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- 6y
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- 6y
I struggle with false memories every day. Ocd has the power to distort and twist past memories. You can look up other stories on other forums simply google pocd and false memories, however it can be easy to get got up in the reassurance train. My only advice and one I struggle to apply every day, is recognize that trying to “remember” or ruminate just gives the ocd more power. It distorts the memories even more. Regular people who don’t have a memory of something wrong is enough to satisfy them. For ocd sufferers, absolute proof or certainty is the only thing that will satisfy us. Which is impossible. Also I don’t think you are a terrible person, even if you kissed a child or your brother. It would just be a kiss, and children do silly things. I certainly did. Try to relax, don’t focus on what’s real and what’s not real. Try to forgive yourself, even tho you don’t have proof it’s real, just practice forgiveness for yourself. Talking to God helps me. The more time you let pass practicing mindfulness to just let the false memories thoughts just pass by and not ruminate on them, the more easier it will be to believe the false memory is not real. And there are times I honestly am not sure if I can call mine false. And then times I’m convinced I could never be so horrible. That overwhelming feeling of doubt is the ocd. Best wishes friend xxxxx
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- 6y
One of the stranger things with it all. I’ll have a memory or flashback that i certainly did or a time i certainly felt well and great and I’ll have the thought that no i really didn’t, i know it’s false, everything about it is false BUT it feels legitimate. Then I’ve had to go back and think more and it turns into a cycle. I’ve been trying more so to just not even go back and legitimize the thoughts because if it truly was a problem then, i would’ve reacted then. It’s tough but going back over 1000s of times hasn’t gotten me anywhere.
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- 6y
Thank you so much to everyone who has replied. This has helped a lot knowing that I’m not alone. OCD is extreme key difficult because you’re constantly obsessing over everything and it literally interferes with a routine. OCD basically is my routine now. Thank you for the help, or really means a lot. I’m wishing you all the best too xxx
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- 6y
False memories are the hardest part about this disorder. I find that the better I get at treating them as intrusive thoughts the less real they feel and logic and reality sets back in! Stay strong and keep doing the exposures
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- 6y
It’s true, it’s a futile search to ruminate. I don’t think I have problems with my memory because I remember things from ages ago. If the harm or wrong we fear DID happen, it would be so emotional / or a big deal, we surely would have it burned in our brains.
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- 6y
I get false memories.. it's the absolute worst
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- 24w
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- 15w
Hi all, I have false memory ocd, harm ocd and pure ocd, I also suffer really badly from intrusive thoughts every single day. I was minding my nephew last weekend and I got an intrusive thought that I’m ashamed off, I’m now worried that I acted on that intrusive thought and just can’t remember, there’s also a false memory image in my head of me acting on the thought which I’m scared is actually a memory even though deep down I know I didn’t act on it. I’m worried though that the fact I even had this thought in the first place means I’m inherently a bad person who would act on these thoughts. My stomach is sick with the worry I may have acted on it and can’t Remember, anyone else ever have something like this? I start meds and therapy next week so hoping that helps
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- 5w
So I am experiencing my first OCD theme, man what a fun ride! It’s been 3 months and I finally decided as of yesterday it’s either stay here and get worse or start choosing to figure out what I need to do. I won’t go too much into my scenario and I’m not asking for reassurance. I just want to to how false memories work and if they commonly present like this. So I am married. We were out somewhere and I saw someone I knew. I have never been romantically involved with this person and I was just like oh hey that’s such and such in my brain. Well about 10 minutes goes by and I get a flash of a memory of an online interaction I had with them (this is real) and well it caught me off guard and I was like when was that? It was so long ago I couldn’t recall and I was like well I think that was before my relationship and then I thought well what if it was after since you can’t remember and BOOM I got a flash of a memory (more like a picture) of my brain correlating me doing this while in my relationship. And then the more I thought of trying to disprove that I had another memory (which I believe to be the true memory) of it occurring before my relationship. Here’s the thing. About a year or two ago I saw this same person. The same thing happened. I was shocked and panicked and just was like I don’t know I have never even thought of this in my relationship and just kind of shut it down saying maybe I just will never bring it up to my husband. But I completely forgot about that. Outside of these two times I have NEVER thought of this in my relationship. Like at all. Never thought of this person once. Here’s what I’m wondering, do false memories (even about real events) often occur after what if statements? Even though what I did most people wouldn’t care about, it would have been very out of character for me and also for me to just entirely forget about it. So I am pretty sure I am dealing with a false reconstruction of a past real event. Has anyone ever dealt with anything similar? Is there more to identifying these false memories? And how did you deal with them? I have accepted I can never disprove a memory. Even if someone told me it wasn’t real. I just feel like if you did something that was a little out of your character you would definitely remember it not just did I? I just wanted to give my example, but I am interested in how people deal with this.
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