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- PureOfor1please
- Date posted
- 4y ago
I love love love this comment. I suffer this exact same thinking. I go so far as buying a subscription to consumer reports and researching and comparing every single product before settling on one...and god forbid I find out consumer reports missed some models. -took me a couple months to buy a vacuum cleaner -wanted a fuzzy blanket so I spent a month researching fabric types, brands -gave up on painting because there’s millions of shades of colors and you can imagine what that did to my brain I’m here and excited about my first therapy session. I feel your pain brother.
This is SO relatable. I have quite a lot of money saved up, which probably sounds blissful. It is terrible and it is from the fact that I never buy myself anything. If all my socks are full of holes I can still compulse around figuring out if it is right to buy some new pairs. Some years ago it was a fantastic summer and I had no pair of shorts. I spendt 3 days going to the store twice tp figure of it I was gonna spend 20$ on a pair of shorts. And I wanted to kill myself because whaf it if wasnt "right". This problem is truly inhibiting and destructive. But exposures do help.
I too have a lot of money. People think of me as a bank cause I have instant large sum of money. BUT THAT ONLY BECAUSE IM TOO ANXIOUS ILL ”spend it incorrectly “ or “waste” IT. I often watch people spend MY money on themselves cause I can’t spend it on me. I originally posted the message because my family is trying to expose me to purchasing thing within a week. Sadly, it doesn’t FEEL good to purchase anything without extensive research.
@PureOfor1please That sounds like a good exposure. I really do recommend Freedom from OCD by Jonathan Grayson. It makes a claim for making decisions and doing things no matter how it feels. For instance going to the movies in my country costs 10-20$. I would never go to the movies because researching and making a choice feels so bad and like it never is truly right. What is the point in going to the movies, something meant to be fun, when it is tormenting? So I avoid. The consequence: I never do anything cause everything is a decision. The exposures wont feel right. It will feel terrible making decisions and pointless and terrifying to spend money on things that feels so wrong and haphazard. But it is the only way to beat OCD. By doing it anywayd and preventing compulsions. Practising making decisions. The book made me realize committing to do things even if what is supposed to feel good feels terrible is the way to break free and in time get to the point where those things will feel good. Spend your money on the book! ❤ Im rooting for you.
Never thought it was ocd related lol. I hate shopping because I obsess over what to buy and I end up getting over stimulated and a fat headache.
I think it has to do with ‘perfectionism.’
@ShyGuy1979 It has to do with indecision. I recommend Freedom from OCD by Jonathan Grayson. He has a minichapter on it.
@asdfghj Thank you for telling me about that. I’ll have to definitely check this out.
@ShyGuy1979 I mean indecision probably has to do with perfectionism. Because we strive to make the perfect choice. I didnt mean to sound like what you said was wrong. Just wanted to fill in. Reading that minichapter changed my life.
Fine if you want I was overwhelmed that I fell asleep. But it also was 2 a, so maybe that was a good thing 🤷🏾♀️. I just want to finally get the weighted blanket and see if it helps me settle into sleep. But I gave random criteria I swear is relative for me to make a purchase.
I have a hard time adapting to change in the most insignificant things like perfumes accessories or colors when I do my nails. The few times I do I've gotten an urge to go right back to the old thing. Sometimes I can't even sleep because of so much debating in my head ?
Omg so keep In mind I havent been disgnosed. I say that only because I feel Im faking it sometimes to get attention its really frustrating but I sometimes obsess over OCD and if I have it or not. If my anxiety is bad and my thoughts arent good Ill research symptoms or like common things and types and its SO FRUSTRATING. Its like a mind f*ck. Like you think you have this but are scared to ever claim or talk about it because you dont have a diagnosis and you yourself doubt every part of you. You like focus on it to where you dont know wtf you are even focusing or obsessing about so much over anymore. UGHH Even writing that im like ....what?
I always have to check that everything is perfect and in order. I am afraid that my things will be ruined. When I am out I have to check clothes, shoes, bags, when I get home I do the same thing. Then I check the cabinets, the drawers, I have to check if something is missing and ask for help because it all seems to me messed up. Does anyone do this?
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