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I don't have any credited scientific approach. I tend to tell my inner punk voice that I don't care what it says. For years I let my inner voice insult me whenever it wanted to. Now, when the insults come I just tell the inner voice to shut up. I.e. if the voice tells me I'm fat, I say no one else cares what I look like and I like myself no matter what I weigh. If it says I'm stupid, I'll say, naw man I'm actually very smart. My inside voice insults me still - and sometimes it hurts for a few seconds - but then I just say that it's false and that I'm fine with who I am and love myself for who I am. If you tell yourself you're a loser, your brain is going to jot that down as a note to remember, brain: "okay, we're a loser now, got it!" Which is why I personally believe when our inside voices insult ourselves, we need to confirm the opposite. "I'm not good enough - actually I am. I am good enough."
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wishing you hope
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That is scary?
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I'm going through the same right now! In the past, every area of my life held toxic people - family, friends, and romantic partners. My whole life has been this way and now I'm 26 with the most amazing boyfriend. My family is also trying to love and care more than ever before. I threw out my toxic friends and kept the friends who truly matter. Now, my brain is going haywire with worry. Since I have no one to worry about it's making me feel weird about my family/friend/relationship because nothing's wrong but my brain thinks something is wrong and 2) since I have no friends/family etc to worry about, I've now started obsessing over myself: am I what's wrong, am I bad, am I going crazy?! Will I hurt someone? Will I hurt my boyfriend? Take deep breaths and baby steps. The fact that you feel so worried/guilty about thinking you're going to do something bad shows you have a good set of moral values. Reassure yourself with strong positive thinking and really try to shutdown the OCD thoughts when they come! It isn't you, it's your OCD! Tell your brain this and find ways to let your brain know everything is okay! Your brain is used to thinking something's wrong so now you've got to tell yourself nothing's wrong until your brain gets rewired into believing this
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reassuring yourself actually makes it worse
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@getwellsoon Getting reassurance from others makes it worse. Giving yourself positive talks and being able boost your self esteem through self awareness and affirmations shouldn't make it worse.
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@kdla21232423 When I say give yourself reassurance, I'm saying tell your self you are worthy, you are kind, you are caring and compassionate, you can do anything.
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@kdla21232423 And I don't think sitting there telling yourself that you do deserve the best and that you are awesome is a bad thing
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@kdla21232423 well that sounds okay as long as it’s not battling your thoughts with rational logic
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Thats probably true. I think analyzing why you are worthy and agonizing over whether or not you're awesome based on a thorough examination of your life is probably less healthy and helpful. But yeah positive self talk is good. Any tips for an inner voice that is a punk??
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- 25w ago
I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.
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- 24w ago
This topic triggers me so much because I don’t think I ever experienced “gut feelings” about my relationship until the ocd. I know that generally people get these feelings when something’s off like their values are different, or the partner has strong bad habits, or something they’re doing is wrong. But my relationship is perfect to me: we communicate so well and I feel so vulnerable and safe. He’s amazing and sweet and we share the same values and life goals. We’re not perfect but I wanna be imperfect w him. I’ve never felt the way I feel for him with anyone else before. So why does it feel like the next stage of our life (moving in together) feels like I’ll change my mind later on?.. I get anxious at the idea and thought of sharing our whole life but I know I want to marry him. The idea of us growing old together, I feel like my life would be complete with him. But why do I feel like I don’t want to :( Do people have doubts anout their relationship even when there’s nothing to doubt?? There’s nothing wrong with us at all and I want what we have forever but when I think about our future I feel so anxious like I won’t last long until I decide I can’t do it anymore
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I don't even know if I should put this here, but I have the greatest girlfriend in the whole world, and I love her very much, but my thoughts keep saying I'm going to hurt her, so I can hurt God and idk what to do, I feel so disgusted and idk what to do, and the worst part is why does some part of me just not even care idk what to do anymore, it's almost like I'm turning into this horrible person and idk what to do, I'm really not sure what to do. I have really been able to be happy I just feel like I don't deserve it and I want to care about people and God and I want to be a good person, but a part of me shuts off my caring nature and idk what to do, I'm really freaking out because it's like IDC and idk what to do I just feel so nasty and scared because why don't I feel like I care. Why does it feel like it's something I wanna do idk, what to do I'm really freaking worried. Also I don't want OCD but a part of me says I need it or I like these thoughts and idk what to do, as im writing this i just feel like laughing and idk what to do, i really judt want jesus to hug me and say everything will be alright, i am such a monster....
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