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I tried doing that before I found NOCD and ERP. It was awful. I experienced arousal and it sent me into a spiral of ruminating and overthinking. Nonconcordence arousal is something that really helped me to learn about. And that humans are naturally aroused by sexual content, even if the mind isn’t.
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I hate it. It’s just a girl taking a topless selfie why does that turn me on I hate it so much. I just want to stop this all.
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@wellwellwell I completely understand. I hated it too. Part of the reason it’s happening is because this is what your OCD theme is. It has latched onto this and it will heighten your responses to sexual content, specifically of the same sex. It makes you hyper aware of things that you never would have really noticed it. It’s all a part of the physical OCD stress response.
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i’ve been there. i was addicted to lesbian porn for idk how many years and still i feel like i get equally aroused by lesbian fantasies and sex with my man. whenever i have a sexual fantasy with my boyfriend i tend to cry a lot afterwards.
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I don’t get aroused by sex with my husband I just cry
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@wellwellwell you’re just so stressed out honey it’s not a big deal i’ve been there
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@Bryan I hate that some random picture of a girl turned me on
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@wellwellwell lesbian fantasies (not about girls i know) turn me on and i think the best thing is to accept it turned you on and just observe your feelings. that’s how i got over the hump of being in denial about masturbating to lesbian fantasies even if they aren’t voluntary. not saying YOURE in denial about anything i hope you understand what i’m saying lol
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@Bryan I don’t want to lay with my husband feeling this way
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@Bryan I want to be okay with it I don’t like when the girls have faces that weirds me out I just feel gross
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@Bryan Thank you for your kindness @Bryan
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@holley what do you mean by lesbian fantasies? like just masturbating to womens bodies or like fantasizing about actually having sex with them?
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@lolashewas I can only speak for myself in that sexualized images of women do elicit arousal for me, but no I don’t have fantasies about being with women.
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@lolashewas both
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@holley but it’s not a woman i know in real life it’s just imaginary unknown woman
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Don’t check. It makes it worse. Please, whatever you do. Are you working with a therapist?
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Yes I’ll be seeing him again on the 5th
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@wellwellwell Good! I would say don’t do anything to check. That is a compulsion. I got myself stuck checking gay porn. First time I was super stressed out and very very turned off. Not much has changed, but my head is all foggy and I can’t tell anymore. I just want to be with my gf, but it is tough.
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@nGfloat I’m just concerned bc I wasn’t turned off which i wish I was
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I have been doing okay for the past week or so and was really happy i felt that i was getting back on track, but today i went on tiktok and i saw something triggering which was “i thought i was a lesbian for 4 years until i met my now boyfriend” and it triggered me very badly, i have been crying all day and i can’t seem to make myself feel okay. i feel like im lying to myself that im not lesbian and i truly want men, but when i get any thought about men it feels disgusting and wrong and not me, i don’t want men i feel so sick i want to get out of this. i always felt so happy as a lesbian im so stuck i don’t want to be with a man. i have a loving girlfriend i just want to be happy with her.
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I’m like 90% sure I’m just bi, more romantically inclined to men, mainly my bf who I wanna marry. But now my brain is like “if you lean into liking women or keep circling and circling for answers you’ll lose all attraction to men and your bf. You’re practically already a lesbian” I feel so tense and anxious I will admit I am talking to chat gpt out of desperation I’m scared of losing all attraction to him I don’t wanna be thinking about women. I don’t unless I’m really stressed cuz when I’m stressed my ocd can take advantage of that I can usually ground myself when I’m in the city with him but I’m back home for most of the summer and I can’t be physically close to him which usually reminds me that hey this is real this is what I really want in life. Him But then I panic and question I haven’t been here in a while tbh. I’m worried I don’t feel enough. I don’t like magic Mike all that much, I like softer guys. But now the fact I don’t like/get turned on by random men on tv but do women in lingerie really stresses me out and makes me worry I’m truly a lesbian but I’m not. Once I started getting to know my bf and my ex bf’s I really did truly genuinely like them and wanted to make out and everything. Idk can anyone relate to the not liking big buff men All my brain is repeating rn is “when he dies you’ll be able to date a woman, when you break up you’ll only wanna date women” and it’s stressing me out. It’s making me nauseous. I was doing well for about a couple days after I initially left but being at home has been so incredibly draining This might give you a vision of how stressful home is: I’ve been on nexplanon for 7 months ish? Only had very minimal spotting during a stressful school period. Today: fully bleeding, like a usual period. I haven’t had my period since having it put in. I wanna go back to my bf so badly rn. I’m so worried I’m faking or don’t feel enough. I’m learning what a healthy relationship looks like and I’m terrified I’m gonna up and leave him when we’re older cuz I’ll finally figure out that I’m a lesbian or smthn. Idk. Someone pls just help me out a tad
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I keep seeing tiktoks of things that are like ‘things I did as a lesbian in denial’ or ‘things my not so straight straight friend said’ and I feel like I might relate to some!! But idk!! It’s kinda triggering me. I’ve had this 5 years on and off now so when it comes back the whole well you’ve had it so long you must be gay comes up. I have been with my boyfriend almost 6 years and i love him so much I don’t want to be gay (nothing weong with it - I’m just not and don’t want to be!)
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