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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
Yes it is a good exposures, also watching romantic movies or romantic songs could be great exposures
I avoid those because I worry my love isn't the same as their love
Me too.....
You are not alone. We have to stay strong, it's a difficult journey
You’re not alone.
It's constant all the time. "Dont love don't love, check, wrong, without love, no love, love love love love him love him don't don't dont" all the damn time 😪
I constantly do that as well. I think throughout my who relationship I had ROCD bc I had a lot of moments I would still test my feelings for him even though nothing threatening was happening. I still knew I loved him a lot so I stopped randomly. I compared him to other men. Now I am looking at his every flaw...but he does a lot he pays for bills, he cooks me yummy food, he works a lot more than he use to. I remember back then I constantly would say I know I’m not love with him just to see how I would react.. I never got my ocd treated sadly... I am scared I am really gonna lose him this time and that I’m not gonna survive this attack in my mind... 😞 it hurts me a lot....
Hey, what’s a good exposure for Rocd? I’ve come up with: obsession - what if I’m not in the right relationship? Trigger - I don’t feel attraction or excitement around my partner. Exposure - snuggle up with my partner and tell him I love him. Superrr scary for me cause...what if I’m leading him on, being dishonest, settling, etc. Is this a good exposure? What exposures have you all tried? Thanks, sorry if this triggered you...or do I say you’re welcome? Ugh, this is all so exhausting, but we’re trying and that’s all we can do.
I want that too
I’m still struggling really bad madly... I really feel like I know it’s me.... I think about all the times he annoyed me... I really think it’s me but I get angry and grossed out at the thought at him or me being with other people... 😖😖 I don’t wanna break up with him bc I know I love him a lot despite his flaws.... I’m still attracted to him a lot but if I say anything sweet my thoughts are like you’re lying or I feel a huge amount of guilt 😭
Same here And today I have so many negative feelings but no anxiety It feels like my mind is inviting and accepting the thoughts. It's irritating I wanna hug him but he is not here with me. LDR
@nimziewd I can completely understand that... 😞 I live with my husband so it’s hard... I know if something did happen I would still suffer bc this is what I want to happen... 😖
How can I say I love him if this is happening to me 😖😭
How do you guys get past the anxiety? I feel like my thoughts are the only thing that control my mind. So often I feel like I should just leave my partner even tho I love them so much because I just feel like these thoughts are too much. I over analyze everything. I feel so stuck and defeated. I just want to be normal. I feel so toxic for the thoughts that I have
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
me and my girlfriend since we started dating we be only had one problem, and that is my fear of everything of losing her of her cheating, and it’s all caused by OCD. my texts are massive and i get worried i know i love her and she makes me calm i know i love her. we had a conversation yesterday and basically she said that she feels suffocated with my texts and my fears. she went on trip were she doesn’t have her phone. and yesterday i spent the entire day crying about her. my head is filled with intrusive thoughts. and last night i got so stressed that it seemed like the love went away or i couldn’t remember the love, but it’s impossible because i was crying about her yesterday. this struggle my relationship is having is making me so stressed. pls give me advice
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