Cecelia B.
- Date posted
- 4y ago
bella kbella k
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- 4y ago
I totally get this. I really struggle feeling loving feelings towards my long term boyfriend. I find that remembering that I WANT to love him, is loving him. Love is a choice not a feeling, the butterfly feeling goes away and we start to get annoyed with people. But love is an action and I choice, you choose to love him. Don’t worry girl, you’ll get through this the thoughts will go away if you let them. Praying for you!!☀️
Cecelia B.Cecelia B.
- Date posted
- 4y ago
This is so meaningful. Thank you so so much! And I appreciate the prayer, too! Wanting to love him is loving him...I’m going to remember that! ?
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 4y ago
I am just beginning therapy for this. I have wondered the same thing. This has been a pattern for me in relationships where I have seen ROCD come and go in the same relationship and basically every relationship I’ve ever had. I am wondering if you have seen this same pattern in other relationships that you have had and can remember how “normal” it felt when the ROCD backed down a bit. I’m still learning too. How do you treat ROCD if you aren’t in a relationship? I am sure there is a way but really don’t know.
Cecelia B.Cecelia B.
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- 4y ago
Thank you for your input! That does really help because, thinking about it, I can see that I did have it in my other relationships and was able to really clearly know when it was time to leave. I am starting treatment soon, and am excited for you! Since fear is always the basis of ocd, I’m sure your specialist and you will find a way to work on the relationship theme even if you’re single, so that you have skills in place for your next relationship! Wishing you the best!
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