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- 4y
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- 4y
I love love love this comment. I suffer this exact same thinking. I go so far as buying a subscription to consumer reports and researching and comparing every single product before settling on one...and god forbid I find out consumer reports missed some models. -took me a couple months to buy a vacuum cleaner -wanted a fuzzy blanket so I spent a month researching fabric types, brands -gave up on painting because there’s millions of shades of colors and you can imagine what that did to my brain I’m here and excited about my first therapy session. I feel your pain brother.
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- 4y
This is SO relatable. I have quite a lot of money saved up, which probably sounds blissful. It is terrible and it is from the fact that I never buy myself anything. If all my socks are full of holes I can still compulse around figuring out if it is right to buy some new pairs. Some years ago it was a fantastic summer and I had no pair of shorts. I spendt 3 days going to the store twice tp figure of it I was gonna spend 20$ on a pair of shorts. And I wanted to kill myself because whaf it if wasnt "right". This problem is truly inhibiting and destructive. But exposures do help.
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- 4y
I too have a lot of money. People think of me as a bank cause I have instant large sum of money. BUT THAT ONLY BECAUSE IM TOO ANXIOUS ILL ”spend it incorrectly “ or “waste” IT. I often watch people spend MY money on themselves cause I can’t spend it on me. I originally posted the message because my family is trying to expose me to purchasing thing within a week. Sadly, it doesn’t FEEL good to purchase anything without extensive research.
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- 4y
@PureOfor1please That sounds like a good exposure. I really do recommend Freedom from OCD by Jonathan Grayson. It makes a claim for making decisions and doing things no matter how it feels. For instance going to the movies in my country costs 10-20$. I would never go to the movies because researching and making a choice feels so bad and like it never is truly right. What is the point in going to the movies, something meant to be fun, when it is tormenting? So I avoid. The consequence: I never do anything cause everything is a decision. The exposures wont feel right. It will feel terrible making decisions and pointless and terrifying to spend money on things that feels so wrong and haphazard. But it is the only way to beat OCD. By doing it anywayd and preventing compulsions. Practising making decisions. The book made me realize committing to do things even if what is supposed to feel good feels terrible is the way to break free and in time get to the point where those things will feel good. Spend your money on the book! ❤ Im rooting for you.
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- 4y
Never thought it was ocd related lol. I hate shopping because I obsess over what to buy and I end up getting over stimulated and a fat headache.
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- 4y
I think it has to do with ‘perfectionism.’
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- 4y
@ShyGuy1979 It has to do with indecision. I recommend Freedom from OCD by Jonathan Grayson. He has a minichapter on it.
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- 4y
@asdfghj Thank you for telling me about that. I’ll have to definitely check this out.
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- 4y
@ShyGuy1979 I mean indecision probably has to do with perfectionism. Because we strive to make the perfect choice. I didnt mean to sound like what you said was wrong. Just wanted to fill in. Reading that minichapter changed my life.
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- 4y
Fine if you want I was overwhelmed that I fell asleep. But it also was 2 a, so maybe that was a good thing 🤷🏾♀️. I just want to finally get the weighted blanket and see if it helps me settle into sleep. But I gave random criteria I swear is relative for me to make a purchase.
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- 20w
There’s this one situation that I haven’t stopped thinking about from last night . So basically, I was reading 'The power of Now' which is a book that I love so much and really got me into spirituality. It’s been so helpful for my OCD and rumination but it’s also been pretty triggering for it as of late, so I’ve taken a long break from consistently reading it. The excerpt I read was about abundance and how its not about being bountiful, necessarily in material things but realizing and being grateful for the things that exist in your life now and in doing so, you will open yourself up to more good things. I understood it but I re-read it a lot because I didn't feel confident enough to explain it to someone else. but otherwise I LOVED IT. It made me feel so at peace, I agreed with it, and it gave me hope to start focusing on the good things in my life rather than the bad. So when I went to bed I rehearsed myself explaining it to someone on a podcast and then all these questions started flooding in like “why should I only focus on the good and aren't we supposed to accept the good and bad? Aren’t those the values of Buddha and spirituality” “Ya, we're supposed to accept the good and the bad but why?- so we can feel more good??? And isn't the point of OCD to not label things as good and bad? and why should I focus on the good- so I can feel good? why should I feel good? because I'm worthy of it? why am I worthy of it? because I'm a good person and do good things? well I’ve also done bad things so why shouldn't I consider that. I just don’t understand why I should feel good without it being selfish. And then this went on for like 2 or 3 hours. Like holy shit. I over explain these ideas and concepts that I resonate with to the point where they don't even make sense to me anymore. It becomes very existensial very quick. And I’m not suicidal but these questions make me feel hopeless in society for some reason?? And myself. Like if everything contradicts everything then what’s the point to life? If nothing can be understood or explained in a senseful way, then how do people move forward and make decisions, like AT ALL? There’s never a right or perfect answer and I feel like with any decision I make in regards, I’m doing a compulsion either way. If I don’t answer them, then I’m avoiding it and if I do then I’m checking and seeking reassurance. I’m sorry if this was way too long and over-explained I just need some advice or to know if anyone can relate in any way. Also, I’m sorry if some of those back-to-back questions were triggering.
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- 15w
i’ve unfortunately fallen into the cycle of trying to figure out my thoughts and find answers as to why i feel so distressed. this still pertains to the situation regarding changing my room for those reading who have seen my multiple posts over the last few days. i’ve been so distressed and in so much panic about it. i’m also panicking over my other room looking so different from when i left it. it’s been making me feel crazy because to me there’s no reason for my anxiety to latch so hard onto something that seems so minuscule. i was thinking i was having anxiety over change, but it’s like symptoms of ocd too that’s making it really hard for me to let go. SO i started thinking maybe it was perfectionism ocd? i’ve realized over time that i do compulsions to where things have to feel “just right”, but i also do that with any environment i’m in. like it HAS to feel cozy to me and provide me comfort in order for me to feel at ease. and this change is causing me to panic because there’s something wrong that i can’t find an answer to. maybe the different colored carpet? but it’s also more than that it feels like. however, now it’s spreading into other areas of my house where i’ve always been fine in and possibly to just any area i’m in at all. hence why it’s making me feel crazy because there’s no reason for me to be THIS distressed over that as i’ve never really had this problem before. and when i did it would last maybe an hour to a couple of days at most, but this has been going for over 2 weeks with my really bad anxiety being this week. i’m doing a little better, but it’s still hard when i can feel that panic waiting for me to acknowledge and just engulf me in the ocd cycle. i’m also analyzing basically any feeling i have so i just feel off in general and like i’m going insane. i’ve been so hyper focused on how i feel and that will send me spiraling too. multiple themes then start coming in like existential ocd and fear of solipsism. not to mention my harm and contamination ocd that just adds on when i’m this vulnerable. then i worry if no one is real, then no one feels the way i do. or just in general that what if no one feels the way i do. honestly, i think being out of college and in my house with nothing to do is causing me too much time with my thoughts. which is why i’m so distressed about everything that pops into my brain.
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- 11w
Does anybody else suffer from OCD due to finances? I always can’t help but feel if I buy a certain item it’ll be my downfall or spiraling of bad habits that’ll leave me broke. Even if it comes to wanting to plan a vacation I always feel like I can’t I need to save that money because something will happen. I’m unsure if I’m conflating these feelings with just life
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