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It sounds like ocd is restating a new phrase differently. It all goes back to still answering the question. I'm sorry this is all so hard. I'm struggling right now too. Also it's hard to enjoy sex or feel certain feelings due to the ocd and anxiety. I'm trying to practice this- whatever I feel is ok. Whether I feel nothing or something and whoever I feel it to is fine. Trying to practice not judging and just noticing thoughts and feelings. Easier said then done. There is no way to know what you will feel or if your feelings change. OCD is saying you won't enjoy sex forever and that's not true it doesn't know that.
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Thank you for your kind words. I’m trying to feel okay.
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@wellwellwell Hopefully we’ll both be okay one day
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@wellwellwell Yes I hope so too. I get how you are feeling. It's all hard and confusing.
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Im in the same boat right now with my BF. We'll overcome this at some point. *Hugs*
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Hugs to you, too. I love my husband and I’m sure you love your BF. We will make it through
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Reading this with the comments makes me feel a whole lot better. Thank you I suffer with the same ocd you do and I'm going thro the same thing. I love my gf and when we actually have sex it's great lol but I can't masturbate to women and I'm plauged with intrusive thoughts that somtimes give me pleasure too. I'm sorry you're suffering with me but I'm glad I'm not alone thanks for telling your story
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Thank you, too! I would love to have good sex with my husband and I know the first step is recovery. You love your gf and don’t let ocd ruin that. I’m happy you’re feeling better. Don’t let this take happiness away from you
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I’ve had so many moments of clarity with my OCD that I love my boyfriend and I’m beyond willing to go through this to be better and be with him. in the back of mind I’ve in a way known I was at least somewhat sexually attracted to women (I’m a woman) since the start of the ocd it was always like “okay. Fine, but I don’t want to date a girl” I only just realized this after the ocd started, I never really argued with this. my ocd has always revolved around if I’m romantically interested in women and not men. I’ve done so many compulsions through this year and a half and 9 times out of 10 have come to the conclusion that I don’t want to be with a woman romantically. I always end up feeling like I know I love my boyfriend. But the doubts don’t stop about whether I want to spend my life with a woman instead, my heart literally breaks to think of not being with my bf and imagining him with someone else. I don’t want to be with a woman I know deep down somewhere underneath the anxiety that that’s not what I want. It doesn’t feel natural for me, unfulfilling. I want to tell my boyfriend about the possible sexual attraction to women (ik it’s still ocd related) but I’m scared that once I tell him, I’ll realize that I actually do want to be with women and not with him. Ugh I’ve spent hours today ruminating about this after being solid in my commitment with him for a little while, I’m stuck in this loop and idk how to get out right now
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I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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- 10w ago
I am a 21(female). I have only ever kissed one guy and it was horrible and I cried after. I stress about my sexuality constantly. I only want to be straight and know I want to end up with a man, but picturing it stressed me out and I am so scared to kiss a guy I think about it and get so stressed and cry immediately. I have severe intrusive thoughts about kissing everyone my teachers my best friends and it creeps me out and then I go down a rabbit hole of sexual orientation ocd! If anyone has any tips that might help that would be great. Again I don’t want or think I am gay but being so scared to be intimate with a man starts me down a spiral.
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