Rosie38
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ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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Hi🙂 this is pretty par for the course with contamination OCD unfortunately 😔. It's really common for compulsions to start with us. Eventually that doesn't seem sufficient to reduce the threat we perceive, so ocd starts demanding that the people around us do compulsions as well. As hard as it may be to swallow, your boyfriend is doing both you and himself a favor by not being to your OCD's demands. When loved ones participate in ocd, it's called accommodation. It makes it much harder for us to recover and puts a lot of strain and conflict into the relationship
Rosie38Rosie38
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I worry as there are conflicting guideline, such as change your clothes if they have touched surfaces touched by many. Which interpret as chairs in restaurants, waiting areas etc but my partner doesn't consider this a risk yet it says is in some articles. I've also been triggered tiday as I wentnout to get groceries and a woman the shop bumped straight into me so I feel the area she touchesd is contaminated. I soad to my partner and they said well of she bumped into you then that's a different matter, change. But yet it's doesn't matter if he sits on seats other people have sat on. I'm so confused and a bit distressed of I'm honest!!
ocdillustratedocdillustrated
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@Rosie38 Here are the CDC guidelines https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prevent-getting-sick/prevention.html they do not suggest changing clothes when entering the home. People can write whatever they want online. Some of the conflicting guidelines might arise if you're looking at multiple sources (especially if one of them isn't reputable). Additionally, here's an iocdf page about OCD and COVID https://iocdf.org/covid19/#more-info
Rosie38Rosie38
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@NOCD Advocate - Katie Thank you so much
WhatATrippWhatATripp
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It's hard. I struggle with this, too. It took a lot of work for me to stop asking family to shower/change clothes. It took a lot of work for them to not vote me off the island. I finally reached the point where I was more mad at having all that extra laundry to do, to let trust overtake fear. ERP helped a lot, too. It's worth the effort, though. I still have days where I want to at least change my clothes (and if I'm super tired, I sometimes give in and do so). My spouse likens ERP therapy to a game of pick-up sticks. You gather up your OCs and drop them on the table. But you don't pick them all up at once. You look for the easy ones to pick up first and go for them. And as the therapy goes on, the sticks that were untouchable become easier to remove. I encourage you to find an easy win today. And fill up a pocketful of grace for both you and your partner. Be generous in applying that grace to both of you. We'll overcome this most unwelcome bully...one stick at a time. I believe in us.
WhatATrippWhatATripp
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PS... I'd have wanted to change my clothes after being bumped into by a stranger, too...and probably would.
Rosie38Rosie38
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Thank you so much, I am trying to take it day by day I am, and picking my battles so to speak. I gave In and threw my jacket in the wash but didn't change the rest of my clothes. I did have a meltdown and said to my partner I was so confused because she encouraged me to change clithea today but not yesterday when we were in a restaurant 😖😖😖. But I distracted myself and started cooking dinner and I'm calmer now. Just have to follow the guidelinea by reputable sources and remains myself it's not required to change clothes u less someone coughs or sneezes on me. 😑😑 We will get the through this and thank you all for your support. We WILL get through This I believe in us too 💪
WhatATrippWhatATripp
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@Rosie38 Look at us, showing our brains who's boss :)
Rosie38Rosie38
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@WhatATripp Thank you, and sorry for all the typos!!
WhatATrippWhatATripp
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@Rosie38 I often wonder if not being able to edit posts here is some kind of intro to ERP...
Rosie38Rosie38
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@WhatATripp Lol you are very funny, liked 'took them alot of work to not vote you off the island ' not lol'ing at the fact you felt they felt that way but the way you Said it 😂
WhatATrippWhatATripp
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@Rosie38 I often use humor to give anxiety the boot. I love to make people laugh and am glad to have brought a smile to you today!
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