My partner has anxiety about driving so he doesn’t drive. People judge him on that a lot and it makes him insecure. My brain tells me you want a man that can drive... when I don’t care if he drives or not. But then my head compares him to his best friend who is the husband to my best friend. Saying of he drives don’t you wish your partner can drive!? 😞 so my brain is still attacking me.. when I got my license my brain is like your better than him.. I hate my brain so much.. I am so scared my relationship is gonna end.. I am having a panic attack that I can’t have sex with him again 😭😭 my head makes me feel ok about it but I know I am not... 😖😖

Relationship OCD

ahazlett

Date posted: 4y

I do the same thing with my boyfriend! He’s scared to dance and got picked on a lot in school and never really went to school dances because whenever he would try to break out of his shell people would make fun of him. All I want is to love him and encourage him through his process but I’m eaten up inside by these doubts that just turn into aggravation and resentment towards him. When we go out I’m always looking around and seeing other guys dancing and my brain goes “don’t you wish you were with that guy? Couldn’t you be happier with someone who dances?” This has caused huge problems in our relationship and gives me a general sense of anxiety and unhappiness with him to the point I don’t know if it’s ocd or not. I’m so sorry if this triggered you more than you already are but I just wanted to let you know I COMPLETELY understand you and I’m in the same boat. We’ll get through this❤️

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 4y

The driving never bother me completely... 😞 I don’t want this to be me.. I.. I want to love my baby.. 😭 I feel asleep crying after he went to work this morning... I am so scared I am truly not sexually attracted to him anymore when I do find him sexually attractive.. I touch him sexually still and ask him for kisses all the time. But.. 😞 if it is me... then I have to break up with him.... I don’t wanna be with someone else...

ahazlett

Date posted: 4y

@Mandy7710 I understand :(

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 4y

@ahazlett I’m just upset bc I keep remembering the times I really got angry at him... making me believe I wasn’t in love with him... I am scared I was never in love with him 😭😭 he’s been trying harder with a lot of things lately... I’ve been touching kissing and hugging him a lot more bc of my anxiety..... bc I am scared if I don’t I am gonna feel like I really don’t love him... when I love him a lot... 😭

ahazlett

Date posted: 4y

@Mandy7710 I’ve been getting grossed out when I kiss my boyfriend and I started sobbing during sex the other night and I’m so sad because I keep remembering the happy times when we were so passionate and in love and I’m so scared I have to accept the fact I don’t love him anymore and I don’t even know if it’s ocd :( ive been diagnosed more than once and I have a ton of other ocd things I do that are unrelated to the relationship but I’m still so scared

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 4y

@ahazlett I use to love having sex with him. It was amazing ❤️❤️ I couldn’t get enough of him. The last time we had sex I took a shower and I started crying due to my anxiety... say do I really wanna have sex with him? I cried so badly... I was able to enjoy it but at the end I felt like I was okay having sex with other people... 😞 I don’t wanna have sex with other people.. I don’t like the idea of another man touching me.... I use to complement him all the time slap his butt without feeling like I shouldn’t... 😞 I know I love him a lot I really do but I am so scared it is me... I have urges that I wanna have sex with him but I am so scared to act on them...😞

mev

Date posted: 4y

@ahazlett This is just like me!

7710 ❤️

Date posted: 4y

His father and brother doesn’t drive they just don’t like driving at all. Which is fine. I just wish people wouldn’t judge my partner about not driving... but it drives me nuts...

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