I can't deal with how blasé my partner is in regards to corona virus. She touches surfaces and then touches her hair without washing her hands. So now I think corona virus is in her hair and the she will lay down on the sofa or in our bed and everything is contaminated. Arrrrghhhhh she keeps doing it and it's driving me mad!!!! There are no safety behaviours that I can do to avoid her doing it. What can I do????? I think maybe I should just accept the risk and and just not worry about it as I can't do anything about it but it makes me resentful of her. It really is driving me mad I feel she is cintaminated and now our whole house.

It's so hard as this thing Coukd kill me. I think I could deal with the I certainly of 'if I don't wash my hands my parent will die' as half my brain knows this is impossible but none of my brain thinks its impossible to catch the virus and die

@Rosie38 It's risk we're all dealing with. It sounds like your OCD is likely inflating that risk.

@Ben84 I think it is, I just don't know how to keep calm, things trigger me everyday. I just don't see the point in doing everything to try and keep safe like cleaning the surfaces and wearing masks etc of my partner is just going to do it when it suits her or she remembers. Touch a door handle than God knows who touched abd the rub her hands all through her hair. I mean am I really being unreasonable?? I can't do anything about it as I can't ask her to wash her hair or anything like that so I have to just accept the uncertainy of a real risk

@Rosie38 OCD has a tendency to ask us to go above and beyond what's "required". Based on what you've shared, it doesn't sound like your partner is doing anything wrong.

@Ben84 I know I'm being to hard on her. I juts focus on the fact that she touched a door handle and then her hair. I have to tell myself the risk is negligible

@Rosie38 ☺

@Ben84 Thank you

@Ben84 Also I'm sorry if that triggered anything for you or I seemed like I was being horrible I was just in the middle of a panic

@Rosie38 All good on my end ☺

I get you. It should be easier to live alone, for some time...and then we will develope more and more rituals....I know its so hard, but I think you and I have to learn from our partners. I haven't the same OCD theme as you and I live like your partner. No extra cleaning. One hand wash when I come home. Thats enough. I'm an educated nurse ...Fight on Rosie💪

I'm sorry to hear you're still struggling. Have you tried the SOS feature before?

@Estrid Thank you for your reply, I think why I'm so uptight. Is I was shiekding for 4 months because I'm. Immunosuppresed. I take. Humira.and steroids and I'm asthmatic. So I'm so so scared of catching this thing it has majorly triggered my ocd. Especially after. Getting the government's 21 page letter it was just so frightning plus at the start of lockdown my partner was cleaning everything and now.she seems not to care. It says. In the guidance not to eat takeaway from the carton to. Tip it onto. A plate and then wash your hands before you eat. Again just scared me so much that my partners one little Slip sets me off. I really hate my brain sometimes

@Rosie38 I can see why you're more concerned. Try to give your partner, and yourself ☺, some grace.

@Rosie38 I really understand you🙏

@Ben84 Thank you

@Ben84 I will. I can't control life and I need to tell myself to relax. It is what it is. 😬😬😬

@Rosie38 😄