This past week has been rough. I am obsessing so much about my boyfriend. I obsess that I might lose him to another man. Or that I may not love him anymore. I don’t want these thoughts but I can’t stop them. They feel so real. I never had a reason to think these thoughts. We get along so well. I never asked for these thoughts but they just came and now I can’t stop them. I have been crying and very emotional this past week. I finally found a guy that I loved and now I’m afraid I’m going to lose him or have lost him and there is no reason for that fear.

I know exactly what you’re going through. I find that fighting the thoughts only makes them louder and scarier. But I have also found it is helpful to talk with my boyfriend about the ROCD and tell him how it affects me so that if the thoughts come up, him and I can talk through them. Saying them out loud sometimes takes the power away from the OCD. Something I always try to remind myself is that if your OCD is attacking your relationship, or you’re afraid that you don’t love your partner anymore, that your relationship must be important to you and you must really love that person. Hope some of this helps ??

ocd333 the same thing happened with me! once he understood what was happening and how to help he started working with me on exposures and pushes me to do what i need to get better

Those of us with ocd can sometimes acknowledge that these thoughts are unwanted and illogical, but, as I describe it; our brain has a hard time convincing the ocd in us of that. If you’re having trouble stopping the cycle of thoughts, try making a deal with yourself; try telling yourself that you’ll think about it tomorrow. Try putting off the cycling, and after a night of rest your mind would have a chance to rest and you could look at the situation with a fresh start. I sincerely hope this might have helped.

That is playing on your fear of losing him. All of my obsessions are around losing mine because I do not want to ever. I worry constantly about losing him, current UNWANTED thoughts are I must not want to be with him and do I actually want to and that’s why I think these things, the feelings of guilt take over life from thinking this way because I know that I do. One of my obsessions from a year ago was that I was going to prison (I ended up in a self defence situation with a stranger literally nothing happened I came out worse off haha and I started obsessing that after it the person would die and the police would come to my work and arrest me and embarrass me and I thought about this every single day all day and I checked the persons social media every day) and then I started to obsess that I would lose him that way as id be in prison. (I can only laugh at this now because this obsession is over and now it has passed I have realised how irrational it is) Another obsession was that he didn’t care about me or wanted to be with other girls and I would lose him that way so on so forth. It plays on your biggest fears the most. I hope this helps even if it’s a little bit x