn’t eat it. I get where she’s coming from, she worked hard on the meal and it sucks that I couldn’t make myself eat it. But it also sucks that she knows this is a compulsion and can’t be understanding. Maybe I need to explain this compulsion to her better? In the family session we talked about the compulsion but not about the specific underlying obsessive thought (today my mom specifically said that I had to explain why I wasn’t eating and I didn’t). I’m really sad that OCD is affecting my relationship with her in this way.
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- 15w
hi yall im new here but not new to ocd. for as long as i remember ive had tendencies and ive had compulsions. when i was like 6 i remember counting my steps and that started this life long thing. i get looks in public because ive been touching each side of my face for the past 10 minutes because it “didn’t feel right”. about every one in my life knows i have severe ocd and that’s fine but my grandmother told my mom behind my back one night that i was ‘manipulating’ her and that my ocd could be fake. this is because i can’t take the trash out of the track can because i can’t risk getting sick from old food, i cant use cleaning products on my hands to clean them. i have no probably taking the trash out it’s just removing it from the bin. i can’t do the dishes because its not clean and ill have an anxiety attack because its just simply too overwhelming for my ocd. those aren’t the only things but the list is just too long to write out. but we don’t live with my grandmother anymore. when we did my ocd wasn’t as progressed as it is now and i was able to hide most of my compulsions and “rituals” (what i call them) in private, therefore she doesn’t see how much it can affect my every move. this happened a while ago but i keep thinking about it and i get in my head. when im really struggling it’s hard to not convince myself that i’ve been lying to myself and so many others for 18 years. all my compulsions and intrusive thoughts and the goddamn hallucinations i’ve had from ocd are in fact real but how can my own grandmother call me manipulative like i don’t get it truthfully. i cannot imagine a situation in which someone would go through the trouble of washing their hands 4 times, of blinking 16 times before shutting their phone off. rewriting a whole text to their boyfriend because i misspelt a word and so now the whole text is wrong or any other of these things i and SO MANY people who have ocd or ocd tendencies would go through the trouble because it is SO paralyzing. clearly i’m not going to explain myself to her because i don’t have that energy esspecially if she is going to ‘mhm’ me and then go again behind my back and tell my mom (who fully understands and has tendencies herself and knows i don’t make this stuff up) that im a manipulator.
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