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1. EXPOSURE THERAPY- this is so important, literally a key factor. It is VERY hard but you have to overcome the fear of uncertainty. The problem with OCD is the fact that we spend so much time looking for an answer. THE ANSWER DOES NOT EXIST. When you walk across the street, you could get hit by a bus. That is a fact. We don’t know FOR SURE it won’t happen, and we can’t control it if it does, but we know regardless we will be okay. It’s not something you have to worry about because you just...don’t care. You know you still have other things to do and you know that even if you got hit by a bus it would SUCK. But the ODDS of that happening based on ALL the years you’ve walked across the street JUST FINE are slim to none. And if you DID— even if you DID, you know what would happen- you’d be in pain, at the hospital, you’d recover and then go about your day. The thing about OCD is that it makes you think you know nothing about yourself anymore. And YOU DO. You always have. And if something were to change about you, you would KNOW it not just think it. And honestly, if you lived your whole life GAY and woke up and found out You were STRAIGHT—- (vice versa for straightOCD) you would love that. Think about it. Finding out something about yourself that makes you happier is GOOD. If it doesn’t make you happier, then it’s not for you, you don’t have to test every day of your life trying to figure out if something makes you happier .. you never did that when you knew you were straight right? Anything to do with OCD is about doubt and the doubt creates fear because we can’t control what happens to us all the time. And I am POSITIVE you take for granted the things you go about your day doing that you know you can’t control but aren’t a big problem to you. The issue with me personally was that HOCD was so important to me. It made me feel like if I couldn’t pinpoint my sexuality , I didn’t know who I was. If I wasn’t 100% positive than I was 100% something I didn’t want to be. I felt like my biggest fear was being something I didn’t want to be and also never truly being happy ever again. Guess what? . Trying to make yourself sure doesn’t make you sure, does it? The key to overcoming this is: -Not being scared of uncertainty -not caring anymore about things you can’t control -BEING CONFIDENT IN WHO YOU ARE -reminding yourself how fucking amazing you are as a person and that whatever answer you think you need.. STILL doesn’t define you. You don’t sit around all day trying to confirm if your favourite colour is actually what you thought it was when you were 10. And if you did have a different colour you liked... you would LIKE it. Not obsess over it. —And that would be great! 2. TALK TO SOMEONE- my therapist really got me to understand more about myself and help me process the way that I think. It’s important to understand how your brain processes information.. so that not everything you think about is so big and scary and stuck 3. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH RESOURCES - listen podcasts alone in your room, write down how you feel and when you feel it and read books about the MIND in general. Not just about OCD. 4.GET BRAIN FOOD- interpret this how you like but your brain is stuck in a very weird pattern right now. It needs as much help as it can get. Eating healthy and working out supplies oxygen to the brain and helps with clarity.. I literally woke up one day and was like .. “why do I care so much about this thought.. I’m going to be fine.” And that was it. Take vitamins like B12, Omega-3, St.Johns Wort ( if you are feeling depressed or severely anxious) Ashwaganda is great too. (Please don’t take them all at the same time, check with your dr what works for you.) 5. DONT BE SCARED- This is so hard. But once you no longer care— you just NO LONGER CARE. I weight is lifted off your shoulders and you honestly realize that it’s SUCH a waste of time thinking about something that DOES NOT DEFINE YOU. I am so much more than just 1 thought. 1 lingering, annoying and obnoxious THOUGHT.
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Thank you so much
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wow this is amazing!! how long did it take you
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and did u gain your certainty back with the uncertainty
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@Anonymous I hate to bring up time because everyone is different, for me it wasn’t too long to be honest. But it is VERY POSSIBLE
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@Anonymous Yes! I still get anxious when I see attractive women, it’s something I’m working on with my therapist. I feel that it reflects a bit about my personal self esteem issues which I am not exploring, I have my attraction back to men now. I’m not really concerned about checking anything or assurance. I don’t have many compulsions but I am working on preventing avoidance
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@HelpfulHeart that’s amazing! so happy for you
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How did you do it
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please share
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I would like to know too😅😂
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Me too i getting my arse kicked
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Brilliant 👍
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