I’m struggling with doing ERP with my rOCD right now. I feel like I have no loving feelings toward my fiancé, and if those feelings are so fickle, maybe we shouldn’t be together. What if I have rOCD AND am in the wrong relationship? Although I guess there is no WRONG relationship as long as there are no major red flags (which there aren’t). But maybe I just don’t want to be married to him? Today I feel annoyed by everything he says and does. I hate having to go through this all the time. I feel so tired.

I totally get this. I really struggle feeling loving feelings towards my long term boyfriend. I find that remembering that I WANT to love him, is loving him. Love is a choice not a feeling, the butterfly feeling goes away and we start to get annoyed with people. But love is an action and I choice, you choose to love him. Don’t worry girl, you’ll get through this the thoughts will go away if you let them. Praying for you!!☀️

This is so meaningful. Thank you so so much! And I appreciate the prayer, too! Wanting to love him is loving him...I’m going to remember that! ?

I am just beginning therapy for this. I have wondered the same thing. This has been a pattern for me in relationships where I have seen ROCD come and go in the same relationship and basically every relationship I’ve ever had. I am wondering if you have seen this same pattern in other relationships that you have had and can remember how “normal” it felt when the ROCD backed down a bit. I’m still learning too. How do you treat ROCD if you aren’t in a relationship? I am sure there is a way but really don’t know.