Can someone please talk to me? I really need to talk about my relationship OCD. So on Reddit I posted on an Asperger's sub to get some advice and insight on how I should treat him. There's this lady that keeps saying that since him and I are in our mid teens we won't actually last and that we will be fleeting. I cried reading her messages like it hurts so much because im already so anxious Now I'm obsessed that he is just in an infactuation with me and wants me only for my body like previous guys that have liked me. He told me he really does love me but I can't believe it, I don't know if it's OCD or trusts issues or both. I'm trying to sit with the uncertainty but I end up crying every time I get the thought of actually losing him. I'm trying to do my normal ACT plan but I can't because of stress from school. Please help :(

Relationship OCD

Mel

Date posted: 5y

I’ve been there!! I actually ended our relationship due to SO MUCH pain and stress that was coming from my personal life. I felt it wasn’t fair to him cuz I couldn’t function right and be myself for goodness sake! But we never stopped talking... I think our feelings never changed and we kept on loving esch other... 4ish months later with lots of work on my end, we’re back together! And it’s amazing! And I know OCD likes to put scary thoughts in your head.. but it’s all in trust. If you really truly trust him, and really truly love him, everything will turn out! If he says he loves you, you just have to stick with that answer because that is the only thing you have. You need to trust he truly loves you. And if you can’t, you seriously need to have a chat with him about it, as scary as it sounds, it really does help.

san🌻

Date posted: 5y

I'm really trying to trust him but I can't for god's sake. My ex ruined me so badly. Ik my current bf is better and much nicer and a really sweet and intelligent guy but everytime I listen or hear to stuff like this I feel sad like even rn I'm on the verge of crying. I do truly love him and I really want him. We both met on the demisexual sub on Reddit and he started to like me really quickly which makes me doubt he is really into me :(

san🌻

Date posted: 5y

Btw thank you so much for helping me. Your story kind of reassures me and gives a little bit of confidence that maybe him and I could last, idk though. Like my own though thoughts are so strong I'm literally going in a frenzy and I can't focus on anything :(. But really thank you so much!!! Your story really helps

Mel

Date posted: 5y

@sanzida? Yea, I get that too. Trust can be one of the hardest things ever ESPECIALLY if you have faced trauma in the past. The only thing I really can think of to make things a little bit easier is to spend a lot of time with him.. not over text but like actually seeing him! And that should paint a clear picture over time if he truly is into you, or if he’s just using you... I hope everything goes well, and remember healing takes time!!

Mel

Date posted: 5y

@sanzida? I’m glad I could help :)

san🌻

Date posted: 5y

@Mel Well we can't really see each other since we are ldr and we try to text and sometimes call if we can. And thank you so much for the advice! I'll try my best. I have to stop talking to him for a week since I have my exams coming up. Maybe I'll sort it out somehow. And he now saw the lady that posted the comments and he got pissed. He reassured me but literally I'm out here on the verge of crying and I'm shaking that her words will turn out true

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