I’m afraid I might’ve promised God I wouldn’t get married

Doesn’t sound crazy. Sounds like OCD. I’ve managed to survive breaking other “vows” so hopefully I can work up to the ones keeping me from getting married. Best of luck to you.

@Alyosha Thanks, yea I hope you do. I’ve learned that the less thought and time and importance you give to vows and stuff the less you’ll have them but I’m just having a really bad time rn with this specific thing about getting married

It doesn't sound crazy.. I understand. Its ocd and like my story too, along with lotssss of other things lol.

Piety can be good or bad just depends on the context. There’s a podcast called theocast and they talk about the distinction between piety and pietessness. Give it a listen

We don’t use the word in my church tradition, so I associate it with monks and monasteries, and nuns and abbeys. Martin Luther and Maria von Trapp and the like.

@Alyosha I associate it with that too 😂

I guess it would mean that I told God I’ll never get married and then I won’t because it’s breaking a promise.

@threadhead And I would like to get married lol

It’s just wrong and I would feel bad

@threadhead My main concern regarding ocd is going against God and sinning

@threadhead The doubt that you might be going against God and sinning brings much distress and uncertainty. With time, a therapist and practise you will learn to sit more and more with uncertainty. Are you seeing a therapist who is engaging with ERP for the obsessional thinking? 😊 I too have dealt with this. But with time, TIME, I understood that God gave me the desire to be married And He knows that at a certain time we may say 'Lord I'll never be married.' and then later on, as things change, the desire is there. And it is His desire to give you a spouse.

@ButterflyStar I’m currently not seeing a therapist I ordered a book that’s about ocd and ways to handle it I’m hoping that will help me.

I’m struggling a lot right now I keep having these intrusive thought about promising not to get married I hate it so bad

@threadhead I understand.. Can I ask, are you in the UK or US? The Lord knows how much you are struggling and is with you through this storm

@ButterflyStar US, and thanks it’s so bad cause I was doing good for about 2 or 3 days and it came back with a vengence

Oh my gosh! Yes please link it!!

@ButterflyStar Yea me too!

Here is the link to meeting info. You’ll need to email Annabelle to ask for the zoom link: https://iocdf.org/support-groups/scrupulosity-ocd-education-support-group/

FYI—I’ve only attended once. I began taking a class that’s at the same time.