10lewis10
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val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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yep! even though its kinda hard, try not to take it personally.
10lewis1010lewis10
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Thank you what is he difference, I feel anxiety and horror I no pleqsurebale
val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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@10lewis10 for hocd, we usually get filled up w anxiety and it tends to get really annoying sometimes because you know you’re not attracted, yet your mind is saying ‘yes you do.’ it’s like as if it was against your will. for the lgbt community, they don’t feel anxiety nor horror or anything that we would feel. they would feel pleasure and would enjoy it.
hateocd123hateocd123
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@val ʚĭɞ Some gay people don't like being gay. Some gay people do feel anxiety and horror. For some gay people it has nothing to do with what other people think of them too. It's not that black and white.
val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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@hateocd123 i’m sorry, i didn’t mean to offend anyone. i was just saying it based on what my lgbt friends said to me when i was struggling w my hocd before getting this app. i’m sorry if i sounded ignorant.
10lewis1010lewis10
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@hateocd123 So what do I trust
hateocd123hateocd123
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@val ʚĭɞ No, I'm sorry for being rude. You didn't offend me, I'm just worried about giving him reassurance.
val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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@hateocd123 oh my god nono don’t apologize:( , i didn’t realize i was giving him reassurance:( i’ll try to be more not so reassurance giving (don’t know if there’s a verb for it)!!!
hateocd123hateocd123
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@10lewis10 No one actually knows the answer. You need to sit with the discomfort. Please for your own sake. Exhausting all of your reassurance is the most painful way to get through this and in the end it will make you more confused. I speak from experience. Please, please, please trust me. I'm trying to save you from more heart ache. I'm certainly NOT telling you that you're gay. I am saying that OCD is telling you that you need reassurance that you DON'T need.
hateocd123hateocd123
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@val ʚĭɞ I feel really bad. This is something I dealt with for over a year now. Lewis please reach out and get help for your OCD. By getting help it will hurt, but in the long run it will be a lot less painful. You will find an answer by not having answer with treatment if that makes any sense. Both of you! Nocd therapy will help and its affordable!
val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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@hateocd123 i’d really like to go into therapy but it’s not available here:( i
hateocd123hateocd123
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@val ʚĭɞ If there's no therapy around you, doing exactly what you were talking about doing is perfect! Those were all things I was too afraid to do. You can get workbooks that will help too! I have the amazon kindle app and I buy them on there.
10lewis1010lewis10
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Yh I get ya thank you, have you done cbt therapy or anything
val ʚĭɞval ʚĭɞ
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i’m just meditating and taking it slow:) i’m also doing a bit of exposure but it’s little by little. i’m also practicing some self-care just prioritizing myself:)
10lewis1010lewis10
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I’m doing cbt and it all makes sense but I hate when I’m normal and I look at a celeb or anyone who is attractive my mind thinks I’m attracted to them and I can’t tell the difference between being attracted and seeing sane sex know there good locking but not sexually
AO1984AO1984
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Yep, heard it described at OCD spotlighting. You’ll notice everything that your OCD attaches itself to. Same sex people, LGBTQ tv commercials, pride flags. After a while it gets kinda funny. I just say spotlight to myself and try to move on
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truetrev
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Heterosexual OCD
I wanted to voice that homosexuals can get HOCD too. I remember when i was younger and knew i was gay i still got HOCD one time when watching The Office. I thought Pam was so pretty and then started doubting my whole identity because what if i am straight? Oh god, what a terror if i was heterosexual. But anyway, thought that maybe this would help heteros with HOCD by knowing that this is a universal symptom across OCD sufferers of all sexual orientations. A big problem is calling this subtype “Homosexual OCD,” because its not. It has nothing to do with being homo or hetero or bi or anything. Its just OCD being a bully. I think labelling subtypes is an issue altogether, as it can unconsciously make people feel like its not just OCD. But it is. Does this make any sense? What are yall’s thoughts on this? Or is this just my OCD talking? (Im not seeking reassurance just genuinely find this interesting) TLDR; each time we “qualify” OCD with a subtype, we reinforce that the subtype is part of the issue. In reality, OCD is just a broken loop in our brains, and thoughts are just thoughts. And Pam Beesly is a hottie.
confused writer
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HOCD made you feel horn.y?
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Anonymous
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HOCD or not?
Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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