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It sounds like ocd is restating a new phrase differently. It all goes back to still answering the question. I'm sorry this is all so hard. I'm struggling right now too. Also it's hard to enjoy sex or feel certain feelings due to the ocd and anxiety. I'm trying to practice this- whatever I feel is ok. Whether I feel nothing or something and whoever I feel it to is fine. Trying to practice not judging and just noticing thoughts and feelings. Easier said then done. There is no way to know what you will feel or if your feelings change. OCD is saying you won't enjoy sex forever and that's not true it doesn't know that.
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Thank you for your kind words. I’m trying to feel okay.
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@wellwellwell Hopefully we’ll both be okay one day
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@wellwellwell Yes I hope so too. I get how you are feeling. It's all hard and confusing.
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Im in the same boat right now with my BF. We'll overcome this at some point. *Hugs*
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Hugs to you, too. I love my husband and I’m sure you love your BF. We will make it through
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Reading this with the comments makes me feel a whole lot better. Thank you I suffer with the same ocd you do and I'm going thro the same thing. I love my gf and when we actually have sex it's great lol but I can't masturbate to women and I'm plauged with intrusive thoughts that somtimes give me pleasure too. I'm sorry you're suffering with me but I'm glad I'm not alone thanks for telling your story
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Thank you, too! I would love to have good sex with my husband and I know the first step is recovery. You love your gf and don’t let ocd ruin that. I’m happy you’re feeling better. Don’t let this take happiness away from you
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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I’m struggling with something I’m afraid to even admit out loud. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with someone I love deeply. He’s kind, safe, and emotionally close to me — and we’ve built a life together. But I keep obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction anymore. Or maybe… I never truly did? At the beginning, I felt butterflies, excitement, connection — and I assumed that meant I was also attracted to him physically. But now, after reading so much and reflecting more deeply, I’m starting to wonder if I ever truly felt sexual desire in the way I was “supposed to.” Maybe my feelings were more about emotional longing, comfort, and romantic closeness — but not sexual chemistry. And now I don’t know what that means. OCD makes it so much worse. It constantly tells me: – “If you really loved him, you’d want him.” – “You’re leading him on.” – “What if you’re lying to yourself?” – “If you try to fix this and fail, you’ll have to leave.” I feel stuck between wanting to fight for this relationship — and being terrified that trying will just prove it’s hopeless. Has anyone experienced something like this? Can OCD really make you question something so deeply personal? And how do you move forward when even trying feels terrifying? Any thoughts or support would mean the world right now.
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