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Hugs. That’s a big choice! I have three kiddos, it’s hard for me, but they don’t have any signs of anxiety ??
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One thing I've learned from my therapist is that the only way to deal with passing on trauma to the next generation is to deal with it as much as we can BEFORE it gets to them. Think about it this way -- this, right now, is your chance to experience anxiety and work out ways to process it, and get yourself solid, so that when/if it affects your kids (or nieces, nephews, etc.), you can help them through it too. They won't have to start as lost as you were because you've been through it, and you'll be around to help. This has been a great motivator to me too, on the days when it all feels overwhelming -- that I'm not just working this out for yourself, but for another generation of my family, if this really is something passed down genetically.
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- 6y
Congrats for not perpetuating suffering in this world. I am and will always be child free. I honestly don’t understand how people like us even play with the idea of creating a sentient being knowing it will suffer and die. It’s just better to have never been born. Nonexistence can only be a good.
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I agree honestly. My boyfriend has a vasectomy and I’m getting a hysterectomy once a doctor is willing but since I’m in my 20s it’s not likely until I get married.
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I understand what you're saying because sometimes I also think the same thing but remember whether you speak negativity or positivity they have power! Start speaking positively and your future children will be healthy physically and mentally as a whole!
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Really sorry to hear you’re suffering that way Juliet. I would not do anything rash as you have your whole life ahead of you. There are many many people who have had the same issue different points and there are many people who are now Walking a journey of increased recovery. I have OCD, I have three kids. It’s not about living a perfect life. Life is a gift. Keep going, keep talking, get professional help and belief for a future with greater freedom
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Please read this. I’ve had ocd pretty much a lot of my life but never knew what it was until my senior year of highschool. I’m 21 with 2 kids and i believe i’ve had pocd a little bit before my daughter was born (which was 8 months ago). It made me start looking at all kids differently and i hate it. But it really started triggering me about 3 months ago. I’ve been thinking if i’d intentionally touched or harmed my kids the wrong way, or any kids for that matter. This started giving me false memories (or at least hope they are). I’ve been having panic attacks, yelling at myself, punching walls, praying, and even thoughts of ending my own life. I grew up in a severe toxic household throughout my childhood and teenage life. I’ve never wished that on my kids since i became a dad. I wanna give them the life i never got. I look back my photos of my children and i feel like i’m a complete fraud of a dad. I cannot look at my kids or be around them a lot of times. I can’t hold my daughter right. I can’t change their diaper when they need it. Even my son came and was hugging on me the other night while i was watching tv and i acted like a stranger to him. I can very little do this stuff sometimes because it’s either i get relief or i push my thoughts as far back as i can. I get scared if i did something to not just my kids, but any other kids in the past. I have such a a great life and such a beautiful family. It was hard and stressful at first being young with a family but i couldn’t be more thankful at all for them. I’m just so lost and stressed right now that i just don’t know what to do anymore
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At this point I think I’m just tired. Took me a massive amount of strength to even type this. I’ve never had it this bad with anxiety depression and OCD. Firstly, how do you guys handle the trauma that comes with OCD. I recently realized Ive traumatized by own mind. I think this contributes to depression. Also, the thoughts frequency have gotten so high. It just literally jams its self in my brain. Before, I had some sort of control (at least a grip) but this days it’s so hard to try to get a grip. The unwanted feelings too? Omg, reactions that I literally can’t stand plagues me. My mind turns almost everything sexual. It’s crazy 🙃 Then the anxietyyyyyy! Wheew. I’m like a walking anxiety attack, my heart is always beating fast and it’s so painful. Working is so hard because I can’t get a grip, I feel so broken and I don’t think anyone can relate to this. I don’t know what I can do to help. Then the pressure in my head (that causes headache sometimes), sometimes I genuinely think I have a tumor! I’m pregnant so that makes it sadder, makes me wonder what kind of mother this beautiful soul is coming out here to meet. I don’t want to be a sad mother, and I cry more when I realize my child can feel what I feel rn in my belly😔. Another thing, the moment I don’t wanna do something, doesn’t even have to be anything bad. That’s when it feels my mind wants to force me to do it. It’s a whole lot and I’m just holding on to Jesus to help me out. At least he’s here so that’s comforting.
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I want to beat OCD because I have seen and felt the benefits of clearing my brain from unnecessary, pointless, thoughts. OCD is like 0 calorie food. It’s pointless. No nutrition or benefits come from my obsessions or compulsions. I don’t care to have answers to everything anymore. I catch myself just trying to stress myself out so that I have some worry to feed on. But like I said, it’s a 0 calorie food. I get nothing from it but wasted time and energy. My brain feels more spacious when I’m not consumed by OCD. I’m present. My personality has room to be herself without making space for bullshit. I tell myself now that worry is poison. I think Willie Nelson was the person I got that quote from? Anyways, that imagery of worries being poison for the mind has been transformative for me. I’m evolving. 💖 Thanks NOCD community.
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