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I went through something similar when HOCD first started, if you want my advice I would first say don’t feel “toxic” or like you have to blame yourself for your avoidance or other things you do because of your ocd, this mental disorder is extremely hard especially with HOCD. My friends came out as bi too when I was at my worst with HOCD, so they became the thing ocd attached itself to. It sucked, I felt like I couldn’t escape it and one of the only places/people I could feel at peace with felt robbed. I would say be honest with her and tell her you’re going through a tough time with your mental health and you feel like you need to be alone or in your own space at times but that you still care & want to be her best friend, you don’t need to explain to her your entire struggle with HOCD but I think if she’s your best friend she will understand :) also, don’t determine your sexuality on other people, it would be like saying your favorite color has to be theirs because they’re your friends
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thank you for replying. i feel so bad, i wish i could be happier for her and support her and be there for her, but right now i just feel fragile and broken and like i don’t have the ability to gave fun with her. i don’t want her to think i don’t like her, i just need space. i feel like i’m such a shitty person and like i’m lying to everyone, and on top of that, i’m ashamed that i’m struggling with hocd because i feel like i shouldn’t be afraid of being bi because why would being bi be such a bad thing? thank you again for the advice <3
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@zeep No problem! & I understand what you mean, what you’re feeling is valid. Ocd makes us feel like that :/ but it’s obvious that you care for your friendship so tell her all that, you said you’ve been best friends since you were babies, so she probably cares the same amount for you, she will understand & yeah I felt that way too, like why is it such a big deal, well it’s a big deal because we’re simply not, someone who is, knows that within themselves there’s no back and fourth. With us it’s just our brains in a constant loop trying to answer a question we already know the answer to lol but remember that you are more than your malfunctioning brain, you have a life, with people you care about so, cherish them and let them know how you’re feeling so you can feel cherished too 💖
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