Having a hard time tonight, I have developed a compulsion that everytime my partner goes to the shed outside I have to make her wash her hands and if she doesn't I have to clean everything that she has touched. It started as she once touched the bins and then touched the shed door etc and I'm so paranoid now that she doesn't wash her hand after touching the bins and then going into the shed. Tonight she'd went to the shed, I was upstairs and I heard and I didn't hear the sink when she finished. I know she didn't wash her hands when she came insode as I purposely listened for it. She then lied to me. This brings me back to when my parents lied to me about things like this. I'm so convinced that there might be corona virus on the shed lock that I had to clean everything in the house. How do I deal with this?? She lies to me now about things like this. I explained she is better to just tell me if she didn't. Also I know the risk of getting corona virus from her touching the bin and then anything else, especially outside the house is miniscule but I can't get it out of my head.

It really does make sense. I understand. It's truly so hard. I found when I started asking just once, then saying "okay I'm gonna trust you and leave it alone" then actually left it alone, it helped him too. He isnt so defensive anymore. I'm also more accepting when he says he didnt do something. I say, "that's okay, I'll get to it now". When I was constantly asking and badgering, he was getting mad and defensive too and it was getting toxic. I'm not saying this is up to you entirely, but just wondering if you can support her so she in turn feels safer to be honest. Cody used to tell me that he felt like everything was his fault and he was always doing everything wrong or getting in trouble. It's so hard not to get shocked, or uppity when something scary happens contamination wise. I still do it. Grocery time.is pretty much just yell-fest haha. But slowly he is feeling safer to answer my questions honestly and I'm feeling safer to trust him. Its really hard but you may just need to exhale and trust. She knows you are immune compromised, right?

Also do you have anti anxiety meds? That really helped me.

I know. I've caught him too or he says he forgot and I have to take the high road and say "okay, thanks for letting me know". I kind of treat it like working with at risk kids if you can relate 😅✌ I do my best not to scold and use all my tools for trust building. I'm really sorry. You're so strong for going through this. My only high risk feature is asthma here. I cant imagine being immune compromised during this. You really are doing so well with this. It's okay yo have these moments. Done anything you like or enjoy this evening?

You've been a great help to me too 😊

I did say that to her yeah, but I then obsess that she lied to me. She says she will be honest from Now on. Is it ocd that I'm obsessing about her lying? I did this with mum and dad too. I'm quite upset about it tonight to be honest sorry I didn't want to pm you with this as you've alot on your plate too