worryqueen
- Date posted
- 5y
Nachos34 Nachos34
- Date posted
- 5y
May i ask how old are you? Also I don’t want to reassure you but things like that happen. Don’t stress too much about it
worryqueenworryqueen
- Date posted
- 5y
I’m turning 19 this upcoming month. Should I stop talking to this girl completely?
Nachos34 Nachos34
- Date posted
- 5y
@worryqueen She’s a few years younger. Like 2 and some months I would guess. I honestly don’t think it’s that bad. Again I get why you would be worried because I would to. But you have to calm down. If you think you’re too old for her then take a deep breath and move on. Just respectful be like “for personal reasons I just wanna be friends/aquintances”. The situation can look awkward to some people depending on the person but it’s not too bad. Or you can say that you would like to wait till you’re both older since age gaps are a lot more comfortable in your 20’s
ARTnotOCDARTnotOCD
- Date posted
- 5y
She’s not that much younger than you. Even if she lives in a place where that’s age of consent, you shut even just light flirting down as soon as you found out. At your age it’s weird because people not much younger than you are in a different legal category than you. In HS and part of college, my SO was 3 years older than me. He wasn’t “robbing the cradle” or doing anything wrong, but we understood how at certain respective ages it could FEEL legally awkward. It actually was never a legal issue in our jurisdiction, though friends would tease us. The rest is now your OCD latching on. Please fight it! You got this! And you have us here too! 💪🏼💜
calendulaaacalendulaaa
- Date posted
- 5y
you’re not a predator or a criminal since you set that flirting boundary! 3 years doesn’t seem like a big gap but as a former 16 year old with a 19 year old partner, that’s a big 3 years. my emotional maturity and capacity to consent was way different from 16 to 19 and even 19 to 20 & 21. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with continuing your friendship as long as you continue to set and maintain platonic boundaries, and aren’t just “waiting until she’s 18.”
Related posts
isharemycigs
- Date posted
- 25w
What do I do
when I was 15 soon to turn 16, I met this girl in a IG group chat made by our mutual friends. We started talking and eventually we started flirting and talking sexual towards each other, though eventually we stopped talking because she was being really weird. A couple months later In July of 2024 my friend found out that she was actually 13 and that she lied to me about her age. It's been 10 months since l've found out and I still feel so disgusted in myself. I had my suspicions at the time but I let them go since she said she was 16 turning 17. I was completely oblivious trusting someone I only knew online especially since i've never seen their face either. i'm struggling on what to do since i've been suffering with POCD since I was 15. Till this day I still feel weird and disgusted in myself because of that. But it feels ironic since i'm sexualizing someone that's 2 years younger than me and I waited to confirm she was around my age range to sexualize her. I feel so weird and guilty about it idk what to do
- Mid-life adults with OCD
- Parents of OCD kids
- Students with OCD
- Young adults with OCD
- POCD
- Real Events OCD
Shaodidi
- Date posted
- 16w
Does this make me a pr#d?
Not long ago when I was 14 almost 15, I felt attracted to this 12 year old. I even m@struvated to her… people said a 15 feeling attraction to a 12 is predatorial. Now I’m wondering if she was younger than that. Please help me. I don’t wanna be a p@do.
vamp_
- Date posted
- 14w
was it bad??
hi so i was friends for like 3 years with a girl two years younger than me, when i was 16 she was 14. but we didn't feel the age gap at all and i mostly felt like she's more 'mature'than me so we got along, she was pretty mean to ne thought all our friendship. she was texting with on girl like she was 18 or whatever? and she was rlly weird towards her and we were bpth making fun of thst girl calling her a groomer cuz she was acting this way. but im scared because I didn't do anythin about it sure i told her she's weird and she should stop texting her but it was more jokingly so she didn't listen probably, we could never talk normally like no jokingly. we were dating at some point tho when i was 15(age of consent in my country) she was 13 and yeah we were jokingly like flirting and also i guess sexual jokes or sharing nsfw art..was that illegal or something? i never tried to hurt anyone and all our friendship was online and mostly jokingly cuz we never could be serious about eachother cuz she was pretty rude. i asked her if i groomed her or whatever and she said smth like i can't even groom anyone since im 15 or whatever and that I didn't but still i asked her to like delete conversations out of ocd compulsion or whatever and she did was annoyed tho that im being paranoid again. we don't have contact now, i brooe it cuz she was pretyy toxic but did i groom her? ik grooming is a form of manipulation and i didn't manipulate her at all but yeah
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond