I have ROCD...does anyone else ever feel like they’re constantly checking their surroundings to see if there’s a pretty girl your Bf or husband could be looking at? I can’t go anywhere Without doing this.

I ask my partner that all the time too, it’s hard because he always says no but then it just creates this rabit hole that I go down of asking 100 more questions and it never feels right. My therapist said this week “OCD never asks a question that has an answer” which is really helpful cause even though the question seems like it will provide an answer there never an answer that’s satisfactory

@Simplicity Yes exactly, it is so incredibly hard to not ask those questions (and there are a million of them) but we have to learn to sit through that because asking those questions just leads to more confusion everytime. One of my compulsions also used to be saying to my partner, “well IF you feel this way, or IF it’s this way then..” I started to note that if my thought contains the word “IF” it’s most likely OCD and I should keep it to myself and sit through it. There will never be a suffice answer to any of these intrusive thoughts, like you said. It’s just a hamster wheel

@Idk I like this advice it will really help me!! Thanks!! one day we will overcome this!! A doctor told me once that the brain is a very plastic organ so we can change it!

It feels nice to know we’re not alone! I’ve been trying the first step of the therapy where when that happens and I want to ask a question I search my body for how it feels to feel jealous or fear or anxiety or whatever the flavor of the day is and it actually has been helpful.

@Simplicity Yes I thought I was just crazy for so long! I’ve even realized that I had been checking the characters in movies before watching them with my partner to make sure there wasn’t any “attractive” characters. It’s honestly so exhausting, but you’re definitely not alone and it’s does feel great to know that I’m not either. And yes maybe I should try that! I kind of try to just step back for a moment and and say to myself “okay I’m experiencing jealous or insecure feelings but theyre not permanent they might not even be true at all, if it still bothers me tomorrow maybe then I will give it attention” most of the time the issue isn’t important enough to hold onto, you naturally forget it. Compulsions help sometimes, temporarily, but they will always hurt you more.

@Idk Also, it’s okay to feel insecure or jealous. It’s natural, you’re human.

@Idk I totally do the same thing! I did that last night actually checking the movie for attractive characters...I didn’t even think about it but now realize that was a compulsion and need to remediate that...thanks for the tips I like the idea about if it bothers me tomorrow, I will try that!