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yep! even though its kinda hard, try not to take it personally.
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Thank you what is he difference, I feel anxiety and horror I no pleqsurebale
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@10lewis10 for hocd, we usually get filled up w anxiety and it tends to get really annoying sometimes because you know you’re not attracted, yet your mind is saying ‘yes you do.’ it’s like as if it was against your will. for the lgbt community, they don’t feel anxiety nor horror or anything that we would feel. they would feel pleasure and would enjoy it.
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@val ʚĭɞ Some gay people don't like being gay. Some gay people do feel anxiety and horror. For some gay people it has nothing to do with what other people think of them too. It's not that black and white.
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@hateocd123 i’m sorry, i didn’t mean to offend anyone. i was just saying it based on what my lgbt friends said to me when i was struggling w my hocd before getting this app. i’m sorry if i sounded ignorant.
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@hateocd123 So what do I trust
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@val ʚĭɞ No, I'm sorry for being rude. You didn't offend me, I'm just worried about giving him reassurance.
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@hateocd123 oh my god nono don’t apologize:( , i didn’t realize i was giving him reassurance:( i’ll try to be more not so reassurance giving (don’t know if there’s a verb for it)!!!
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@10lewis10 No one actually knows the answer. You need to sit with the discomfort. Please for your own sake. Exhausting all of your reassurance is the most painful way to get through this and in the end it will make you more confused. I speak from experience. Please, please, please trust me. I'm trying to save you from more heart ache. I'm certainly NOT telling you that you're gay. I am saying that OCD is telling you that you need reassurance that you DON'T need.
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@val ʚĭɞ I feel really bad. This is something I dealt with for over a year now. Lewis please reach out and get help for your OCD. By getting help it will hurt, but in the long run it will be a lot less painful. You will find an answer by not having answer with treatment if that makes any sense. Both of you! Nocd therapy will help and its affordable!
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@hateocd123 i’d really like to go into therapy but it’s not available here:( i
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@val ʚĭɞ If there's no therapy around you, doing exactly what you were talking about doing is perfect! Those were all things I was too afraid to do. You can get workbooks that will help too! I have the amazon kindle app and I buy them on there.
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Yh I get ya thank you, have you done cbt therapy or anything
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i’m just meditating and taking it slow:) i’m also doing a bit of exposure but it’s little by little. i’m also practicing some self-care just prioritizing myself:)
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I’m doing cbt and it all makes sense but I hate when I’m normal and I look at a celeb or anyone who is attractive my mind thinks I’m attracted to them and I can’t tell the difference between being attracted and seeing sane sex know there good locking but not sexually
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Yep, heard it described at OCD spotlighting. You’ll notice everything that your OCD attaches itself to. Same sex people, LGBTQ tv commercials, pride flags. After a while it gets kinda funny. I just say spotlight to myself and try to move on
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Why does Hocd latches on to a specific person?
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Can hocd create mental feelings or things that resemble inclinations Without a physical response?, but such as arousal and mental attraction, for example, I have so ocd and I'm afraid that I might like women.So, in the last period, when I look at photos of girls, especially beautiful ones, I feel something strange or attracted,sometimes their bodies.And I'm confused as to what that might mean, it's like sexual orientation, is this from me or OCD produced by it?'The feeling is like the feeling of discovering new inclinations and this breaks me, I just want to reconcile with myself in any sexual orientation or identity, but I just can't feel comfortable and reconcile with the fact that I may like women or it may happen in the future.And I have these feelings that telling me messing around the girls would be fun, and I feel something like desire, but I never come to terms with this.. I'm going to be 15 years old, I know, I'm not supposed to think like that, I don't have the right to determine who I am now because im young, and I shouldn't continue to dream of marrying a man..My mind keeps reminding me of the fact that I'm a teenager and the likelihood that everything will change is high, but right now, I'm not asking for anything but rest.I want to love myself and reconcile with her.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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