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Iโm sorry this is happening. But know that YOU ARE STRONG. Believe it or not, these thoughts are temporary. They last quite a while but they still go away. And if they ever come back youโll know how to handle it. This happened to me too. I cried every night. Didnโt know what to do. But communication really helped. Have you been communicative with your partner?
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thank you so much you are so sweet and yes i have tried to communicate but he said it is all I talk about and he suffers from depression and itโs triggering his depression. iโm dumping so much on him and itโs ruining our relationship slowly. itโs been 3 years with him. he usually understands me but i think i am overwhelming him
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@jbosco4265 I am not one to say anything about anyoneโs relationship, but even with depression, (I have severe depression as well) certain things just have to be talked about even if it triggers him. He has to care a little in order to understand the situation, even if itโs a difficult one. He canโt just say that โitโs all you talk aboutโ when heโs not aware of the uncertainty and constant urge to feed into compulsions ocd is known for. Because if thatโs what he said, then I donโt think he does understand. Again, this is just what I think. You do not have to agree. But on this app, we are here for each other.
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@bubbless Itโs been happening for about 3 weeks. he understands completely but i can see where he is coming from because he suffers as well. i know he cares a lot and he always tells me he does and tries to cheer me up. i get where he is coming from because since i suffer from OCD i talk about it non stop. and i mean every minute we are together. i can definitely see where you are coming from though. we are here for each other 100% but can i ask you something to see if iโm going crazy or not?
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@jbosco4265 Absolutely ask away hun
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@bubbless so the rOCD Thought Iโve been having is โam i losing feelingsโ and I constantly look it up on Google and I have constant anxiety when I am with him worrying if I donโt love him enough but I canโt tell if I am actually losing feelings or if it is just my relationship OCD because I cannot think clearly. do you think you might know?
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@jbosco4265 Oh girl this is the exact question/thought that made me go crazy๐. I looked up online seeing if it meant anything, went on YouTube to see if it was normal and that we just came out of our โhoneymoon phaseโ, so on and so fourth. Other things that I kept thinking about -TW- was, โam I gonna leave him for a woman?โ โdo I WANT to cheat on him?โ โwhy do I keep imagining scenarios of us breaking up and it feeling โrightโ?โ Etc. (Sorry if that stressed you out but ERP also helps) anyway, ocd gives us insanely irrational fears of the unknown and the โshould knowโ. Before doing ERP and learning to live with discomfort, I was just like you. So anxious, constantly talking to my bf about it, staying up all night trying to not feel, constantly text my bf, etc. But now that Iโm more aware and educated, they eventually go away, and come back weaker and weaker.
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@bubbless omg girl it is a relief knowing that somebody has the same thoughts that I do!!!! I am constantly convinced that I am losing feelings for him but in reality I donโt want to lose him because he is so good to me and I love our relationship. and itโs OK I didnโt really get that triggered hearing other peoples experiences make me happy because I donโt feel alone. also how do I expose myself to this thought?
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@jbosco4265 SAME. HERE. I always had that feeling of not wanting to let go of him and that I canโt imagine a life without him. So I kept fighting the thoughts! I think a way to expose yourself is to not talk about it as much and sit with the feeling. Talking about it and communicating with your bf is a good thing, great thing actually, but if itโs every moment youโre together like you said, then that is a compulsion. A reassurance compulsion. So next time youโre together, take a deep breath and sit with the discomfort!! Thatโs the key!!
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@bubbless okay! I will definitely try that and I will pray that it works. The discomfort is so annoying but does it eventually get better?
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@jbosco4265 Oh yes it gets INSANELY better. It takes time and effort but it will get better to the point where you wonโt rlly realize. It took a lot of learning and patience for me but Iโm definitely a lot happier. :)
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@bubbless thank you so much for helping and reaching out it means a lot to me i finally feel like i have people who GET ME
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I guarantee that suicide will not be the answer for you. This will pass. Iโm so sorry youโre going through this and I know you want some relief. Going into your body and stopping the rumination and need for relief will paradoxically help you to ease up.
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thank youโค๏ธyou are very kind Iโm glad I have people to talk to on here because nobody around me understands
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@jbosco4265 Itโs so scary talking about this kind of thing with people who donโt have OCD
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@Serio? i totally agree. sometimes people just yell at me and get annoyed of hearing me
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