Anybody else ever been really misunderstood by a professional or been amateur psychoanalysed by someone who "just wanted to help"? A psych student on here was complaining that people don't like when students do that and that that then makes them feel bad, but honestly it seems to me like an issue of interpersonal boundaries. They then rolled back all their previous claims that they do it, but never mind lol. The guy who tried to do it with me was way, way off and when I said things which clearly went against his hypothesis about me, he tried to force it to fit and made awful guesses. I know now that the reason I was struggling was OCD and PTSD and it pisses me off even to remember, it was the most intrusive mansplaining I've ever experienced and ended in him getting a warning from our joint landlord to stay away from me. I also saw an EMDR therapist who made weird racist comments and told me within 5 minutes of me crying and shaking that she didn't think I had PTSD (...........?). On the flip side though, the psychologist who diagnosed my PTSD also identified my OCD before I even knew anything about it which is seriously impressive, 10/10 would let that guy psychoanalyse me. But yeah, anyone ever had either an amateur or a professional just be way off-base? Sometimes my therapist misunderstands where my feelings are at about something but we have a good enough relationship to where I can clarify without feeling invalidated. She has suggested I could file a complaint against the EMDR lady but I've considered it before and don't have the emotional energy.

Ugh kinda scary how many people without self-reflective skills or an understanding of boundaries go into psychology and then do this :( That sounds shitty about the OCD experience, as soon as I realised I had it I just went to a private therapist who was a specialist because I don't think I could've handled being invalidated on it, especially as there was some real event OCD and sexual themes. It really is a specialist condition, so much of what my previous therapist did def made it worse :(

@Scoggy I agree. I went to a therapist who basically just had me talk through my fears and reassured me I liked men. Now, my only coping skill is to get reassurance which upsets me

@Yikes1000X That's hard :( reassurance has never been one I rely on that much because my themes have been so personal and I have trust issues. TW I had bad real event OCD about feeling as if sexual abuse (including my boyfriend pressuring and ignoring me when I wanted to stop sex until I would freeze up/give up) I went through was my fault/not "legit"/it's unfair to call it that etc- fairly normal in that situation but less normal to obsess about it all the time. My therapist didn't reassure me but I think actually assumed that since I felt that way, it must really be coming from somewhere- and if the guilt wasn't coming from it not really being abuse then it must be cause of something like being asexual. I literally got grilled about why I didn't want to have sex when I got raped lol, as if there was something to discover there. Which made me feel a whole new level of guilty. I so wish I'd never been to that therapist.

@Scoggy Holy shit. That is wrong on so many levels. No one deserves that. I’m glad you got away from that therapist and recognize that it was wrong what they did. Jesus.

@Yikes1000X I think she was trying to do that thing where they get you to see your own part in what went wrong, like poor boundary setting or doing appeasing behaviours, so that you can prevent ending up in the same situation. Which I totally did have issues with. But it definitely didn't boil down to being asexual ? she did drop that after the one session. But it does make me think she really didn't know what she was doing re: sexual abuse. I always knew other people tend to feel the same way but obsessed that I was the exception and must just be skewing it as abuse out of anger just to hurt my ex. It didn't make sense, I'd already had a talk in our relationship where I'd asked him to stop and he'd said he would. Plus I knew that wasn't my intention yet it felt so real? I'm glad my current therapist does both trauma and OCD, we are trying to unravel it into specific bits to work on my underlying beliefs. But man what a clusterfuck. I'm sticking with my current therapist until I die or she does ?

@Scoggy Hahaha, My therapist tried to tell me that my family gave me ocd so that was fun

@Yikes1000X Oh man, mine says that it could've been caused or triggered by trauma but idk. How did she figure your family caused it? :O

@Scoggy My dad used to joke that I was gay when I was 8, which definitely could’ve triggered this fear that I am and I’m repressing it

@Yikes1000X Hmmm well that sounds like the kind of memory that can trigger or be fuel for a theme when you remember it and it brings up the question of whether you did seem gay or he could see something in you etc. Def a lot of people with hocd have had that kind of thing from family or peers :( But I guess we can always blame our parents for our anxious genetics :P

@Scoggy Yeah, it definitely doesn’t help me? and yes, they sure did help my anxiety grow

@Yikes1000X My mother has wicked OCD lol and it is the neatness/order type and I reckon my dad has ROCD :o But I had harm OCD really young which was definitely triggered by my mother always telling me I was an awful person. I wonder what I'd be like if I'd had a stable environment ?? thanks for talking to me, it's getting my mind off being triggered about being misunderstood!

@Scoggy I totally get it! I’m glad I could help, it’s always nice to connect w other people on the app

Also sorry for your past experiences

Well she came back pretty rude at me when her original post had said over and over that she does this to people. I wouldn't know if she explained anything as she blocked me after her rant.