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You shouldn’t be searching for an answer. The effective way to respond to that would be to acknowledge “‘Maybe the fact that i am not obsessing currently means that it’s not actually ROCD. Maybe i truly just don’t like him. Maybe i do like him. Unfortunately i can’t prove it either way but i’m going to still spend this time with him despite the uncertainty that i’m feeling.”
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That triggers me reading that because I want it to be ROCD. But I know I’m supposed to feel uncertainty and triggered, so I can get used to the feeling.
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@swill321 I know you want it to be. But you don’t have to say “it’s not OCD” for sure. Just aknowledge to yourself that it’s a possibility and you can never truly know for sure. It might be ocd, it might not be. But you are choosing to spend time with your significant other regardless and choosing to not try to solve your feelings. I don’t know if that helps at all?
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@Nolan No that helps! Thank you!
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@Nolan I’m just kind of confused as to why I’m not panicking anymore.
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@swill321 to start-You asking me why you aren’t panicking is asking for reassurance which is never a good thing. And you really just need to think “maybe it does mean something.” And then stop trying to analyze it. You will never be able to outanalyze your brain. that is it’s purpose. Just let the thought be and allow uncertainty
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@Nolan i know it is hard, trust me i know. But if you want to get better you have to stop trying to find the answer to whether its ocd, or your thoughts are true, etc
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Please anyone.. I need help.
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I shouldn’t stay with someone out of guilt
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Have you heard of awaken into love?? It’s an Instagram and YouTube account about rocd. Some of those posts may help you through this. Hang in there
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Yes I have. But I feel like my feelings and thoughts are different. Idk.
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@swill321 I feel like if you really wanted to end things you wouldn’t be this fearful. Accept the thoughts/feelings and move on from the obsessive thoughts.
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@Enna2 Trying to. But then sometimes I feel as I’m not fearful and I’m just avoiding hurting him. So that scares me too. :(
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@swill321 OCD can do wonders to our minds. Hang in there, try to talk your emotions out with a therapist and maybe then your boyfriend :)
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@Enna2 I don’t want to talk about this to him because I can’t keep hurting him. I’ve talked to him about multiple obsessions, he knows about my ROCD. I can’t hurt him again with another one. That would be too much, considering I just talked to him about an obsession two days ago. This is also known as a compulsion for me.
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@swill321 Hopefully professional help can ease your pain. You’re not alone
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@Enna2 Working with a therapist right now, but I’ve already gone through the program. I need to re enter and start over but I can’t afford it.
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@swill321 My boyfriend just gave me kisses all over my face and was being super sweet. These are just reminders of why I’m not going to leave, and go travel and be single. It made me feel a bit better. I’m not panicking anymore.
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@swill321 But then again, I start worrying about “why aren’t I panicking, why isn’t this bothering me? That means it’s not ROCD, and you’re just making an excuse”
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I’ve gone through the same patterns. Definitely sounds like ROCD to me. His kisses were reassurance that he’s the one, I understand I’ve been there. Your boyfriend sounds like a sweet guy.
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He is the sweetest. He’s stuck around through everything. I think that’s a good enough reason to stay if anything
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OP, i went through therapy for ROCD. I would be happy to help you with any questions you have (without providing you reassurance of course)
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Oh okay thank you! Idk why I don’t feel super anxious anymore. I was just panicking crying, but now all of a sudden when he came to give me kisses on my face randomly I feel better? I’m not searching for an answer right now. Did this ever happen to you? Was just this a moment of clarity? But now I find myself thinking “well I need to be obsessing and panicking because if I’m not, it’s not ROCD” even though I was just panicking 5 minutes ago.
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