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First of all... take a deeeeeep breath. Happy birthday!!! things like that happen.. trust me I’ve blurted some things while drunk which is why I typically don’t like drinking anymore - also because I get horrible “hangxiety” (only three years older than you). Don’t keep apologizing if he didn’t take it personally - coming from personal experience with my own boyfriend. It’s hard because when you’re drunk you’re not aware of your behavior and can’t apply things you’ve learned in cognitive therapy etc. you’re human. take a nice shower, cup of tea, put on a funny comedy, and avoid looking for external validation (it’s not long lasting). Sleeping it off and drinking water is the best thing to do right now. Sending love cus I’ve been there but you will come through it and if he loves you he’ll understand too!
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Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it! I will go do those things and just practice self compassion. It’s tough but I won’t let this get me down. I hope you have a great day :) and thank you as well for the birthday wishes!
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Journaling also REALLY helps. I try to catch my thoughts. I would suggest looking up the DBT thought log on google (it explains how to use it). I don’t know how long you’ve been in a relationship before but mine was very triggering in the beginning - not because of him- but because of my relationship ocd. That with drinking could at times send me off the rail. Consider yourself lucky if that’s all you did on your 21st!!! Self compassion and forgiveness is huge and if your boyfriend is supportive lean into that and be vulnerable (brene brown is a must listen).
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Sounds like it was pretty harmless, but I understand having anxiety about it. Drinking heavily usually doesn’t yield good results no matter single or in a relationship
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- 18w
For context, I was previously diagnosed with GAD and OCD. Months ago, after a night of drinking with coworkers I experienced slight hangxiety, but I remembered most of the night. At work when I asked a coworker if I did anything weird he made a joke that really wasn’t funny. This joke caused me to doubt my memory. I think I had thought I was more sober than everyone else when in reality I was not. I remember checking on a coworker who was slumped over in the drivers seat of his car and in no state to drive and asking “you good?” The next thing I remember is that I was in the drivers seat of his car reversing out and I think I assumed that he and our other coworker were also in the car. Our other coworker stopped me and told me to pull back into the parking stall and come back inside. I remember the events both leading up to and after that all the way until I got home. However the small gap in my memory had been causing me a lot of distress, so I asked that coworker who I went to check on who was the only person that was present during the gap in my memory if I touched anyone or let anyone touch me, to which he said no definitely not. He also said that he wasn’t in the car when I was reversing out and that he vividly remembers that I was the only person in the car. When I explained to him that the joke that our other coworker said made me worry that I might’ve done something that constitutes cheating on my bf he said no that guy is just weird and says effed up stuff. I feel a lot better, because he has no reason to lie and he doesn’t seem like that type of person. However I still feel unsettled, so I plan to call my doctor’s office when they open in the next hour. I’m wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar/has any advice.
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I have false memory ocd and harm ocd and I’ve really lost it this time, I read an article about a girl going missing in my city and I convinced myself I had something to do with it and don’t remember cause I had 1 drink a month ago in the pub with my gf. The girl herself commented saying she wasn’t missing and I became obsessed with checking her page to make sure she was ok, I then blocked her to stop myself getting in the spiral of checking but in a moment of panic I unblocked her and I saw that she liked a video about being blocked so now I think that was in response to me. My gf told keeps telling me I did nothing wrong that night and it’s just my ocd again and I’d remember if anyhting bad happened cause I only had one drink and that girl doesn’t know me so it’s just a coincidence that she liked a video about blocking but I worry about it all day everyday, I just can’t stop checking or trying to find a way to ‘prove’ nothing happened, the more I check the worse it gets, I’ll going to lose my gf if this keeps up, I know she’s getting tired of my ocd, pls help
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- 9w
So this is my second post of the day and before I post this I’m not looking for reassurance just feeling very fearful about this situation and need to vent. Sometimes my false memory ocd gets so bad I have to download past data of any apps on social media to make sure I didn’t do anything and even then it doesn’t help. I did that with my Snapchat data and I saw that I had someone from a very toxic and past relationship on my snap that I remembered I had deleted a couple weeks after my boyfriend and I started dating. I didn’t notice it until I recently had the compulsion to go recheck all the data I downloaded to make sure. When I saw the date I deleted them and that it was a couple weeks after my boyfriend and I got together, I felt my face get hot, I started tearing up and I started freaking out. And then of course my thoughts started rolling in “What if you deleted them because you texted them and did it to make sure your boyfriend didn’t see?” Or “What if you still had their number in your phone and texted them?” Etc. etc. I felt horrible after I noticed that he was still on my snap, I know I forgot because I was only focused on my boyfriend and I spending time together, and I don’t hardly ever use Snapchat in general so I just basically leave the app alone and such. I’m just so worried now and It’s bothering me. I also experienced a thought like “What if I knew he was still on there and I kept him on there on purpose?” I can’t deal with these thoughts anymore, they’re so exhausting, and the fact that I even have these thoughts and they always try to attack my relationship just makes me so mad and upset.
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