- Username
- Vavina_4
- Date posted
- 4y ago
First of all... take a deeeeeep breath. Happy birthday!!! things like that happen.. trust me I’ve blurted some things while drunk which is why I typically don’t like drinking anymore - also because I get horrible “hangxiety” (only three years older than you). Don’t keep apologizing if he didn’t take it personally - coming from personal experience with my own boyfriend. It’s hard because when you’re drunk you’re not aware of your behavior and can’t apply things you’ve learned in cognitive therapy etc. you’re human. take a nice shower, cup of tea, put on a funny comedy, and avoid looking for external validation (it’s not long lasting). Sleeping it off and drinking water is the best thing to do right now. Sending love cus I’ve been there but you will come through it and if he loves you he’ll understand too!
Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it! I will go do those things and just practice self compassion. It’s tough but I won’t let this get me down. I hope you have a great day :) and thank you as well for the birthday wishes!
Journaling also REALLY helps. I try to catch my thoughts. I would suggest looking up the DBT thought log on google (it explains how to use it). I don’t know how long you’ve been in a relationship before but mine was very triggering in the beginning - not because of him- but because of my relationship ocd. That with drinking could at times send me off the rail. Consider yourself lucky if that’s all you did on your 21st!!! Self compassion and forgiveness is huge and if your boyfriend is supportive lean into that and be vulnerable (brene brown is a must listen).
Sounds like it was pretty harmless, but I understand having anxiety about it. Drinking heavily usually doesn’t yield good results no matter single or in a relationship
Hi I’m new to this app. Just wondering if anyone has the OCD type I have. I get very anxious after I go out and have drinks (when I go out I party) and my mind tells me I do things I know I didn’t do, But keeps tricking me telling me it might have happened and I get so scared because they are so awful. I’m having a terrible couple days now, fighting with myself, just loaded with fear. I haven’t had this in years and it just came back so strong. I feel lost.
Hey this isn’t really ocd related I don’t think, I’m just hoping for a piece of advice from some of you guys out there. This Friday I went to a party with some of my friends, to another friend of mines dorm room. The friend who’s dorm room we were in, me and her had became close last year other than that we haven’t really spoken much over the last semester. I’ve never thought of her as anything besides friends. I have a girlfriend I love very much and everything and I would never ever want to hurt her at all. Friday I was very intoxicated, and was talking to one of my other friends about the friend who’s dorm room it is about how I thought she was attractive. But with my guy friends we’ve always been very open about talking about females indirectly. I don’t think I said anything to her directly about it and I am really hoping I didn’t seem flirtatious because I feel absolutely full of anxiety and guilt that I was disloyal to my girlfriend in sort of way and idk what to do. Physically I’m positive for sure I didn’t do anything and my other friend says I didn’t say anything to her while he was around. I’m just really scared because I love my girlfriend and I don’t want to sit w the guilt that I did something to hurt her. Vowed to myself I wouldn’t drink again or put myself in a situation where I may be vulnerable to doing something like that. Someone please give me some advice to feel less guilty
I was out with my girlfriend last night and got talking to a group of Dutch people. They were nice and bought drinks and we had fun I got too drunk and had to leave and as my girlfriend was leaving she hugged people goodbye and one guy grabbed her ass i don’t know if he meant it in a sexual way or what but I passed out so didn’t hear this until this morning My OCD brain now has this anger and anxiety swirling around in my head all day, I wish I could punch that guy because all my head is saying that I’m an idiot for being around them and that I look so stupid to my girlfriend! My heart has been Racing all day and the thoughts swirling. Am I overreacting in my head I’m never sure because of OCD tbh? Sorry for the rant just needed to get this out don’t want to say to my girlfriend incase it sounds psycho
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