- Username
- aholcomb17
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I don't have any credited scientific approach. I tend to tell my inner punk voice that I don't care what it says. For years I let my inner voice insult me whenever it wanted to. Now, when the insults come I just tell the inner voice to shut up. I.e. if the voice tells me I'm fat, I say no one else cares what I look like and I like myself no matter what I weigh. If it says I'm stupid, I'll say, naw man I'm actually very smart. My inside voice insults me still - and sometimes it hurts for a few seconds - but then I just say that it's false and that I'm fine with who I am and love myself for who I am. If you tell yourself you're a loser, your brain is going to jot that down as a note to remember, brain: "okay, we're a loser now, got it!" Which is why I personally believe when our inside voices insult ourselves, we need to confirm the opposite. "I'm not good enough - actually I am. I am good enough."
wishing you hope
That is scary?
I'm going through the same right now! In the past, every area of my life held toxic people - family, friends, and romantic partners. My whole life has been this way and now I'm 26 with the most amazing boyfriend. My family is also trying to love and care more than ever before. I threw out my toxic friends and kept the friends who truly matter. Now, my brain is going haywire with worry. Since I have no one to worry about it's making me feel weird about my family/friend/relationship because nothing's wrong but my brain thinks something is wrong and 2) since I have no friends/family etc to worry about, I've now started obsessing over myself: am I what's wrong, am I bad, am I going crazy?! Will I hurt someone? Will I hurt my boyfriend? Take deep breaths and baby steps. The fact that you feel so worried/guilty about thinking you're going to do something bad shows you have a good set of moral values. Reassure yourself with strong positive thinking and really try to shutdown the OCD thoughts when they come! It isn't you, it's your OCD! Tell your brain this and find ways to let your brain know everything is okay! Your brain is used to thinking something's wrong so now you've got to tell yourself nothing's wrong until your brain gets rewired into believing this
reassuring yourself actually makes it worse
@getwellsoon Getting reassurance from others makes it worse. Giving yourself positive talks and being able boost your self esteem through self awareness and affirmations shouldn't make it worse.
@kdla21232423 When I say give yourself reassurance, I'm saying tell your self you are worthy, you are kind, you are caring and compassionate, you can do anything.
@kdla21232423 And I don't think sitting there telling yourself that you do deserve the best and that you are awesome is a bad thing
@kdla21232423 well that sounds okay as long as it’s not battling your thoughts with rational logic
Thats probably true. I think analyzing why you are worthy and agonizing over whether or not you're awesome based on a thorough examination of your life is probably less healthy and helpful. But yeah positive self talk is good. Any tips for an inner voice that is a punk??
I’m really scared right now I feel like I’ve been faking my whole relationship... I’m doubting about my feelings towards him and if we are compatibles because we don’t have the same sense of humor and sometimes turns me off and makes me wanna cry and end the relationship when he doesn’t get my jokes and makes me think that it means we are gonna be unhappy in the future :( is that a sign? Am I overreacting? He is kind and lovely and sweet and really loves me... but I feel like an asshole for thinking like this :(
So I’m just getting scared because every time I do something with my boyfriend I say is this what I want? Am I happy? Then I think about this kid I had a thing with over a year ago and I’m convinced that I like wanna be with him and not my boyfriend and it’s just so hard I’m so worried and so afraid that it’s just how I feel.. then I get worry to settle even tho it’s like a switch just flipped from one day to the next..
It has completely switched to me being scared I don’t want to be with him. I’ve been struggling for days. I’ve been googling stuff all day too. And then my friend asked me “do you actually like him?” And it’s been stuck in my head. And then I answered yes but my head was like do you really though? Can it really convince you that you don’t and that you’re lying to yourself? And can you feel like you’re lying to them about it all? It makes me feel sick. And then my friend said “I think you’re just second guessing things because you’ve never been in a healthy relationship” my mind keeps going to “what if you really are not mean to be together? You know deep down. What if you’re having all these thoughts because you just aren’t mean to be?” And I don’t have like insane butterflies or infatuation with him like I did my previous partners, but they were so abusive and toxic. Im so terrified my mind will convince me to break up with him and I don’t want to 😞
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