So my mom is a diabetic and my dad has COPD (chronic bronchitis and emphysema). My mom wants to go back to working at her daycare and lunch supervisor job at an elementary school. She works part time and makes minimum wage. My father is the bread winner. They are both on the cusp of turning 60. She is seeking support from me to go back to working. I've told her repeatedly I dont support it - that minum wage part time is not worth risking her bread winning husband who has serious lung disease. Children are now known to be more efficient spreaders of covid 19 and my province in Canada is not making any changes to school. 5 days a week, 30 kids in class. Is this my ocd or am I being rational here? I really can never tell with ocd, especially when it comes to this pandemic. For those who arent familiar with my posts, I have contamination and health ocd really focused in on the pandemic. My mother knows this and still came seeking my approval anyway 🙄

This is very true and I've said this to her. She asks my opinion. I give it and tell her "but I cant control what you do" and she legit said to me today, "yes you can, through fear and manipulation". I was like...."I called a suicide hotline because I contacted a fomite and got it all over my face the other day and thought dying was easier than suffering with my mental health around this. So I'm not sure what kind of support you were expecting from me of all people" She wants to do what she wants but also wants people to agree. And I cant. I want to help her and be a positive person for her, but we dont see eye to eye. I also have a strong sense of responsibility and guilt with my ocd. If I agreed with her and they got sick, I'd never forgive myself for not fighting harder to keep them safe.

I also feel like when they get sick, she would turn around and be like "we're sick! You told me it was okay to go back to work! This is your fault!"

@catattak Shew! Yeah. People make their own choices in this weird COVID world. If she asks again, maybe tell her: “I told what I think. You need to make your own choice.” And give her the space to respond less than maturely but don’t let her, in turn, try to manipulate you, Easy for me to say, removed from the situation.

@Alyosha Right. Assure her I love her and am not trying to be mean or rude. Just haven't changed my mind.

Thank you I will check that out!