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Hugs. That’s a big choice! I have three kiddos, it’s hard for me, but they don’t have any signs of anxiety ??
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One thing I've learned from my therapist is that the only way to deal with passing on trauma to the next generation is to deal with it as much as we can BEFORE it gets to them. Think about it this way -- this, right now, is your chance to experience anxiety and work out ways to process it, and get yourself solid, so that when/if it affects your kids (or nieces, nephews, etc.), you can help them through it too. They won't have to start as lost as you were because you've been through it, and you'll be around to help. This has been a great motivator to me too, on the days when it all feels overwhelming -- that I'm not just working this out for yourself, but for another generation of my family, if this really is something passed down genetically.
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Congrats for not perpetuating suffering in this world. I am and will always be child free. I honestly don’t understand how people like us even play with the idea of creating a sentient being knowing it will suffer and die. It’s just better to have never been born. Nonexistence can only be a good.
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I agree honestly. My boyfriend has a vasectomy and I’m getting a hysterectomy once a doctor is willing but since I’m in my 20s it’s not likely until I get married.
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I understand what you're saying because sometimes I also think the same thing but remember whether you speak negativity or positivity they have power! Start speaking positively and your future children will be healthy physically and mentally as a whole!
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Really sorry to hear you’re suffering that way Juliet. I would not do anything rash as you have your whole life ahead of you. There are many many people who have had the same issue different points and there are many people who are now Walking a journey of increased recovery. I have OCD, I have three kids. It’s not about living a perfect life. Life is a gift. Keep going, keep talking, get professional help and belief for a future with greater freedom
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Hi everyone, I’m Cayla. I’m a mom that’s lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughts—What if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldn’t be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I don’t have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasn’t her fault—and that she wasn’t alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughter’s OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isn’t talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them below—I’d love to share what I’ve learned. I’ll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
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At this point I think I’m just tired. Took me a massive amount of strength to even type this. I’ve never had it this bad with anxiety depression and OCD. Firstly, how do you guys handle the trauma that comes with OCD. I recently realized Ive traumatized by own mind. I think this contributes to depression. Also, the thoughts frequency have gotten so high. It just literally jams its self in my brain. Before, I had some sort of control (at least a grip) but this days it’s so hard to try to get a grip. The unwanted feelings too? Omg, reactions that I literally can’t stand plagues me. My mind turns almost everything sexual. It’s crazy 🙃 Then the anxietyyyyyy! Wheew. I’m like a walking anxiety attack, my heart is always beating fast and it’s so painful. Working is so hard because I can’t get a grip, I feel so broken and I don’t think anyone can relate to this. I don’t know what I can do to help. Then the pressure in my head (that causes headache sometimes), sometimes I genuinely think I have a tumor! I’m pregnant so that makes it sadder, makes me wonder what kind of mother this beautiful soul is coming out here to meet. I don’t want to be a sad mother, and I cry more when I realize my child can feel what I feel rn in my belly😔. Another thing, the moment I don’t wanna do something, doesn’t even have to be anything bad. That’s when it feels my mind wants to force me to do it. It’s a whole lot and I’m just holding on to Jesus to help me out. At least he’s here so that’s comforting.
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So I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and I’m freaking out rn I’ve been getting thoughts like “I’ll be a bad mum” and overthinking everything & my OCD is convincing me that I’ll act on my thoughts because of my hormones and stuff. I’ve also got a fear of being sick & I’m stressing over that too. Anyone else who has harm OCD pregnant or a Mum can give me some advice pls😭
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