Need some insight. So any straight person I talk to says that they can never understand how someone can be gay/bi, they get disgusted/uncomfortable if they think of themselves being gay/bi. But I don't get disgusted, I think it's whatever and doesn't bother me. Does this make me gay? And whenever I have thoughts I don't get grossed out or anxious it just feels like no big deal. Can anyone relate? I'm really stressing out

But if I was straight wouldn't I feel uncomfortable and disgusted at the thoughts? And sometimes I get actual feelings

I get that but I don't know what it means at the same time. Does that mean I'm realizing that I'm not straight? I don't want to be gay

@a01 Then ur not gay if its bothering u. Obviously it is bothering u even if u dont feel anything about the thoughts. We feel anxiety about not feeling anxiety and were relying on anxiety to make us feel better. It is ocd and many with this feel the same way. It feels terrible I know because i went thru the same thing but I know I am straight no matter what the ocd tries to say.

I suppose this could be similar to how I have contamination dreams.

@M H except in the dream im not worried.. so idk what thats supposed to mean

@asnow2020 Nothing at all. Dreams are dreams and not reality. You could actually use it as ERP. Or imaginal exposure I think it’s called. It put you in a situation that triggers thoughts and feelings and when you wake up instead of needing to check anything you just say that was an interesting dream. Or if it does cause some distress go with maybe it means something maybe it doesn’t and move on about your day.

@asnow2020 Maybe it's just dreams about what u have been thinking throughout the day. I dream about what I've been thinking sometimes and have had dreams about things that I wouldn't do or want in real life. Ur also asleep and resting so I dont think u would really bother to feel anxiety. They were just dreams.

I literally had a dream last night about being with a female friend I used to have and it felt so real and we were kissing and holding hands and now I feel so anxious because what if that's my subconscious telling me that's what I really want and who I am

@a01 I've had dreams of being around other guys other than my bf. I dont like them tho and I wouldn't want to be with them. I sometimes feel bad and wonder why I dreamt that. It was just a dream tho and I dont really want that. So the dream u had with ur friend does not mean anything.