- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
I know that feeling. I was constantly threatened by other women. Even his exes. He’s now my ex and I still worry. This has to do with my ROCD, BPD and possibly retroactive jealousy. The best thing I can say is see a therapist. Sooner the better.
- Date posted
- 6y
he knows everything about my rocd and these obsessions, he understands me a lot but sometimes i kinda be afraid of tell him what i think cause its so “wtf?” sometimes it feels like i dont trust him but i do u know what im saying?
- Date posted
- 6y
I get it completely. My husband said to me at one point that he feels like I was so obsessed with trying to have him confess to cheating (he didn't) that he felt he should say he did just so we could try and get past it. A lot of the really little things like looking at someone in public (I still secretly worry about that, but I know it's just my head) you need to try and use some positive talk in your head (it's difficult, I know) but try and reassure yourself of how strong your relationship is. If it's anything bigger or something that repeats, then speak with him. If you can, I'd definitely look for some help from therapy and stuff too!
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- 6y
what is BPD? sorry for the ask.. and im glad that im not the only one who feel like this
- Date posted
- 6y
I had this horrendously for the first couple of years with my now-husband. I explained everything to him and, while it was a bit rocky at the time, he was so accommodating and supportive through it. Maybe you'd feel comfortable doing the same with your boyfriend? We're now happily married and have two kids, so I'm really glad I told him. I only get paranoid once in a blue moon now and getting it out in the open with him usually clears it up quickly. Hope this helps, I know it can be an absolute nightmare to navigate a normal relationship with these thoughts looming over you. X
- Date posted
- 6y
im at a psychologist but he doesnt tell me anything that i want, he’s boring.. anyway thanks fo ur precious time fr, u helped me
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- Date posted
- 17w
I’m ruining my relationship, and idk if it’s OCD or if I’m just an awful person. I’m tired of constantly fighting with my boyfriend. but I have no one to blame but myself. I can’t stop picking apart everything they say, I can’t stop being so negative, I can’t stop overthinking and obsessing, I can’t stop feeling like they’re lying or being inconsistent. I constantly ask too many questions to the point where I feel he thinks I’m stupid. I’m starting to feel stupid myself. It seems like I can’t understand basic conversations with my boyfriend anymore unless they’re super black and white. He deserves better. I don’t deserve love. I feel like I’m destroying the one thing that makes me happy. I don’t feel happy with him anymore because we’re constantly fighting. And it’s all my fault. I think I’m just an awful, crazy person
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- Date posted
- 13w
I stated dating my boyfriend about 3 months ago. This is my first boyfriend ever. He’s been in 2 serious relationships in the past and multiple sexual partners. I’ve had neither. When we first started dating/ at one point were just friends, he told me a lot about the last girl he was in a relationship including their sex life. Fast forward to us dating for about a month and I found out he had been texting her. We almost broke up. But also for context she broke up with him because she figured out she was a lesbian. But still… anyways we moved past it. And now… I’m sure we can all see this coming… I have this theme! I think about his ex gf all the time. I stalk her on social media and try to find hints and clues about their relationship. I compare myself to her. It really impacts my relationship because I’ll get mad at him for no reason. For example we went thrifting recently and he picked out stuff that completely wasn’t my style, but was hers. Which made me spiral. Is he purposely dressing me like her? Does he want me to be someone else, someone like her? The whole texting her thing was put in the past. I’ve forgiven him. But I can’t help but have resentment towards him and think/ visualize all these thoughts about them together and how I’ll never measure up to that. It makes me think I shouldn’t have got into a relationship. That maybe I’m better off by myself. But like all of us. I wish I didn’t have these thoughts. I wish I could believe he liked me for me. But sometimes it’s really hard.
- Date posted
- 9w
We've been together for nearly 6 months now, but our start wasn't easy. We began as friends who both liked each other but also liked someone else more. I made the conscious decision to let go of that person, but it was not the same on his side. He didn't know that I liked him back, and had absolutely no inkling that he ever had a chance, so at one point he openly told me that he found her more attractive than me because he thought it wouldn't matter since I "didn't like him anyway." He doesn't even remember that conversation but profusely apologized for saying something so dehumanizing and thoughtless when I eventually brought it up. At one point I even told him to ask her out before we continued further (after I finally confessed) because I convinced myself he'd resent me if he didn't fully explore that option. He thought that was unusual and hated that I may think of myself as a second option (not remembering that he himself had basically already put me in that position), but did it because I was so insistent. These things only became relevant again when I told him to stop calling me "the prettiest girl in the world" a while ago. I don't have a lack of confidence in my looks whatsoever, it's more-so my personality that I worry about, but whenever he said that it would make me so angry because I already knew of someone he thought was prettier. Especially because that comment he said so mindlessly that he even forgot about it, replays in my head so often. He's started saying it again recently, now that we've said our I love you's and are publicly an item to everyone we know. I almost found myself really believing it because I know he loves me. It was fine up until she returned from vacation and now stays in the same building as him, while I'm still stuck at home until it's time to return for the semester. She's been gone the entire time that our bond deepened, but now I'm constantly bothering myself with thoughts of secret insincerity on his part. That now that she's back he'll be enamored by her all over again. That he only likes me so much because she wasn't in the picture. That he'll leave me for her the second he gets a chance even though I know she has no interest. I just feel the need to get this off my chest because I don't want to tell anyone around us and risk them disliking him over something he's deeply apologized for that I should rationally know he doesn't believe anymore. I don't really want to bring it up with him either, for fear of coming off as overly jealous or territorial now that she's back, but I have a tendency to torment myself with misinterpretation of his feelings unless I directly speak with him about it unfortunately. I'll end up brainstorming how to approach it eventually, but it feels so icky right now.
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