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It sounds like ocd is restating a new phrase differently. It all goes back to still answering the question. I'm sorry this is all so hard. I'm struggling right now too. Also it's hard to enjoy sex or feel certain feelings due to the ocd and anxiety. I'm trying to practice this- whatever I feel is ok. Whether I feel nothing or something and whoever I feel it to is fine. Trying to practice not judging and just noticing thoughts and feelings. Easier said then done. There is no way to know what you will feel or if your feelings change. OCD is saying you won't enjoy sex forever and that's not true it doesn't know that.
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Thank you for your kind words. I’m trying to feel okay.
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@wellwellwell Hopefully we’ll both be okay one day
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@wellwellwell Yes I hope so too. I get how you are feeling. It's all hard and confusing.
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Im in the same boat right now with my BF. We'll overcome this at some point. *Hugs*
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Hugs to you, too. I love my husband and I’m sure you love your BF. We will make it through
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Reading this with the comments makes me feel a whole lot better. Thank you I suffer with the same ocd you do and I'm going thro the same thing. I love my gf and when we actually have sex it's great lol but I can't masturbate to women and I'm plauged with intrusive thoughts that somtimes give me pleasure too. I'm sorry you're suffering with me but I'm glad I'm not alone thanks for telling your story
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Thank you, too! I would love to have good sex with my husband and I know the first step is recovery. You love your gf and don’t let ocd ruin that. I’m happy you’re feeling better. Don’t let this take happiness away from you
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Hey guys so I have been suffering with sexual ocd due to the fact that I don’t feel that romantic spark with him anymore, I love him and I know I do but I get to much in my thoughts thinking about why can’t I feel that anymore what has changed what if I don’t wanna be with anymore I’ve been with him for 4 years and at first I think it was ROCD but now I started thinking what if I’m into girls now I’ve always been the type to say oh a girl is so pretty or I like this about her but now I feel like every time I see a girl I’m like do I see myself in a relationship with her oh she’s pretty oh I like her voice do I find it attractive and sometimes I do !!! Which is killing me I feel disgust thinking about because what if I secretly am no shame to people who are my sister herself is but I just feel wierd because I wanna be with my husband and feel happy there not with a girl and feel like a man because I see myself in the mirrior and I’m like do I myself being a man do I look lesbian? Do I act lesbian or bi? What if secretly I wanna be a man or I imagine myself being a man in a relationship with a pretty girl and idk what to think
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I. Was so afraid to have sex with my husband. This is making me so afraid that im gay. I feel sexual attraction to men. I don’t know what’s going on. Has this happened to anyone?
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So my bf and I did the do tonight (it’s been a while I couldn’t keep my hands off him) but for some reason when we went to actually have sex I was not super wet like I used to be/it hurt when there was penetration. But I wanted it so bad. Like I know I do. I think maybe I’m in my head worrying it’ll hurt so it ends up hurting lol. Idk how to let my body relax it’s been kinda wonky since OCD started and also I’m on birth control (nexplanon, since last October, idk if that changes much tbh.) How do I let myself relax?? We use lube usually but didn’t today cuz it was a quickie Also how do I know if I’m actually enjoying sex with my partner and not just tolerating it? I feel like I’m thinking that instead of actually being there having sex with him. It’s kinda the crux of my ROCD and soocd “if you don’t enjoy it/don’t feel butterflies, you’re gay and don’t love him” sums it up. But it feels great, I feel good. I feel loved and save and turned on when I’m with him and afterwards (when he’s not rushing to leave like today lol) we stay and cuddle and I just feel.. good. Not cuz I did smthn for him but cuz it felt good for me cuz I am with someone who genuinely loves me and cares if I enjoy things yknow? I do love doing things for him but he also makes sure I get my fun too lol. I want to touch him. I want to initiate. Very clearly. Not gay. I’m worried my lack of butterflies during sex means smthn idk why. Help🥲✌️
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