i would really appreciate if carl cornett oils respond to this? someone with ocd just told me that i am heterophobic and biphobic. (my ocd is making me this way). and when i told them i’m not trying to be insensitive to bisexual peop because i think bisexuality is valid and beautiful, i just have ocd too like them and it makes me act this way— and also i don’t care about other people being bi it’s only me i care about being bi (or heterosexual) just like how i think all bodies are beautiful but because of my body dysmorphia i think my body is disgusting. and then they said i have a victim mentality and using my mental health as excuses and i’m being abusive to them. i don’t know what to think anymore

Hey omgcd. I am sorry you are going through this. I want you to read back over this and tell me whether or not it sounds like OCD (because it really does to me). Sometimes, people suffering from soocd will try to attack the stories of others if they feel that the story invalidates their own experience, or talks about a symptom/reality they haven’t experienced. It is really just a glorified pissing contest (pardon my language) designed to prove that one soocd sufferer has less proof of their fears than another person. Take a deep breath. You have intellectually reconciled a happiness with your identity in the past. You are aware that OCD gives most of the people in this forum a variety of uncomfortable sensations and existential doubts. Just keep on living life. Maybe this person is completely accurate in their analysis, but do you really need to figure out whether or not that is the case? Doing so will only hurt you more.

You’ve got this.

could* not oils lol hehehe

Sorry sorry, big words. You came to the conclusion that you are a lesbian. That is fulfilling to you (even if your mind says otherwise).

why would my mind say otherwise? i want to be a lesbian it’s my ocd that doesn’t want me to be.

Interchange OCD w. Mind in this situation. I also want to point out that this level of analyzing somantics is probably your OCD doing you a disservice. You just said it yourself. You do want to be a lesbian (and you are, though you have to live with the possibility that you are not.