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May i ask how old are you? Also I don’t want to reassure you but things like that happen. Don’t stress too much about it
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I’m turning 19 this upcoming month. Should I stop talking to this girl completely?
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@worryqueen She’s a few years younger. Like 2 and some months I would guess. I honestly don’t think it’s that bad. Again I get why you would be worried because I would to. But you have to calm down. If you think you’re too old for her then take a deep breath and move on. Just respectful be like “for personal reasons I just wanna be friends/aquintances”. The situation can look awkward to some people depending on the person but it’s not too bad. Or you can say that you would like to wait till you’re both older since age gaps are a lot more comfortable in your 20’s
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She’s not that much younger than you. Even if she lives in a place where that’s age of consent, you shut even just light flirting down as soon as you found out. At your age it’s weird because people not much younger than you are in a different legal category than you. In HS and part of college, my SO was 3 years older than me. He wasn’t “robbing the cradle” or doing anything wrong, but we understood how at certain respective ages it could FEEL legally awkward. It actually was never a legal issue in our jurisdiction, though friends would tease us. The rest is now your OCD latching on. Please fight it! You got this! And you have us here too! 💪🏼💜
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you’re not a predator or a criminal since you set that flirting boundary! 3 years doesn’t seem like a big gap but as a former 16 year old with a 19 year old partner, that’s a big 3 years. my emotional maturity and capacity to consent was way different from 16 to 19 and even 19 to 20 & 21. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with continuing your friendship as long as you continue to set and maintain platonic boundaries, and aren’t just “waiting until she’s 18.”
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I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety and uncertainty I think I’m really struggling right now. I was in my alone time (self pleasure) and obviously like whenever you’re doing your thing you might have fantasies or whatever and that’s what came into my mind in the moment and then all of a sudden I get a flashback from a scene from pretty little liars came into my mind where Emily kisses Ali on the neck. In pilot actor who played Allison was 12 years old, which the pilot was the first episode I believe but in the rest of the season of season one she was 13 and that flashback was in season one as well after the pilot and I’m really worried that I might have self pleasure to myself to that scene even though I knew all this time that she was 13 in that scene and I don’t feel comfortable because I’m 16 and even though like it’s not too much of an age gap it’s still polished me and I’m scared to death right now, but I didn’t panic immediately because I think I somewhat kinda knew in the moment that I probably didn’t do anything bad but I am not 100% sure and then the more I thought about it, I started to panic even more and now I’m panicking even more now and I feel like a really big pedo, and I keep searching and googling and trying to check for her age to see how old she was in that scene and I’m pretty sure she was 13 but I promise I wasn’t intentionally thinking oh yeah I’m gonna self pressure myself to this scene regardlessof her age. No, I’m just afraid I probably did without even like realizing or registering the thought in my mind, but then at the same time I kind of feel like maybe I was just coexisting with a thought and now I’m scared I’m really scared guys.
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So one day a couple months ago I saw some posts on threads pop up on instagram and they said I’m 17 and horny and 18 and horny or I think I even remember see a 16 year old one. I’m 20 and I remembered that when those popped up I clicked on them and I don’t know if I did it out of true attraction or out of the urge to make my anxiety go away. I feel like often times if I see something that says any number under 18 even if it has nothing to do with age it could be talking about season 17 of a tv show my mind immediately goes what?? 17??? And then I click on it to make my anxiety go away. So when I remembered all of this I downloaded the threads app because I wanted to see if I could get reassurance and see if I could rekindle how I felt in these moments. When I opened the app all I saw was posts like that but everyone claimed to be 18. The only problem is none of the girls looked 18 they looked like 14-16 so I started to panic I and worry that because I clicked on the threads in the past it popped up more and I was a pedophile for that. All of the accounts all pretty much had only fans links so at that point I was like well they have to be 18 then but now I’m worried that maybe it’s a scammer and they are using underage pictures of girls and putting them on onlyfans. Which I know is out of my control but I just feel like a Pedo and like I did something wrong. Does anyone have any advice? Or have any similar situations/ similarities with this?
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when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do
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