can you be straight and still have had experienced comphet crushes ? (don’t search it up if you don’t know what it means please)

thank you so much gaby 💗 wishing you the best. i don’t even know if comphet crushes are a thing either, it’s just i feel like i’ve experienced comphet with some guys, and not with others which SCARES the heck out of me :(

@princess🧚🏼‍♀️ Just know that it’s fear. The fear is what is keeping these thoughts in your head. And is making it seem like it’s your truth. “If I’m anxious it must be real” and then you get the “If I’m not anxious it must be real” once you don’t feel the fear anymore. Either way it’s all fear.

@gaby. but i related to so many things, some things i’m sure straight girks won’t relate to :(

@princess🧚🏼‍♀️ X doesn’t always equal Y. What you’re experiencing is black and white thinking. There might be other girls who are straight who relate to it too does that mean they are gay? Maybe? But it’s up to them and it’s up to you. X can equal Y but it doesn’t HAVE to equal Y. OCD hates this uncertainty because everything MUST mean something with OCD. the only thing I can tell you is to say “yup I relate to a lot of this. Could I be gay? Maybe? But it’s not important for me to know right now” because you don’t need to spend your entire life trying to figure out if you’re gay or not. Just live!

@gaby. thank you 🥺🙏🏼but i wanna get married to a guy, have kids and ENJOY my life. and feel fulfilled in our relationship. one of the signs is liking the idea of being w a guy but when it comes to real life you feel awful, but i don’t have any experience 🥺i’m scared i only like the idea of marrying a guy you know ? sorry for bugging you with all these questions haha

@princess🧚🏼‍♀️ I feel the same way sometimes that one day what if I don’t like being with a guy even though I knew before that’s what I wanted one day. But you clearly aren’t going to figure that out right now. Because it’s all OCD throwing these what if scenarios at you. Chances are if you want to be with a guy that’s what you want the end. There’s girls who don’t have a relationship with a guy until way later in life does that mean they are gay? Do you see what I’m saying? The reason why you’ll never be able to figure the answer out right now is because it’s a thought you don’t want. It’s an intrusive thought. You’re just gonna be thinking about it forever. That’s why even though it sucks so much it’s better to accept the uncertainty that maybe one day you’ll find out you don’t want to be with a guy even though it causes you anxiety. Eventually the anxiety will go down and one day you’ll be yourself again. And chances are your ocd will say “what if you’ll never be yourself again what if this just who you are” again treat all the thoughts the same with the same uncertainty “maybe you will maybe you won’t”

@princess🧚🏼‍♀️ Also I lack a ton of experience with guys so you’re not alone, one of my biggest fears before OCD hit me was that I was going to fall in love with a guy and that he would hurt me or take advantage of me even though I knew that deep down I wanted a loving relationship with a guy one day (daddy issues lol) and my OCD LOVES to use that as proof that I’m gay. Like I said I know a lot of girls like me who aren’t gay and don’t want a relationship with a guy right now. X DOESNT always equal Y. It CAN equal Y but it doesn’t HAVE to. That’s where we need to apply the uncertainty to get better and get back to living our life.

@gaby. thank you so much for this and taking the time to help me 💗 I appreciate it

@princess🧚🏼‍♀️ You’re welcome! If you need anything I’m here. I hope I helped you in some way :)