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- brhtpurple
- Date posted
- 4y ago
hi there 🌷 just wanted to comment saying that i feel this exact way too. everything you said was to a t. something tells me that when i put my relationship under deep scrutiny, it makes it difficult to connect. there are moments when i feel deeply connected to my boyfriend - and it’s when i’m not monitoring every little feeling or experience. there are moments when i feel no passion whatsoever and i’m coming to realize that it’s alright. like everything in life, we’re on breaths. sometimes we’re on an inward breath in our relationship, sometimes we’re on an outward breath. as time goes on, i become more confident in each breath. 🤍 knowing that neither are indicators if he’s the “one for me.” because i get to choose. and each day i continue to choose him.
Thank you so much. It’s nice to know someone else feels this way, you know what I mean ? :)
I feel the same way
Do you think it’s ocd as well?
@brooka It’s hard to tell for me... I cry to my friend all the time.. telling her I don’t know why I feel this way. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years now. I feel like I don’t wanna have sex anymore with him... but I don’t want another man to touch me... he makes me happy. I can name more pros than cons about him. I’ve been going through this bad stage for 4 months now... I obsessed to the point where I am numb about everything. I feel like I know I’m not in love with him... my anxiety has calmed down but this morning I woke up with a panic attack and he comforted me.
@brooka Been going through silent anxiety. Still research trying to find answers I go on here non stop trying to see if there is anyone like me. When I do it doesn’t help. I felt short Burst of love for my partner. But whenever I kiss him i feel sick... so I get worried it’s me.. I still kiss him anyways. I have a hard to interacting with people. I don’t like going outside bc I am scared I am gonna find other men attractive. I don’t go through the lesbian obsession but I have always obsessed for years and years... but I was able to control but now I feel like a lier everytime I say I love you... I still touch him. It just feels like he’s a stranger in fact even my family feels like a stranger bc my mom hugged me and I didn’t like it and wanted it to end
@Mandy7710 I understand. It’s rough going through this. But I believe that I do love my boyfriend, and if you are worried about it you probably love yours too. The things on the internet don’t help. They never help me. All they ever say is to break up, because not everyone understands what people like us go through. Ocd is a very broad anxiety disorder, not a perfectionist. That’s why it’s hard to find people like us on the internet. I think it’ll all be okay. I used to struggle with hocd but that went away. It’ll most likely come back, but I feel as if I’m ready for it this time. My rocd is hard to deal with because all I want to do is love my boyfriend, but i believe that both of us will get through it. Have you talked to him about your ocd??
@brooka When he saw me panic I told him I love him and I mean it!
@brooka He knows about it. He tells me to try to distract myself but it’s hard bc I feel like I can’t do the things I enjoy anymore due to the heat they might trigger me. I do love him a lot. I...I’ve went through this before 7 years ago... but it wasn’t like this... 😖
@Mandy7710 It’s good that he’s there for you. He’s there to support you, and you seem like you can trust him if you’re able to panic in front of him. You’re meant to be with him, and I believe you will get through this :)
@brooka 😭😭 thank you so much!! 😭😭
Totally understand everything you guys are saying and completely feel the same. My boyfriend is literally the most amazing person and cares for me conditionally yet ocd still decides to focus on him. I completely agree when you said Nina that you feel more connection when you’re not scrutinising every little moment. I have a really bad compulsion of checking for the right feelings, after kissing etc, seeing if I get ‘love feelings’ and tingles. Are any of you on ssris? I’ve been on Zoloft since jan, and major decrease in libido which causes so much an anxiety! Thanks for sharing ur experience, it really is so nice to hear that you’re not the only one going through this! 💗
Right now I feel like I know I don’t love my partner 😭 I feel like I don’t care either... I get nauseous thinking about sex with when I loved it before! 😖 there was times before where I had thoughts... but... I don’t wanna break up... 😖
Is this ROCD or not? I continuously keep having doubts about my feelings for my boyfriend. I’ve never had this before with my previous relationships and it’s really upsetting because this is the first boy that’s actually treating me like how i deserve. I feel like i’m in a bubble when it’s to do with him. I feel like i can’t emotionally get to him or connect to him. Whenever I think about him or see photos of him i get anxious and stuff. I know i want to be with him forever and i panic about it going wrong. I’m scared i’m going to end up giving in to the doubts and end it😞Whenever i think about the future it makes me anxious, it’s like i’m turning my emotions off. I keep crying after being intimate with him and i don’t know why, i’m panicking it’s because i’m losing feelings for him. I look at other couples and ask myself why am i not like them, why am i not in love like them. They make it look easy and it’s making me doubt everything. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months and it’s amazing when i don’t have these horrendous doubts. He’s so patient with me and he loves me and worships the ground that I walk on yet and I still have these doubts. They came when our relationship started getting serious. I keep asking my friends and mum for reassurance if i love him and it’s making me so so sad. I feel like if i love him i shouldn’t be having these feelings. He’s not done anything wrong and i feel so guilty for it. Is this OCD or me? Plz help :(
Please does anyone else have the same thoughts and feelings as I do who suffer with ROCD (bearing in mind I love my boyfriend, he’s the kindest most loving boy and I love him with all my heart) we spend all day laughing with eachother! I’m constantly like: You don’t love him, this isn’t right with him, you’re horrible for stringing him along, break up with him, break up with him, did you ever actually love him, you’re probably a lesbian, you don’t find him attractive, there’s nothing between you two Then in other moments when I’m not feeling this I literally could cry with how amazing he is! 😢🙈
How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?
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