Whatabtme
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- 5y
Soph Soph
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- 5y
It definitely is real for you, but I’m sorry that there aren’t more resources. SO-OCD follows the same pattern regardless of what sexuality you are in that it makes you question that you aren’t the sexuality you think you are/identify with. It tries to persuade you you’re the opposite of what you are, so for example being bisexual you are attracted to both genders but your ocd will say ‘but what if you’re only attracted to ONE gender...?’. Recovery still requires the same processes though.
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 5y
Yeah I hear you. It's just tough. I think what amplifies that doubt (that I must not even have ocd) is because of all the info I've absorbed online about how my sexual preferences vs my romantic must somehow inform the answer to that question of sexuality. When people speak of sexual orientation ocd and dont mention bisexuals, it gives the impression that this info doesnt apply to you or something which sends the brain spinning.
Soph Soph
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- 5y
@hanny123 Can I ask what this info online is? I’d be careful with that as OCD changes and warps your ability to trust your preferences and figure out your sexuality. Also I think sometimes the labels we use for themes in ocd can be a little harmful as the problem is all OCD, thus it doesn’t matter whether you’re bisexual, gay or straight, the ocd thought patterns are the same.
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 5y
@Soph Sorry meant to reply directly. This app is a little confusing haha!
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 5y
Yes I agree, particularly when people are calling it HOCD rather than sexual orientation OCD iit creates the impression that only straight people experience it. I guess the info online I'm talking about is the typical info from "late bloomer lesbians" onreddit, or people discussing comphet, in the reddit community theres a large faction of the lgbt community that makes it their mission to preach that bisexual women are really just repressed lesbians suffering from compulsory heterosexuality and if even some of your experiences overlap with lesbian identifying women then they think u must be in denial. Now obviously, I've thought about this a lot and see how toxic and misguided that information is because it requires a lot of assumptions, black and white thinking, and totally discounts an OCD sufferers journey with sexuality. I agree that consuming that info in the past has seriously warped my perception of my sexuality and preferences. For a while I learned to realize the toxicness of that language and it improved my happiness a lot and improved my ability to enjoy my relationship with my boyfriend. But its it's an area I have been having spikes in this past week.
Soph Soph
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- 5y
Yeah I totally understand you. I read stuff on compulsory heterosexuality earlier this week and it was the biggest trigger I’ve had in a long while; but then I tried to look at it rationally and think how whoever is writing that stuff probably has a little bit of an agenda (as they’re lesbian themselves), and that also no information online or experience of another person is able to tell us our sexuality. But suffering from ocd we immediately see info and think the dreaded ‘what if we are that’, which I just don’t bother to answer anymore as it’ll never lead anywhere.
WhatabtmeWhatabtme
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- 5y
@Soph Yeah, that's a good nugget of wisdom. To just not try and answer the what if. It really doesnt lead to anything positive, trying to answer it. Definitely an agenda there, although it's probably not intentional, but you know people seek community online and those communities won't always line up with how you choose to identify yourself.
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