Anyone else’s ocd ruin a really important relationship in their lives bc their obsessions and compulsions took over and became the center of the relationship? For me it ruined my friendship with my ex best friend, and I obsess about it constantly

After my flare up and realization I could have OCD, I lost the love of my freaking life of 3 years and a half. They felt like they could not be with me anymore because of my thoughts and they became the center of my obsessions. They have anxiety too and a weak heart so I really didn’t want to put them through a hard time so I had to let them go. It broke my heart. Until now, they’re still the center of it. It’s been like almost a month after the break up. We kind of fought and whenever things would calm down and be okay, it flares up again. Thing is, our ocd, or atleast mean attacks whats closest to my heart and for me, it’s my ex. God, I loved that person so much. I still do. So when things go great, it finds a way to sabotage it.

I just isolate myself so I guess so yeah

Yes, me and my boyfriend broke up and even though OCD wasn't the only reason, I wonder what would have been if I didn't have it. But then I'm telling myself, if he was the right person, he would have been more understanding and supportive...

Were your obsessions related to the friendship?

Oh no

I understand

Yes my obsessions were related to the friendship, I had been obsessing that my friend was going to develop ocd and I would watch her life fall apart like mine had when this all started. I had feared it because her mom also has ocd so I was so scared it was going to be genetic and I constantly analyzed everything she said or did because I felt like it meant something more, a sign of her developing it and I had this horrible cycle of feeling like I had to prevent that bad thing from happening. We fought a lot but then she couldn’t take it anymore and we are no longer friends.