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- worryqueen
- Date posted
- 4y ago
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- Nachos34 Nachos34
- Date posted
- 4y ago
May i ask how old are you? Also I don’t want to reassure you but things like that happen. Don’t stress too much about it
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- worryqueenworryqueen
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I’m turning 19 this upcoming month. Should I stop talking to this girl completely?
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- Nachos34 Nachos34
- Date posted
- 4y ago
@worryqueen She’s a few years younger. Like 2 and some months I would guess. I honestly don’t think it’s that bad. Again I get why you would be worried because I would to. But you have to calm down. If you think you’re too old for her then take a deep breath and move on. Just respectful be like “for personal reasons I just wanna be friends/aquintances”. The situation can look awkward to some people depending on the person but it’s not too bad. Or you can say that you would like to wait till you’re both older since age gaps are a lot more comfortable in your 20’s
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- ARTnotOCDARTnotOCD
- Date posted
- 4y ago
She’s not that much younger than you. Even if she lives in a place where that’s age of consent, you shut even just light flirting down as soon as you found out. At your age it’s weird because people not much younger than you are in a different legal category than you. In HS and part of college, my SO was 3 years older than me. He wasn’t “robbing the cradle” or doing anything wrong, but we understood how at certain respective ages it could FEEL legally awkward. It actually was never a legal issue in our jurisdiction, though friends would tease us. The rest is now your OCD latching on. Please fight it! You got this! And you have us here too! 💪🏼💜
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- calendulaaacalendulaaa
- Date posted
- 4y ago
you’re not a predator or a criminal since you set that flirting boundary! 3 years doesn’t seem like a big gap but as a former 16 year old with a 19 year old partner, that’s a big 3 years. my emotional maturity and capacity to consent was way different from 16 to 19 and even 19 to 20 & 21. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with continuing your friendship as long as you continue to set and maintain platonic boundaries, and aren’t just “waiting until she’s 18.”
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- IhateOCD99
- Date posted
- 4y ago
CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE ANSWER When I was younger (like 17/18) I met a girl who went to the same school as me and lived in the same town. She was younger than me. (like 14). I was so stupid to talk to her and become friends with her. I thought she was cute and all. She also liked me (which was very wrong) and right now (a couple years later) I'm ruminating on it. I have the fear of becoming a pedophile and I'm so scared this means that I become one. I used to chat with her, and one time when I drank too much, I told her that she was pretty and stuff. I've so much guilt around it and I feel so freaking bad. Is it normal if I liked a girl around her age that time? I'm so scared because of this, I'll have to go to jail??! I NEVER intended on more than that, she was just cute and nothing more.
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- aneyh
- Date posted
- 37w ago
POCD about teenagers (TW 21+)
I posted about this yesterday but I’ve felt sick about it literally all day. I was talking to my friend about a tiktoker I said was hot. They said the person looked too young. I started freaking out because I never thought of that and ended up finding the person’s age. Turns out they are 17. I’m 24. I feel like a monster. My heart has been stuck in my throat for over 24 hours. I keep going back to look at the person’s profile to see if I still think they’re attractive after knowing their age and it’s confusing/scaring me even more because when they wear makeup I feel like they only look a few years younger than me. I had nightmares all night last night. I feel like I’m not a normal person, I’m like one of those people that hit on teens online. I feel so depressed. My gf thinks I’m being ridiculous for worrying so much about this. But I’m 24 YEARS OLD and this person is 17. What is wrong with me? How could I think something like this? I’m scared that what if I didn’t stop thinking they’re attractive. I just want to sleep and cry all day. I hate myself and I feel disgusting. I just don’t know what to do.
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- cian :)
- Date posted
- 33w ago
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