anyone else laugh at how silly their thoughts are and then get hit in the face with them and get anxiety the day after ? 🙄🙄

i’m gonna give you some advice. no matter how real they feel, you don’t have to do them. they are just thoughts, just a fart cloud. it won’t manifest unless you want it to and it’s clear you don’t. so try your best not to let them get to you. stay strong lovely ❤️

@Anonymous i can’t tell if i do or not i just know it would hurt to lose my boyfriend if i was bi and wanted to experiment it wouldn’t hurt right?😭

@holley i truly truly understand how you feel, i was in your position. the only thing you can do is accept the uncertainty of whether or not you do wanna do it. whenever any thought comes, let it be there, don’t respond or try not to freak out. laugh at it even, say “haha ocd you’re hilarious for saying that.” or say “maybe i do____, maybe i don’t _____, i’m never gonna find out and i don’t need to. “

@Anonymous it’s hard to do. and i scarred my brain for life with lesbian porn and now i orgasm faster to those fantasies than anything with my boyfriend. this happens sometimes and it just is hard to accept

@holley you have to do your best, it’s the only way out.

@Anonymous i just keep ruminating like i read that a person in denial has same sex fantasies but i do and you do but i get upset after and i just keep saying to myself “i’m bi” but i feel nothing at all.

@holley i think you stop looking things up cause it’s clearly not helping and it’s a compulsion. so it won’t help you.

@Anonymous do you still have fantasies of that stuff?? i feel so alone and have no one to talk to😭

@holley no because i stopped maturbating and watching porn. but when i have sex with boyfriend i get thoughts, i don’t let them bother me though, i just let them be. and i think you need to do the same.

@Anonymous so if you did masturabte you would probably have the fantasies?? oh noooo that means you don’t even find that arousing anymore😭😭😭

@holley and i do find that arousing still even if i didn’t masturbate for awhile i would still have those fantasies

@holley i mean whenever they come, they do arouse me but i don’t put too much meaning to them. it’s just my imagination.

@Anonymous i’m crying hard because i was scared that i didn’t relate to you anymore and i got scared i’m sorry and that happens to me too

@holley if i fantasize about that stuff with my boyfriend i just feel sad and depressed and cry afterwards but can’t stop crying about it

@holley when you do have sex with your boyfriend and these images and thoughts come, let them be and try not to let them phase you.

@Anonymous i just have the urge to think of it when i’m with him but i don’t want to at the same time. when i do think of that stuff i just cry because i feel like i am betraying him

@holley i understand but try your best not to let them get to you and completely cut out compulsions.

@Anonymous i feel bad i constantly ask you questions i just want to be able to relate to someone and i do i just worry a lot and a lot

@holley no don’t feel bad. i’m trying to help you, and try your best not to worry.

@Anonymous do you have the fantasies when you’re with your boyfriend? bc when i do i come faster but if i don’t it takes me longer😭

@holley you’re asking for reassurance and i already answered the question lmao. try your best not to seek reassurance it doesn’t help.

@Anonymous i’m gonna try my best to just accept the thoughts

@holley it’s the only way out. otherwise you’ll be in never-ending pain and stress.