i feel like i obsess over the slightest things that don’t even matter but i feel like life won’t function perfectly unless i catch every little detail.

Been there... That is OCD. ERP with a dash of mindfulness was the only way out for me. Just some examples I experienced: Did I place the stamp on an envelope perfectly? Did my signature look good on an important document or greeting card? Did I say something to offend somebody and then play it over and over in my mind. Did I get overcharged at a store and, again, play that over and over. Did I send a text message with spelling errors? And, on and on.

After doing ERP in therapy, I gradually gained momentum to take the leap of faith to resist the compulsion of re-reading and re-writing outside of therapy as the circumstances presented themselves. Most importantly, I did not get down on myself whenever I did not resist the urge to compulse. I specifically avoided that kind of all-or-nothing mindset. With respect to resisting the urge, I utilized a mindfulness strategy whereby I viewed the intrusive thoughts that would lead to re-reading and re-writing as refuse floating downstream besides beautiful fall leaves in their variety of colors. It was MY choice whether to pull that crushed up beer can or candy wrapper out of the water (i.e., engage the intrusive thought). I pretty quickly began to learn that all of the underlying fears leading to my compulsions were mostly a figment of my wild imagination and not worthy of my attention or subsequent anxiety.

Same! I catch things that others don't see and think about things that others don't think about...but it's so time consuming!

Same :(((