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I think wanting to like things 100% can be a kind of perfectionism. I spent weeks shopping for the perfect dishes. It’s a commitment buying dishes (because I’m a frugal minimalist). I opened them and felt disappointed. They weren’t the right blue. The blue made me feel off/anxious. But, I know that I’m this way, and so I knew I needed to sleep on it. I love them now. I think in a weird way you can become “compassionate” toward inanimate things like dishes and tattoos for not being perfect, and even come to like their imperfections.
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I never even knew this was considered perfectionism but I relate a bunch with what you said, being disappointed or panicked but later on growing to love it, thank you a bunch for your answer!
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Yes I also do have perfectionism.I always used to to asses each and everything as very good or very bad.There was no way for me judge anything as moderate.This always increased my anxiety.I also can not tollerate any change in anything.
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Good lord I can barely decide what to make for dinner these days. I have one tattoo. Got it when I was 15 somewhere the wasnt legal. Thank goodness I still like it. But if I didnt it would still be fun because it would remind me of the free-spirited person I was or the head space I was in. However, there are tats I have wanted to get and decided against and am glad I dont have those ones. They were crummy, pretentious ideas.
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That’s the hard part with tattoo ideas, we like them one time in our lives and later on have the chance to not. I guess we just have to decide on something we like and go for it sometimes ?
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@Evelyn4416 Agreed! To be fair, art is always going to be fun!
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