Has anyone here recovered from ROCD? What helped you and what do you recommend? Was there any truth to your obsessive thoughts?

Well, I can't say I've recovered fully (my big issue is being intimate right now with my partner because I'm dealing with soocd and rocd), but the rocd is the root of my issue. I've had it for about 6 months and I can say that it does get better, especially if you openly communicate. I guess for me, I had to reevaluate what a relationship means for me, and regardless of attraction or superficial things, I realized that I love my other half. And love can be tough. Especially for us as perfectionists, we always seek something entirely unlikely and we fantasize about the perfect relationship. However, there is no such thing, and it can make us feel like we do not want to be with our significant other. It can be excruciatingly convincing as well, about small things like a haircut or types of clothes they wear, or what they say or do, etc. But the difference now, versus when I first got this, is that I am confident I love him. And all this other stuff that flies by me is extremely difficult but I'm working through it each day. It is still kicking me down, but if you can just accept the what ifs and the uncertainty, it gets a little better. So what if you weren't attracted to his/her nose today? Or their legs? Or the pants they wore? So what? What does that actually mean? Does it mean you don't love them? Does it mean you are just lying to them to make them feel better? Are you a monster that seeks kind people to destroy and break up with? See how these thoughts are so twisted from the core? Bottom line is, it might not feel real for you right now, but somewhere, there's a little voice telling you to hang on and stay. You know what that voice is? It's you. You're not alone, and it's very scary, especially if you don't have anxiety accompanying it anymore (mine has since been long gone and without anxiety, you start to wonder if the thoughts are actually true). This is a normal process for us. It is normal for us with OCD to go through this. I recommend spending time with your partner, explain OCD fully, and work on exposures and responses. Don't research things, don't ask him or her for reassurance, and don't hide from the thoughts. :)

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