Regarding false memories, do you think deep down we know they’re false and just struggle because we can’t prove it? Sometimes I’ll think of a real memory,something that I don’t feel that great about but I just somehow “know” it’s true. I think there in lies the difference. Not looking for reassurance but wondering if others have noticed this ?

one thing my boyfriend has said to me is if you cant remember it happening or doubt it ever did, you probably didnt do it at all

Thanks for the comments. It’s so hard. I’ve had other themes but this has to be the hardest. It does seem to go from one memory to the next. Sometimes something recent, sometimes something from many years ago. So easy to start ruminating and going down the rabbit hole. Ignoring the thoughts seems counterintuitive when your brains telling you it’s important.

it is really hard fighting the irrational part of your brain. its like fighting with what you know and what you want to believe (but you know if you believe what its saying it wins)

yes i agree 100%. i know in my heart i didnt do something but my brain isnt convinced

Thing is, if I think of a real memory, maybe something that I feel bad about and regret, I don’t doubt it being real or try to prove it wrong so I wonder if the very act of getting anxious and desperate for it not to be true actually proves that it is false ! If that makes sense !