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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
Yes it is a good exposures, also watching romantic movies or romantic songs could be great exposures
I avoid those because I worry my love isn't the same as their love
Me too.....
You are not alone. We have to stay strong, it's a difficult journey
You’re not alone.
It's constant all the time. "Dont love don't love, check, wrong, without love, no love, love love love love him love him don't don't dont" all the damn time 😪
I constantly do that as well. I think throughout my who relationship I had ROCD bc I had a lot of moments I would still test my feelings for him even though nothing threatening was happening. I still knew I loved him a lot so I stopped randomly. I compared him to other men. Now I am looking at his every flaw...but he does a lot he pays for bills, he cooks me yummy food, he works a lot more than he use to. I remember back then I constantly would say I know I’m not love with him just to see how I would react.. I never got my ocd treated sadly... I am scared I am really gonna lose him this time and that I’m not gonna survive this attack in my mind... 😞 it hurts me a lot....
Hey, what’s a good exposure for Rocd? I’ve come up with: obsession - what if I’m not in the right relationship? Trigger - I don’t feel attraction or excitement around my partner. Exposure - snuggle up with my partner and tell him I love him. Superrr scary for me cause...what if I’m leading him on, being dishonest, settling, etc. Is this a good exposure? What exposures have you all tried? Thanks, sorry if this triggered you...or do I say you’re welcome? Ugh, this is all so exhausting, but we’re trying and that’s all we can do.
I want that too
I’m still struggling really bad madly... I really feel like I know it’s me.... I think about all the times he annoyed me... I really think it’s me but I get angry and grossed out at the thought at him or me being with other people... 😖😖 I don’t wanna break up with him bc I know I love him a lot despite his flaws.... I’m still attracted to him a lot but if I say anything sweet my thoughts are like you’re lying or I feel a huge amount of guilt 😭
Same here And today I have so many negative feelings but no anxiety It feels like my mind is inviting and accepting the thoughts. It's irritating I wanna hug him but he is not here with me. LDR
@nimziewd I can completely understand that... 😞 I live with my husband so it’s hard... I know if something did happen I would still suffer bc this is what I want to happen... 😖
How can I say I love him if this is happening to me 😖😭
me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
I believe I have ROCD — at least, that’s what many people here have told me based on what I’ve shared — and I really need help, because I feel like I’m falling apart. I don’t know what I feel anymore. I don’t know what’s real. My thoughts come as loud, cold statements — not questions. They say things like: “Nothing is the same.” “You don’t love him.” “You’re just staying because you’re used to him.” And even though I know I’m supposed to let the thoughts pass and not engage with them — I can’t. I get stuck in them. I try to find answers, I ruminate, I check, I cry, I panic. Everyone says “love isn’t just a feeling” — and I know that. But… I still want to feel something. I want to feel warmth, or connection, or even just peace. It’s been so long since I felt anything like that. Now everything just feels empty or terrifying or cold. My brain only gives me negative interpretations. No memory brings me comfort anymore. Nothing feels like it used to. And the worst part is — it all feels true. Sometimes I think: “What if I’m just denying the truth?” “What if I’ve finally realized that I don’t love him, and I just don’t want to admit it?” This feels like the worst version of myself. I’m so confused and scared and tired. Even therapy didn’t help — my therapist said things that made it worse, and now I don’t know who or what to believe anymore. I just want help. I want to know how to face ROCD — if that’s what this really is. I want to believe I can feel love again. I don’t want to lose myself in this forever. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you start to get better? i cant even remember past good memories with him, my head tells me that i didnt love him and i was just “excited “ to have someone. We have 2 years together and i have been dealing with this for a year and a half.
Hey guys, I’m reaching out in a pretty weak spot of desperation. I feel so insane and so sick of my mind recently, I’m completely drained from my mind. I’ve had such bad spikes of RCOD in my relationship of 1.5 years , which kills me because I truly want nothing more than to just be his peace and for us to work out. I love him more than anything and I would do anything for him. I feel like the pressure I placed on making sure I was “perfect” was so counter productive becuase instead I find myself doing everything wrong. I tell myself not to think of the wrong thing, then I think of the wrong thing, then I feel so guilty, and it plagues my mind for days. I feel so guilty it makes me feel detached and like I’m a bad girlfriend. I feel so bad for always burdening him with my anxieties and my “wrong thoughts” becuase he doesn’t deserve it, he’s so amazing. Recently, I began overthinking if I “love him” which I KNOW is so silly because when I’m calm, I laugh that I even got so worried , but when my anxiety creeps in, it feels so debilitating. I spiral and then try to prove to myself that I do love him , which then makes things in that moment feel “forced” because I’m acting out of intent to win the battle in my head. My RCOD has been a persistent issue, but this particular theme is pretty new and I hate it. I feel like I’ve been placing pressure on myself to overly appreciate him and it’s so counterproductive. I feel so bad because I told him about everything and he now thinks I don’t love him. Which is so wrong. I just want this to be fixed. Sometimes I feel like he’d be better off with a girl that isn’t such a headache and wouldn’t drain him all of the time but at the same time , I could never accept him being with anyone but me. Also, I have seen a psychoglist but it just didn’t feel right and I hated vocalising my thoughts because I felt it gave them more power - it feels like the only person I can truly be raw with about this stuff is my bestfriend. If anyone has any tips , PLEASE help me.
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