This past week has been rough. I am obsessing so much about my boyfriend. I obsess that I might lose him to another man. Or that I may not love him anymore. I don’t want these thoughts but I can’t stop them. They feel so real. I never had a reason to think these thoughts. We get along so well. I never asked for these thoughts but they just came and now I can’t stop them. I have been crying and very emotional this past week. I finally found a guy that I loved and now I’m afraid I’m going to lose him or have lost him and there is no reason for that fear.

Relationship OCD

justahintofg...

Date posted: 6y

I know exactly what you’re going through. I find that fighting the thoughts only makes them louder and scarier. But I have also found it is helpful to talk with my boyfriend about the ROCD and tell him how it affects me so that if the thoughts come up, him and I can talk through them. Saying them out loud sometimes takes the power away from the OCD. Something I always try to remind myself is that if your OCD is attacking your relationship, or you’re afraid that you don’t love your partner anymore, that your relationship must be important to you and you must really love that person. Hope some of this helps ??

iman

Date posted: 6y

ocd333 the same thing happened with me! once he understood what was happening and how to help he started working with me on exposures and pushes me to do what i need to get better

andee

Date posted: 6y

Those of us with ocd can sometimes acknowledge that these thoughts are unwanted and illogical, but, as I describe it; our brain has a hard time convincing the ocd in us of that. If you’re having trouble stopping the cycle of thoughts, try making a deal with yourself; try telling yourself that you’ll think about it tomorrow. Try putting off the cycling, and after a night of rest your mind would have a chance to rest and you could look at the situation with a fresh start. I sincerely hope this might have helped.

JS0719

Date posted: 6y

That is playing on your fear of losing him. All of my obsessions are around losing mine because I do not want to ever. I worry constantly about losing him, current UNWANTED thoughts are I must not want to be with him and do I actually want to and that’s why I think these things, the feelings of guilt take over life from thinking this way because I know that I do. One of my obsessions from a year ago was that I was going to prison (I ended up in a self defence situation with a stranger literally nothing happened I came out worse off haha and I started obsessing that after it the person would die and the police would come to my work and arrest me and embarrass me and I thought about this every single day all day and I checked the persons social media every day) and then I started to obsess that I would lose him that way as id be in prison. (I can only laugh at this now because this obsession is over and now it has passed I have realised how irrational it is) Another obsession was that he didn’t care about me or wanted to be with other girls and I would lose him that way so on so forth. It plays on your biggest fears the most. I hope this helps even if it’s a little bit x

isabella123456

Date posted: 23w

Rocd

Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.

piercethetayy

Date posted: 22w

Rough day

I have hold back my tears . I’m trying so hard to play it off. I can’t think about it anything without on the verge of falling apart . I have no self control over my mind . I’m scared. Is this a psychosis . I have barely eaten in days . My stomach is growling but I have no appetite. Idk what’s going on . Normally if I have a rough week I can fight it but I can’t fight it this time. My biggest fear is loosing my bf. I’m spending the day with him and all I can do it think about what’s gonna happen when I leave .

Justmesadly

Date posted: 19w

Spiraling

Please help I am having the worst spiral I have had in 5 years. I am doing so bad to the point I could not even sleep. I’m so scared, anxious and confused. I did ocd therapy for a long time and my therapist told me I was doing so well I needed to stop. Which I was until about 2-3 weeks ago it started back super bad. And now as of yesterday the intrusive thoughts feel more definitive. They are making me spiral, it literally feels like my brain is jumping from side to side. I love my boyfriend more than I knew was humanly possible. I haven’t lost my attraction to him, not that I know of… I don’t want to break up with him bc i love him, I think he’s hot, I want to marry him but I’m terrified that I am just lying and that the feelings never were true! I don’t know how to make it stop. I tried all night not to research and I had to give in. 😭 this is hell

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