- Username
- Jessella
- Date posted
- 5y ago
If your ex best friend leaves you because of that, they weren’t meant to be your best friend anyways. You should love your best friend no matter what they’re going through. I’ve had plenty of best friends and boyfriends leave me because of my mental health but I always tell myself that I didn’t want them in my life anyways if they couldn’t handle me. We deserve people in our life that will be there through the good and bad times!
I agree. A good friend will stand by you when you let them see the real you.... including the ocd that comes with you. a good friend helps you get better but they are there for you .I’m sorry to hear this happened to you. It would make me feel terrible. I don’t think you are a bad person. remember the ocd isn’t you... its something that stays with you but its not you.
My best friend left me when I needed them most. It hurt so bad. However, I’ve had the bestest friend of all for four years now. He is always there for me every single time I need him. You will find the people who care about your mental health. I promise you
Well girl, if you ever need a friend... I’m here! :)
Thank you so much ❤️ and the same to you
Thank you guys so much for the advice and support ❤️we often fought because my ocd was starting to become centered around a fear of checking on her to make sure she was okay, so after a while it became too taxing for her since we would often fight about it when my anxiety was often high. It’s hard because in some ways I feel like a bad person and get why she had to walk away and in other ways I think it’s unfair of her.
Hello there. I haven't been on here for a while as I have been free from my ocd. However the last few weeks I have had it creeping back. A person who I thought was a friend turned out to be absolutely vile and has preyed on my ocd to try and make me ill again. She has told friends about my ocd who never knew about it....fortunately these friends have looked it up and completely understand. My ocd wont however let me stop thinking about what she said to my friend and I am obsessing about this horrible vile person and what she has said to others who dknt know me that well. It is bringing my 'p' ocd to the forefront of my mind again. I know it is my thought processes but throughout my life I have always worried what others think about me and this person knew that. She has lied and lied and has said I am this terrible person with a black heart. I know I am certainly not but I still cant stop worrying what she has said to someone who hardly knows me. I know this shouldn't bother me but it does. Is this my ocd working overtime? She said that people laugh at me and call me loopy louise which I know they dont but I really dont caring they do because I laugh at it to. But because I had the very disturbing paedophile thoughts she said to someone that I think I am a peado. This friend told me straight away and has since fallen out with this awful person. But I cant stop thinking about this constantly and what others might think who dont really know. This person I have since found out after 25 years of knowing of her has actually been a terrible person to her children when they were growing up and stole thousands of pounds off of vulnerable people. I dont know why this is bothering me as all of my friends who care about me know about my ocd and understand. I just cant seem to get this horrible person out of my mind. It didnt bother me until she tried to bully me and then sent all of the texts I sent her years ago when I divorced my husband. He told me he knew she was nuts but it bothered me when he said she said some disgusting and vile things about me. This has so upset me. Just wondered if anyone can give me any advice . Btw my ex lived with my ocd for years! Thanks for listening. Just need some support from others with this horrible disorder. Xx
I feel like OCD ruins so much. My boyfriend broke up with me because of it. It got to a point where I made him do compulsions (ex: open and close the door a certain amount of times). I have OCD in combination with PTSD so I would get triggers often. He got to a point where he got up and left me while I was at work and cut contact completely. I don’t know how to feel and I feel like a failure. It’s been two months and my OCD has been nonstop telling me I was an abuser or narcissistic and that’s why he left. Everyone tells me I’m a broken record… but they don’t know that this is torture for me, too. I wish I could start over with my ex, but I can’t, and that bothers my OCD, too. Lack of control. I also seem to have memory issues in that relationship, I can’t remember what happened or not, and I’m not sure if that’s part of my OCD.
does anyone have any tips on managing and controlling this? especially if you have said questionable things in the past or as a kid. A long 13 yr friendship of mine is ending and the ex friend really despises me.I can’t help but obsess and ruminate over what I could have possible done wrong even though they’re the one who said hateful things to me. I can’t help but wonder about all past friendships and ex friendships and whether it’s tied to me being a good/bad person. Does anyone have any advice on managing this? I try to reflect on different friendships and why it ended but still end up ruminating on my morality and self. Thank you ❤️
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