- Username
- kitten21
- Date posted
- 6y ago
It feels good knowing i’m not alone. Ive done the same! I get this lump in my throat and feel guilty when i start having these thoughts and it will last for days. I get so upset with myself. How do you cope with it?
I experience this theme! For me it's the little voice in my head going "you don't really love your boyfriend.... He loves you more than you could ever love him back. He's not perfect and you should break up with him because you're just leading him on" There was a time where I would constantly be looking at online quizzes to test myself to see if I actually loved my boyfriend, or I would lurk forums and see what people "in love" felt like and become distraught when I didn't feel exactly like some stranger on the internet did. It's hard, especially when I also deal with obsessions about my orientation that make me question my relationship even more!
That's a tough one! I try to take my mind off of anything that will make me want to do a compulsion or check how I'm feeling, so sometimes I'll watch TV or play video games or read. Definitely easier for me to say than do sometimes. A lot of people mention meditation helping them!
I know exactly how this feels, I get the sense that I am not living the perfect scenario and that love is something that is not in my current relationship and that is something I am yet to experience with someone out of my grasp. It is because of the obsession that something is always better or the fear of actually having something out of the ordinary in my normal routines. This combined with other intrusive thoughts can be difficult as you feel incapable of loving someone else or accepting them or the relationship. I am lucky as I am able to talk to my partner about this but it is struggle for certain and it comes and goes with feelings in contrast one minute and different the next
Thank you guys! I’m trying to get myself to realize i am not alone and these irrational thoughts about my relationship that come out of no where then go away is my OCD and not how I actually feel but sometimes i can’t tell what i’m thinking is real or not. I just got married like a month ago so I’ve been freaking out inside..
Anybody married with ROCD?
Anyone with Relationship ocd? Can you please share what it’s like for you ?
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