REMINDER TO NOT GOOGLE. THIS IS FOR GIRLS WHO HAVE ALREADY LOOKED THIS UP. Have you read up on comphet? When my HOCD first blew up, and I didn't know it was HOCD, I freaked out and read a list of comphet symptoms. That list seriously messed me up on my HOCD journey. (again, do not google this.) For those girls who have read what I've read--can I just complain for a sec?? that list is totally horrible! it feels like you just need to be a little neurodivergent with daddy issues/trauma associated with men (like me) and you can relate to nearly the whole damn list! NOWHERE on there is there a disclaimer about hocd! it's dangerous for people like me who are now fucked up forever because they didn't bother to be a little more clear.

Sexual Orientation OCD

ellah

Date posted: 5y

Yuuuuuup. This is exactly what caused me to start having hocd in the first place. Don’t want to provide reassurance, but for what it’s worth I read that the woman who coined the term said that straight women can experience comphet as well. It’s essentially just the way society pressures us to value romantic/sexual relationships with men above all else. You can feel that pressure and be straight, gay, or bi! It’s just particularly hard on lesbians bc they’re experiencing comphet in tandem with an attraction to women, which I guess is why it’s such a commonly talked about experience among them. I definitely relate to reading the list and freaking out. I thought for sure that relating to a lot of things on it meant that I’d somehow been a lesbian this whole time and my conscious mind just never got the memo lol. But the list is sorta like when you google medical symptoms and WebMD tells you you have some horrible disease. Sure, some people who have those symptoms might actually have it, but plenty of others don’t. I guess with hocd we just gotta accept the uncertainty ?

pluralines

Date posted: 5y

oh my gosh the webmd is exactly what i was saying to my boyfriend the other day.. ur right it seems that a lot of the things on that list could be relatable for everyone - but it’s damaging to hocd sufferers because their ocd mind will take literally any bit of evidence as an absolutle. ??‍♀️

juki

Date posted: 5y

thanks for such a thoughtful reply! now that you say that, I do think I've heard that straight women experience a little bit of comphet. I just remember feeling sick to my stomach when I read that list the first time. like, if the case is that most women relate to comphet, I just don't see why those lists don't include hocd disclaimers! it's tough out there for us! lol

princess🧚🏼‍♀️

Date posted: 4y

heyy i just read this thread after searching up comphet ! last night i read about the masterdoc and literally experienced my first panic attack, i kept shivering for hours, couldn’t breathe properly, my anxiety was to the roof so i didn’t sleep the entire night. all because i gave in to a compulsion and decided to read it :( i just wanted to ask if it’s normal for a straight girl to have experienced comphet crushes ? like i remember this one time i didn’t find this guy attractive until my mom and my friend pointed it out, and then i started actually having a crush on him (or so i thought 🥺 but idek anymore i’m so scared) another thing is that i started finding some guys attractive only after my friends would start going out w them :( i feel like it’s a sign, i know it sounds awful though. but i’m literally so SO scared, i feel like a straight girl wouldn’t relate to these points 🥺🥺🥺please help me

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