Does anxeity bring on attraction?

My HOCD keeps bringing it up and is saying that these memories make me gay

No man. Your honestly not. You have a better story than I do. I know your not gay. Do you think I’m gay after what I just told you?

I don’t know how to beat this. I truly don’t. I’ve tried ERP, mindfulness, acceptance, nothing seems to work!

Did you get there?

Did you experiment like I did? I know I’m asking for so much from you and I’m sorry if I made you creeped out or uncomfortable but I need to know if you had the same experiments like I did

@annonymous These questions, as well as mine, are the questions I’m trying to figure out too. Your not alone on this one ma’am

@annonymous Also sorry if I triggered you with this comment that I typed out just jow

@annonymous But I don’t want to experiment with anyone. I just want to be straight and date women and have two kids. My HOCD however, makes it seem like I want to be with the same sex and making me feel and think like I enjoy the thoughts, which simply isn’t true

I’ll post my story here. This shit again HOCD and NoFap. Solving this once and for all Hello everyone. This is my first time doing NoFap and I’m nervous, anxious, and scared about my possible HOCD. I’ve had numerous girl crushes over the years and never once considered myself gay or bisexual in the slightest. But approximately 5 months ago, my friends called me “sus” for knowing a gay scene from the movie moonlight, and I have been nonstop questioning my sexuality and my identity obsessively. As the months went by, memories which I had long since forgotten had begun to suddenly re-emerge. I remember getting erections to everything since I was a child, but the two most terrifying instances of memory were when I had erections to the Incredible Hulk game when I was 8-9. Everytime the hulk took heavy damage, he would start heavily breathing, and I got an erection to that. I then found masturbating at the age of 11, to a woman masturbating, and continuously did so during 2 years, leading to masturbating to gay porn three or four times when I was the age of 13-14. It was there when I got an erection to the gay scenes from the take me to church music video. When I first had a crush on a girl at the age of 13-14, I began to get erections to only women, masturbated exclusively to women for the next 6 years (I’m 19 now) and most importantly, never watched gay porn ever again. In fact I was so terrified at the notion of being gay, that I tried my best to get out of situations with men in large groups (such as the locker room and the public restroom). I never questioned my sexuality however, because I only fell in love with many women during elementary, middle, and high school, and had even dated a woman in my junior year. Flash foward to five months ago. Me and my friends were looking at Netflix and stumbled across the movie moonlight, and I knew the movie because it was an academy award winning movie, and the fact it was made by A24, a company that I love very much. Anyways, we stumbled across the scene in question, and I pointed out the movie to my friends and they in turn called me “sus” for knowing what the movie was and what the scene was too. I became terrified and reassured my friends that I wasn’t gay, but the thought became engrained in my mind and I have been obsessively going on every OCD forum I can to make sure what I have is HOCD. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual. I would never be involved with a man romantically or sexually, but all the memories and false attractions, groinal responses, and intrusive thoughts make me question everything and anything related to this mess. I do not have any hate towards the LGBTQ+, I only respect and encourage their right for love, equality, and opportunity. I don’t want to be gay or bisexual because it doesn’t fit me as a person. It doesn’t sit right by me and It makes me anxious and nervous. I also had a sexual experiment when I was 13-14. it involved intercourse but we never finished and I went into the bathroom ashamed and full of guilt. I never did anything like that, nor want anything like that ever again. And my HOCD is taking that and saying “since this event happened” this means that your gay.

So would my experimenting mean I’m gay in anyway? I don’t want to be gay or bisexual in the slightest and I honestly just want to be straight my entire life

I get it. I’m supposed to accept the thoughts. But what am I supposed to do at this point? The false attractions feel real. The groinal responses feel real, and the intrusive thoughts are as bad as ever. I get it that I’m supposed to accept uncertainty but for some reason I just can’t, and it’s like if I don’t ask for reassurance, the thoughts and everything else get worse and worse