- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
I know that feeling. I was constantly threatened by other women. Even his exes. He’s now my ex and I still worry. This has to do with my ROCD, BPD and possibly retroactive jealousy. The best thing I can say is see a therapist. Sooner the better.
- Date posted
- 6y
he knows everything about my rocd and these obsessions, he understands me a lot but sometimes i kinda be afraid of tell him what i think cause its so “wtf?” sometimes it feels like i dont trust him but i do u know what im saying?
- Date posted
- 6y
I get it completely. My husband said to me at one point that he feels like I was so obsessed with trying to have him confess to cheating (he didn't) that he felt he should say he did just so we could try and get past it. A lot of the really little things like looking at someone in public (I still secretly worry about that, but I know it's just my head) you need to try and use some positive talk in your head (it's difficult, I know) but try and reassure yourself of how strong your relationship is. If it's anything bigger or something that repeats, then speak with him. If you can, I'd definitely look for some help from therapy and stuff too!
- Date posted
- 6y
what is BPD? sorry for the ask.. and im glad that im not the only one who feel like this
- Date posted
- 6y
I had this horrendously for the first couple of years with my now-husband. I explained everything to him and, while it was a bit rocky at the time, he was so accommodating and supportive through it. Maybe you'd feel comfortable doing the same with your boyfriend? We're now happily married and have two kids, so I'm really glad I told him. I only get paranoid once in a blue moon now and getting it out in the open with him usually clears it up quickly. Hope this helps, I know it can be an absolute nightmare to navigate a normal relationship with these thoughts looming over you. X
- Date posted
- 6y
im at a psychologist but he doesnt tell me anything that i want, he’s boring.. anyway thanks fo ur precious time fr, u helped me
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- 25w
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- 15w
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- Date posted
- 11w
I stated dating my boyfriend about 3 months ago. This is my first boyfriend ever. He’s been in 2 serious relationships in the past and multiple sexual partners. I’ve had neither. When we first started dating/ at one point were just friends, he told me a lot about the last girl he was in a relationship including their sex life. Fast forward to us dating for about a month and I found out he had been texting her. We almost broke up. But also for context she broke up with him because she figured out she was a lesbian. But still… anyways we moved past it. And now… I’m sure we can all see this coming… I have this theme! I think about his ex gf all the time. I stalk her on social media and try to find hints and clues about their relationship. I compare myself to her. It really impacts my relationship because I’ll get mad at him for no reason. For example we went thrifting recently and he picked out stuff that completely wasn’t my style, but was hers. Which made me spiral. Is he purposely dressing me like her? Does he want me to be someone else, someone like her? The whole texting her thing was put in the past. I’ve forgiven him. But I can’t help but have resentment towards him and think/ visualize all these thoughts about them together and how I’ll never measure up to that. It makes me think I shouldn’t have got into a relationship. That maybe I’m better off by myself. But like all of us. I wish I didn’t have these thoughts. I wish I could believe he liked me for me. But sometimes it’s really hard.
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