AdamRoyale
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Levin karlsonLevin karlson
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You're never going to find answers to questions. The more you seek reassurance the more you're going to have these thoughts. It's a cycle. Instead of continuing the cycle try to just stay calm when you experience these thoughts. Don't try to figure them out, because there will never be answer that your brain will accept.
Levin karlsonLevin karlson
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@pure093 You don't have complete control of your thoughts and feelings, but there are ways to calm yourself and not respond to them. Maybe try not to seek reassurance for awhile. Don't Google things. Try to focus on what your doing when you have the thought. Are you stressed out already when you start having these thoughts? You can teach yourself not to react, but it takes a lot of practice and self control and it's hard when you feel so out of control.
Levin karlsonLevin karlson
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@pure093 Yeah, just hope that helps.
KeaKea
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Yes! That’s one of the biggest struggles that people who suffer from hocd have.. I suffer from this sometimes too
AdamRoyaleAdamRoyale
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@pure093 Omg stop like honestly I’m trying to get help I don’t hear this
KeaKea
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@pure093 I believe that they will subside with erp because of the lack of attention you’ll be giving the thoughts/feelings.. just remember that you don’t have to be anything or do anything you don’t want to do.. the thoughts would make you happy instead of nervous if you were the orientation opposite to what you identify with (don’t get that mixed up with ocd trying to convince you that you’re happy with it because those thoughts again cause distress too)
KeaKea
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@pure093 No problem! Finding someone attractive and genuinely wanting to be with them are two different things. Anyway, I just think that you should continue living your life the way you want to live it and live it the way you feel your most authentic self, even though ocd can come in the way of that. I think the best thing to do is tell yourself that “maybe yes, maybe no”, try not to give into the fear & tell yourself that you don’t have to figure it out right now
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