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- 4y ago
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- 4y ago
First of all... take a deeeeeep breath. Happy birthday!!! things like that happen.. trust me I’ve blurted some things while drunk which is why I typically don’t like drinking anymore - also because I get horrible “hangxiety” (only three years older than you). Don’t keep apologizing if he didn’t take it personally - coming from personal experience with my own boyfriend. It’s hard because when you’re drunk you’re not aware of your behavior and can’t apply things you’ve learned in cognitive therapy etc. you’re human. take a nice shower, cup of tea, put on a funny comedy, and avoid looking for external validation (it’s not long lasting). Sleeping it off and drinking water is the best thing to do right now. Sending love cus I’ve been there but you will come through it and if he loves you he’ll understand too!
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- 4y ago
Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it! I will go do those things and just practice self compassion. It’s tough but I won’t let this get me down. I hope you have a great day :) and thank you as well for the birthday wishes!
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- 4y ago
Journaling also REALLY helps. I try to catch my thoughts. I would suggest looking up the DBT thought log on google (it explains how to use it). I don’t know how long you’ve been in a relationship before but mine was very triggering in the beginning - not because of him- but because of my relationship ocd. That with drinking could at times send me off the rail. Consider yourself lucky if that’s all you did on your 21st!!! Self compassion and forgiveness is huge and if your boyfriend is supportive lean into that and be vulnerable (brene brown is a must listen).
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- 4y ago
Sounds like it was pretty harmless, but I understand having anxiety about it. Drinking heavily usually doesn’t yield good results no matter single or in a relationship
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