- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 4y
P.s. If you feel urgently anxiously fearfully compelled to think about something, IT IS OCD. If your body and mind feel as though they're in imminent danger, you are obsessing. Don't forget this, resisting the urge to know and be sure starts with becoming aware of how your body tries to signal that you're in mortal peril.
Wow this is so nice to read. I’m really happy for you and your progress. I feel exactly in the same boat, I’ve been avoiding my partner out of fear of fixating on flaws. It’s such a living hell. I look at old pics and cry alone, I don’t understand how my life came to this! I have a question If you think of your fear, then your brain plays a movie of all the times you had that fear throughout the years and then you’re convinced you don’t have OCD and you just never liked your partner, is that OCD? Ugh, I sound crazy Anyway congratulations on this big step. I know the pain.
I promise you, if you feel urgently anxiously compelled to tunnel on things and Be Sure, it is OCD. You have to trust fall into the assumption that fixating on something about your partner repeatedly is ocd. But then you have to tunnel and intentionally say "yep, it might have always been this way and we might not be meant to be after all. It's possible." agree with the possibility that your horrible fears are true. The only way out is through, and getting through requires making peace with the possibility that ALL YOUR FEARS ARE REAL. Once I did this, I started to feel actual remorse and sadness instead of just fear at the possibility that I'd done wrong or was right or things were doomed.
@Ketaqueen Wow, thank you for this thoughtful answer....yes, I definitely recognize that I’m tunneling on things when my mind goes back years for “evidence”....it’s crazy...it HAS to be OCD, I never used to do this. Thank you for clarifying that. Actually reading your sentiment about accepting the possibility that all my fears may be real was really liberating. Ok, my partner has these flaws. What will you do now? The ball is back in my court. I see how anxiety and ocd truly are just fear. It’s just fear. All of it. Thank you again. Please post again if you have more to share later on.
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