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- 6y ago
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- 6y ago
I know exactly what you’re going through. I find that fighting the thoughts only makes them louder and scarier. But I have also found it is helpful to talk with my boyfriend about the ROCD and tell him how it affects me so that if the thoughts come up, him and I can talk through them. Saying them out loud sometimes takes the power away from the OCD. Something I always try to remind myself is that if your OCD is attacking your relationship, or you’re afraid that you don’t love your partner anymore, that your relationship must be important to you and you must really love that person. Hope some of this helps ??
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- 6y ago
ocd333 the same thing happened with me! once he understood what was happening and how to help he started working with me on exposures and pushes me to do what i need to get better
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- 6y ago
Those of us with ocd can sometimes acknowledge that these thoughts are unwanted and illogical, but, as I describe it; our brain has a hard time convincing the ocd in us of that. If you’re having trouble stopping the cycle of thoughts, try making a deal with yourself; try telling yourself that you’ll think about it tomorrow. Try putting off the cycling, and after a night of rest your mind would have a chance to rest and you could look at the situation with a fresh start. I sincerely hope this might have helped.
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- 6y ago
That is playing on your fear of losing him. All of my obsessions are around losing mine because I do not want to ever. I worry constantly about losing him, current UNWANTED thoughts are I must not want to be with him and do I actually want to and that’s why I think these things, the feelings of guilt take over life from thinking this way because I know that I do. One of my obsessions from a year ago was that I was going to prison (I ended up in a self defence situation with a stranger literally nothing happened I came out worse off haha and I started obsessing that after it the person would die and the police would come to my work and arrest me and embarrass me and I thought about this every single day all day and I checked the persons social media every day) and then I started to obsess that I would lose him that way as id be in prison. (I can only laugh at this now because this obsession is over and now it has passed I have realised how irrational it is) Another obsession was that he didn’t care about me or wanted to be with other girls and I would lose him that way so on so forth. It plays on your biggest fears the most. I hope this helps even if it’s a little bit x
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- 21w ago
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I'm struggling really hard with relationship obsessions. Do I really love my partner? How can I know? Am I really just faking it? That kind of thing. It's making my life and relationship a lot harder than they need to be. I could use a few helpful coping mechanisms, trying to move away from less helpful ones like chasing reassurance.
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- 11w ago
I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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