do today at school we were doing this project and i was in a group with this lesbian and there’s nothing wrong with that but for some reason i cant stop thinking about it. i’m scared people were judging me and thinking i was a lesbian. i really hope this is hocd but still not sure. someone pls help!!!!

Yeah, sounds like you're probably straight ... But also, young gay people are often repulsed by the same sex attraction they feel. It's actually really normal because our whole lives we've been taught that being attracted to someone of the same sex is not normal and bad. Which I'm going to assume you know it isn't, but sometimes our brains forget that because of social conditioning. However if your thoughts are mostly, I wish I could look like her, I can tell you that's not what gay people think when they see someone of the same sex. I first really started to think I was gay because when I looked the girl, I didn't think I want to look like you, I thought, I want to touch your hair. I Want to Hold Your Hand. Those thoughts are very small and sweet and special and so far it sounds like you've only had them about boys. If you do have them about girls again, don't freak yourself out too much. Hormones make our brains do crazy fucking things when we are teenagers and that includes putting weird thoughts into your head. You'd be surprised how many of your classmates are probably having similar thoughts.

thank for this but the thoughts seem so real at times. then i get thoughts like “you do want to date a girl” then that scares me and give me anxiety. i really hope this is hocd

hey, lesbian with ocd here. how old are you? is this your first time working closely with a lesbian? (serious questions! )

You say you're young but you are at the exactly the age when I really wish I had asked someone if what I was feeling was normal. This isn't coming from someone who is gay, it's coming from someone who was 14 once. Just like most gay people once thought they were straight, there are straight people who once thought they were gay. Sexuality is fluid and it changes with your age, sometimes even with your environment, and what's going on in your life. Be at peace with the fact that you really don't have to worry about this stuff yet. Chances are you're not going to find your soulmate at 14, you aren't going to start the first and last relationship of your life right now. No one is going to be pushing you to find a husband anytime soon, (I hope!), so just remember that you have a lot of time to think about this. Some of those thoughts might be uncomfortable, some might make you laugh, so I might make you really scared. Pretty much all of them are going to be normal and very comprable to what everyone else around you is going through.

You very well might be straight, which would explain why thoughts are so distressing to you. The thoughts were distressing to me too, and I'm gay, but I was never boy crazy before that. When you see a cute boy walk by, do you feel your heart beating a little faster? Even if you don't know him, just by physical appearance?

Unfortunately uncomfortable invasive thoughts are not out of the ordinary for people with OCD. However, they are also not out of the ordinary for people going thru puberty such as yourself. a lot of these things will fade away as the hormones in your brain start to mellow out. having OCD and going through puberty is one of the toughest things ever. You're over the worst of it though. I was sort of a late bloomer, so for me, I really started realizing who it was I liked at around that time as opposed to earlier. I wasn't going crazy when I was younger than that, but I wasn't girl crazy either. I wasn't much of a crush kid. If you have strong feelings for boys now, chances are you're attracted to men. You may also be attracted to women, but if you're not right now, then don't worry about it. Chances are you will have those thoughts for a while longer, but try to remind yourself that this is a normal part of adolescence. And it will pass. You're not weird and you're not alone.

hello , i’m 14 years old (ik i’m young ) but iv never even talked to a lesbian rly . i just can’t stop thinking about it and it’s bothering me.

okay. so, i am 23. i first had feelings for a girl when I was 13 but completely denied it to myself and to others until I was fifteen. It terrified me at first. I also didn't see anything wrong with it, but I also didn't believe that I really was having those feelings. I was convinced that my brain was lying to me and that I was making a mistake in thinking that I felt that way. What I didn't understand at the time is that sexuality, just like love, is complicated. You might be attracted to girls. You might absolutely not be. But it's actually normal, and, at your age, not necessarily related to your OCD. Even straight people question their identity, and again, you very well might be straight!

ok thank you for that but iv never had those types of feelings for girls. there has been some girls who i would think “wow she’s really gorgeous “ but i never liked them the way i like boys. like before these thoughts came to my mind i was boy crazy! now these thoughts give me anxiety and make me scared . but whenever they go away it feels sooooo much better.

yes!!! i even like this boy right now at my school and it makes me very happy. but for some reason these thoughts have made me believe that i am bi and that makes me veryyy stressed. these thoughts seem so real all the time and i really hope they are not :(

ok thank you!!