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You're never going to find answers to questions. The more you seek reassurance the more you're going to have these thoughts. It's a cycle. Instead of continuing the cycle try to just stay calm when you experience these thoughts. Don't try to figure them out, because there will never be answer that your brain will accept.
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@pure093 You don't have complete control of your thoughts and feelings, but there are ways to calm yourself and not respond to them. Maybe try not to seek reassurance for awhile. Don't Google things. Try to focus on what your doing when you have the thought. Are you stressed out already when you start having these thoughts? You can teach yourself not to react, but it takes a lot of practice and self control and it's hard when you feel so out of control.
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@pure093 Yeah, just hope that helps.
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Yes! That’s one of the biggest struggles that people who suffer from hocd have.. I suffer from this sometimes too
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@pure093 Omg stop like honestly I’m trying to get help I don’t hear this
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@pure093 I believe that they will subside with erp because of the lack of attention you’ll be giving the thoughts/feelings.. just remember that you don’t have to be anything or do anything you don’t want to do.. the thoughts would make you happy instead of nervous if you were the orientation opposite to what you identify with (don’t get that mixed up with ocd trying to convince you that you’re happy with it because those thoughts again cause distress too)
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@pure093 No problem! Finding someone attractive and genuinely wanting to be with them are two different things. Anyway, I just think that you should continue living your life the way you want to live it and live it the way you feel your most authentic self, even though ocd can come in the way of that. I think the best thing to do is tell yourself that “maybe yes, maybe no”, try not to give into the fear & tell yourself that you don’t have to figure it out right now
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Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
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I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.
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