So does anyone else struggle with this. It's white lies in relation to OCD. For example, last night my partner did something that triggers ocd in me. She went outside and touched stuff and then ) whilst I didn't see I almost 100% sure she didn't wash her hands as I heard her lock the back door and come straight into the living room. I shouldn't of done it but I asked did she wash her hands. She said she did. Like I say I k ow almost 100% that was a lie. Now I k ow she did it because she wants a quiet life, and she didn't want to get in an argument and not to distress me. I'm actually managing the fact that she didn't was her hands OK but now I'm runinating over her lying. It's making me feel like 'if she can lie about that what else can she lie about' and 'how do I trust her around my ocd ever again'. What do I do? I don't want to talk to her about it as she will get annoyed and hate that I'm accusing her of lying and will never back down anyway but I can't stop the rumination (it feels like anyway, until I say something to her). I do t want this to spoil our day but I've already lost sleep over it and runinating like mad this morning to the point where I'm get to g annoyed with her. Help me please.

Thank you. I sat with the Compulsions last night and I am this morning and I know the urge to wash everything g down etc will pass but what's distressing me more is how f annoyed and fixated on the fact she fibbed to me is really stuck in my head and I don't want it to spoil our day. If I can't let go of it it will. Its annoyed me too because we both agreed with my therapist that she wouldn't give me reassurance, which is what she did and she wouldnt lie about things, which she did. It feels like she just hasn't listened and does whatever makes things easier for her at the time. The Incinsistensy drives me mad.

@Rosie38 Maybe tell her that you didn’t hear the water go on and tell her that your therapist said that your girlfriend can’t tell you reassurance.

@hanajade I'm really scared to bring it up and I know she will get irritated. I told her this morning that I was up most of the night ruminating in the hopes that it would open up the conversation but she ignored it completely

@Rosie38 I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe try telling your therapist that your girlfriend gave you reassurance and lied to your face. It’s sad to hear that she doesn’t want to talk about your ocd beliefs.

@hanajade She told me before we had a joint call with my therapist that she was fed up talking about OCD all day everyday. I am still so angry about that because that's my life!! It is ocd 24/7 and the only way to get through it is talk about it but I don't feel I can now nor do I feel supported. Back to feeling that it's me on my own and it's my problem therefore deal with it and get better. But she's so sensitive lately there is NO WAY I can even express these things to her

@Rosie38 I’m sorry to hear that your girlfriend doesn’t want to support you through your ocd because ocd is 24/7 all year. Try and talk it through or find someone else who can support you. If you ever want to message me privately you are more than welcome to.

@hanajade Thank you so much. Its not that she doesn't want to support me, I think she just finds it hard. And doesn't really understand it. I just would like her to be more consistent with it

@Rosie38 Maybe mention that to your girlfriend and see if she wants to talk.